first time lovey situation..

So, what do you do when a guy says he likes you, thinks you're beautiful and wants to get to know you better... besides point out the fact that you've only known each other for 5 hours.... ?

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Well.....maybe give him your number so you guys can set up dates to hang out and get to know eachother better.......and dont date him unless you feel a good connection..........Thats always the best way in that type of situation

If you want to, then LET him get to know you better. You don't need to rush things, but if you just met him then getting to know him is probably the best course to take. Just see what happens.

We talked over msn and he says he really likes me, wants to get to know me better... he doesn't really know english, so he likely doesn't know the strength of those words, but when he said goodbye he wrote "I love you"...
So, a guy that proclaims so much love and what not after knowing me for such a short time, is he the type of guy that breaks off just as quickly..?

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Hmm ... Just be on guard . Since he doesn`t really know English . There`s a guy that told me he`s falling for me after only like 4 hours . I don`t trust it . But now he`s just openin` up and all . So idk , he might be the type to fall fast ? But idk about the breaking it off . Maybeee .
..__MiNDYY

I'm scared. He also said "hey, can we get together.."
he seems to think I'm ladylike and beautiful and a really nice person, or so he says, and he asks "do you think that we could be something" and stuff like that. It's difficult because I've never had anything like this ever happen... I've never dated anyone, or kissed anyone, so it's really weird.
I'm 13 and he's 15... that's an ok age isn't it?
I'm scared... :-S

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yeah i strongly agree with just being on guard a little... somtimes people can just say stuff without thinking what it may mean to the person they r saying it to (if that makes any sense to any1 other then me) but i wish u the best of luck in any desicion that u come to....

LJ

P.S. 15 - 13 = 2 so thats not too much i mean im 17 and my bf is 20 and we are inlove... age is just a number maturity and honesty is the most important thing in a relationship

give him your number!!!

Just take things slow, don't let it go any further until you are completely comfortable, and he should understand that.

As for the age, 15 and 13 is a hard thing to judge. As long as you are okay with it then it shouldn't matter. You don't come across as the kind of girl who falls blindly into relationships with older guys just to be taken advantage of.

So keep your guard up a little maybe, and have fun. Good luck.

You need to give him ur fone number, e-mail address, your myspace, your anything! He said he wants to get to know you not like have sex with you, so its not a big deal..just get to know him.

I simply feel confused, that he doesn't know me, and he thinks he really loves me, or something... I have a horrible memory for faces, so I can't really picture his face very clearly in my mind..
Oh, if boys were shy again, and people took relationships slowly, with a lot of very shy remarks.. it would be so much simpler. Right now, I don't know WHAT he wants.. I mean he straight out says can we date as soon as we know each other better?
I'm afraid I haven't got an answer for that. I guess I'll just let us make a step towards frienship, and then maybe leave the love part in the background for now, and not bring it up for a long time...
I've never felt this insecure :-S

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ummm weird..

xxleisaxx

I've been trying to tell him that all I want is to be friends... definitely nothing more. I promised myself a while ago that I wasn't going to date until I was 15...
Well, if he really likes me that much, he'll wait two years. And if he doesn't then I know that he just wanted a temporary replacement for his last girl.

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well you may want to wait to date until your 15 but here is a question for you. do you know where he lives? who he is? just some hints dont try meeting him if you dont know him ok? maybe he does want to be with you only if you told him about your self. usually when you hardly know someone they only say things like your beautiful and stuff like that to get you to meet them. another hint is if you meet him then be sure its in a public place and take a friend with you or some thing.

I agree with ^^^
Be careful hun. You hear so many stories about people on the net. Take care xx

I know the street that he lives in, and we have met and talked in person... and yeah, I would only agree to go out with him on a really casual date and definitely with my sister, and if possible with more people.
Actually, I would like it if he realized that I do not want to date him, and do not have feelings for him.. but he is very.. persistant. Anyway, time will tell, and meanwhile I will take every precaution possible.

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so tell him.

if you're absolutely sure you don't want to date him for years, then don't. if i was you i would date him, but then i suppose i am closer to fifteen then you are. still, if you think he'd be a good friend, but just don't want him as more than that tell him. he'll understand.

chat a little bit....then when you ready give him you # and talk a little here and there.Go out and enjoy the date and have fun and then see where all wanna go from there.
JUST TAKE YOUR TIME!

baby girl, haha, if you don't want to be more than friends with him, then don't be. Let him know though, if you're sure that's how you feel. IF you're not sure, and you are considering dating him eventually, then get to know him better but keep your gaurd up. I do however believe that a guy who develops feelings quickly, loses them quickly. Would you really want to date a guy who doesn't speak english that well anyway? Think about it. It would be hard to have any deep conversations with him. Good luck, I think you'll do what's best for you

Daenyres: Yes, I have come to the conclusion that his mad crush will fade just as quickly as it began, which is why I am hesitant to do more than exchange phone numbers... about the language, he's Chilean, and his english is, well, the English he learned in school. But I've been talking Spanish for 10 years, so I THINK we're relatively equipped to have a conversation. It's nice that my dad is a weightlifter, and he is a bodybuilder, we have both danced (I still dance) and like animals a lot, especially cats and dogs... the problem is that although I don't mind him as a friend, I really don't want to get my feelings played with because he thought he loved me.
Well, I'm going to enforce that we're just friends for now, and hope that he respects that decision.
If he doesn't then I get an ample look at his real personality, as it is ;-)

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