Need help pleeeeease!

My boyfriend is seeign dejavu of a bad relationship with me. He says his ex girlfriend was my age, was like me, and said the exactly the same things im saying...and he thinks the relationship is going to end up the same...she cheated on him and broke his heart. Im not like that at all and I tell him that but he doesn't listen...i love him so much and i dont know what to do

are you sure he really saw that, or is he just full of crap... that seems like a cop out for something... he doesn't seem to have much common sense...I'm sorry, but if he really doesn't believe you, then that's not your fault, it's his! hope everything works out for you! Ciao xx

If here waht listen MAKE him .sit down and you both talk about it.I know what your going though my ex cheated on me and I forgave him..give me a minute.. then he broke my heart b/c he didn't want to get in trouble with his mommy.I think he's was a mommas boy in the first place.but now I got someone I can trust and they trust me.My current boyfriend has been in the sorta same situation.
Girl you don't need a mommas boy trust me.They are a waste of your time.

Take it from a guy..

If a girl were to ever cheat on us, we take that as the biggest hurt possible. To recover from that, is one of the hardest things to do. He is just scared that you will end up doing what his ex did. You can't help that. You can tell him you're not like that, but he will still hesitate.

Belinda..

no offence or anything, but picking your mother over a girl, is the smartest thing you can do. If a guy treats his mother well, he will end up treating his girlfriend well. A mother-son relationship, is as close as some guys will get being with a girl, and that's how they learn to handle a real relationship. If they are close with their mom's, they will be able to have a good relationship with another girl. If it isn't, then there'll be a bit of trouble.

Family comes first.. so being a mommas boy isn't a bad thing.. I know you're hurt from what he did to you.. but you shouldnt disresect a family relationship..

look
I'm not downing you or anything.Maybe all guys
are not he same but My ex is a dick head. Your not one unless you do or done what my ex done to me.
I'm not disrepecting a family relationship.I actually repected him for being so close to his mom.But sometimes you gotta look at the world at another angle. Dang you might the greatest guy in the world and the person next to you might end up having a bad relationship. There are mommas boys that will respect a girl and then there are other jerks out there who have no dang repect.
depends on how mature they are lets leave it at that!!!!!!!!!!!!

All lads are different. And i agree fully with Darien. I'm close to my mother and in turn i'm very close with my fiancee but i don't think i would have been half as close with her if it wasn't for how i was raised.
And it's not a 'maybe all guys are not the same', but 'all guys are 'not' the same'.
Just like all girls are not the same
Peace.

I agree with Darien and Marcus. Totally.

it sounds like he is really worried about the relationship going pear shaped, you just have to find a way to ressure him that, that isnt going to happen as i doubt it will by the sound of things you really love him which i think is really sweet!!! he doesnt want to be left broken hearted again which i guess everone doesnt really just keep doing what your doing just dont go breakong his heart takecare mel xxx

hes insecure. its not your fault that hes that way. theres nothing you can do except for sitting him down and talking with him.

if you were me though id probably not wanna deal with someone insecure. but i understand if you love the guy. i hate negative situations, and if i find myself in one i get out quick. but thats just me, i know a lotta people would disagree. i love being happy, and you wont find me with someone who doesnt make me happy; ive learned A LOT from previous relationships. its just no good if your with someone insecure. sorry im rambling, if you love him then talk to him about it.

(and im not saying he doesnt make you happy, he just may as well be. but does the insecurity make you happy? doubt it. talk to him)

hes either afraid of what is to come.
cant accept the truth
still likes that other girl even tho she cheated
or is putting a wall up and saying that your like her so he doesnt have to get emotionally atteched...

you have to show him and tell him.. even if you cry a little.

and if he still doesnt lsiten.. hes not worth it.

I don't believe you have to be close to your mother to have fulfilling relationships. I agree that your point has validity, but it is not absolute. I have never been 'close' with my mother and have longlasting, trustful relationships.

My age has no affect on my love life. Some of us 'are' mature enough to have meaningful relationships at a young age.

OK OK>I didn't know I was going to get hassled for giving my opinion.To me he seems inscure about how he fells.