anyone need to get a relationship problem off thur chest?

i kno it sucks bein in bad and abusive relationships i had noone to talk to i felt alone so now i want to be there for everyone else who needs to talk...

thats nice of you!!!

thanks but i just hate feeling alone like noone is out there that cares i was too the point of not wanting to wakeup....

ill just say this the girl that i love and she said she loves me bak she wont stop playing with my heart and it hurts so bad

that gurl obviously dont love you she loves playin around with ur heart so dont let her be in control i kno it hurts and its not easy to go through

well theirs this boy that i was dateing for a year, then i moved in with hima nd about a month later he dumped me, but i still lived with him for about 7 months after that, then after about 3 months of living there he starting getting verbally abusive, then phsycal i love him and want him back , but im scared what should i do?

i am going to tell you from personal experience do not go back because no matter what he says he will get worse my ex beat me all the time and he always came crying back and ide take him and each time it got worse and then he started threatening to kill me so please hun no matter what dont go back to him sometimes we have to listen to our head and not our hearts because love is blinding and we dont look at all perspectives its hard but i believe in you im sorry hes like that but what it sounds like he dont love you back....it takes 2 to love you cant make him love you...

aww thanx, your advise really helpt me understand, im glade your here to talk to ^_^

shhhdontmove....im really happy you have found u a gurl once a cheater and liar alwayz one so yea im happy for you

i know what it feels like to have noone and steph im glad this conversation is helpin ya out!!!

3 hours is far...long distant relationships are hard to keep with and they can cause more stress than if you live 15 minutes away....i rely on the internet and phone cuz my parents dont approve of my man cuz hes so much older but we are still together only i feel like stressed and i worry constantly because of how much i love him i feel like i wouldnt make life w/out him what you said was what you felt and maybe it made you feel better for a sec. but he still didnt call back did he??it probly just gave him an excuss to not call you and talk crap...but maybe he knos how you feel...guys can be difficult they are hard to understand because they dont think as deep as us and you have to be blunt in order for them to understand like sex is one form of love to us but for them its a benefit and an attraction thing....we are more emotional and we take things more seriously and interpret things diffrerntly...ur family still loves you and tell them about how you feel and that ur sorry that you were wrong in picking him over ur family...i kno hun love is painful and sometimes its easier to do what feels right instead of what is right....never make a man all of ur happiness because when it ends you dont look at the other things that should make you happy....there is a guy out there somewhere feeling like you do right now i even kno a few...i talk to them and we have cried together they have taught me alot about guys and i teach them about us...we are almost a different species because we are so different....the sooner you accept that he is gone the sooner you will be happy and you can fill a guys heart as he will yours noone can keep you together but yourself....look at little things that are goood like when you feel the wind messin with your hair or the warmth of the sun on ur face and mostly your family what would u do without them but you will find the best happiness when you look in yourself and vow not to make the same mystake and that ur a good person.....im glad to help....sometimes i feel 30 and not 17 lol but if u need anything ever my email is on my profile best of luck!!!

ugh... well its not about my but i have this younger sister...
about a year ago she had gotten into drugs... weed.. meth... cokane.. (thank god she hated cokane and only did it once) and all this other shit.. and well recently she had got this crush on an ... 18 or 19 year old? (shes 15) well normally wouldnt have a problem with age.. but sence she is my little sister i dont really aprove... i have kown this boy for about 6 years now..
he has talked his girlfriends into haveing unprotected sex.
he had got a girl or two pregnat already
and most of the chix he dated (i no alot of them... small town) all he wanted was the sex.
she has lost her virginity well over a year ago now... but i do not want her with this god damb guy. and i have nothing to do.. because all her friends are like "awe you guys would be so cute together... blah blah blah" and he does alot of drugs as well... so im afriad he will get her into more drugs then she is already. and i dont no what to do.. she wont beloeve me because she thinks i am the bitch sister who is out to ruin her life... but i hate watching her ruin her life... and she doesnt even see me anymore.. we share a room and talk to eachother only in screaming. and idk what to do about her.. :( ...

well i guess this wasnt really realationship.. but in a way it was..

yea drugs and pressure are really bad at that age and this whole situation is kinda like me only i was 14 and i got away because i got put in a maximum security lockdown fascility.....it sounds to me she needs to go there and learn a few things would you rather have her hate you for helping or hate you for never trying if this gets any worse as bad as it sounds you may lose ur lil sister i hope not but the longer this goes on the harder its gonna be to fix it by the way what have ur parents done about this???be strong and be there for ur lil sister..and about the screaming matches you need to give her the silent treatment its less stressful and more effective be expressionless so she will realise you are hurt and she has caused alot of problems....she needs to get away from that town and change her friends i live in a lil town in indiana so i kno what ya mean the bad thing is is that where i live may be one of the smallest towns in america but it has the highest meth problem in this country so there is alot of pressure here unfortunately i fell through the wrong crowd and hit rock bottom....so save her before you lose ur sister dont worry about her hating you cuz she really dont....she says things cuz she wants people to hurt like she does.....well if u need any help ill help ya!!!peace and love~ash~

aww thanks ide like to help people instead of just complaining about my life too i just wanna be someone for someone else who has noone

my friend amanda well she says shes my best friend stole my b/f's number she didnt even know him she ever saw him before and she started calling him she told me she only called looking for me and i was like u never called we have it set up so that when ur on the computer u can b on the phone 2 and it beeps when someone is calling if ur on the phone plus i have caller id and ik she never called and shes like he called me 2 i was like ur lying he never had ur number and then ever since she did this i havent talked 2 him he wont return my calls or messeges and he answers only when i call from her house so it seems weird 2 me b/c wghy would my b/f want anything 2 do w/ her it just has been stressing me out a lot lately b/c idk who 2 trust or what 2 think please help me :)

You sound like a really awsome person

wow she must think best friends have benefits well i will tell ya somethin this gurl is not ur best friend this totally weird cuz right now my supposed best friend is tryin to take my man so yea i dont want to sound hypocritical....i think she must be desperate for love and WTH he didnt ignore her calls whats up w/that?? yea i kno what ya mean we used to have call waiting on our computer too! and if he aint answerin ur calls takin ur messages and only answering from her house its obvious he has a new g/f i think u should tell him that if he dont stop this crap ur leavin and wont take him back....i say you trust neither they are both goin behind ur back and if u dont see that look at all the signs hes putting to ya i would be stressin too grl you asked for my help well ill do my best the first step is callin him tellin him ya kno about him seeing that best friend of urs and u dont tolerate cheeters tell him its over and find someone better and sweeter because thur is someone out there waiting for a girl like you to take in thur arms and love you with all they have.....sounds like a dream huh.....well only you can make it true and think about your needs not ur wants alright anser when you get the first step done ill be ur friend that ya can talk to.....peace and love~ash~

thank you its a shame people around my hometown dont feel that way im named as a retired druggy....it sucks but im not that person any more im always told how im a bad person and i used to hang out w/preps and i started gettin trouble so they left me....true friends what a joke! ne ways i nearly died in jan2006 cuz i overdosed on pills i was dealin them as much as takin them...well i want to help people out cuz i dont want them to feel alone and like how i feel.....peace and love

also i wont be able to get on for another 3 days so keep postin and ill answer asap love alwayz

im back!!!im here if anyone needs to chat!

im in great like with him,
yes like, not love
i love him because he is one
of my very best friends but idk
im so frusterated!!!!!!!!!
we kinda had this thing in the spring/summer
i had a really really crappy a**hole boyfriend
and he was the ONLY person that saw that
and he stood up for me like you would not believe
and then my friend asked him if he liked me blah blah
and he did and i had liked him since like 9th grade
(im in 11th now)
and then idk what happened, we just kinda
stopped talking
and now im scared to think anything about that
because there is this part of me that wants SO BAD
to have that same thing that we started
but im scared. i am deathly afraid of making a
complete fool of myself by thinking that he would
like me, but thats the thing,

he likes me for ME,
me, the me that i love and hardly no one sees
except him and my best friend
i can tell by the look in his eyes
and that means the world to me
like for once in my fricken life i dont have to change
and its like the greatest weight lifted off of my shoulders
because i KNOW that he would never make
me change.

i like him. i like him so much.
and im debating on wheter asking him to do something
this weekend or not.
UGHHHHHHh
thanks for listening to my crap! hahaha

the best relationships are when people are friends before they become intimate lol me and my man have been together 5 months now we were friends before that and we found out wko person we were and we loved wko of person that the other was we found out likes and dislikes and stuff like that...also bout the @$$hole boyfriend i had one too when me and my guy were friends i was gettin beat on and my new man he helped me get away even when his own life was bein threatened and he has helped me soo much and dont be frusterated i think there is a lil romance in the air! and dont be scared go for it gurl with out any doubts in your mind be confident and obvious that what you want is to be with him guys like gurls that kno what they want just dont get ur head up too high and be overconfident...talk to him again u need to show ur interested so he wont be available to another gurl...do what ur heart says! thats awesome he likes u for who u are sounds like hes a great guy! ASK HIM OUT THIS WEEKEND!!! you never kno but im 99.9% sure from the way u sound he wont turn down that offer! best of luck!!! hey listenin to peoples problems and helpin them helps me because i feel like im making a difference and i want to be there for people when no one else is....

Y'know what I really hate about relationships?
The fact that when they end, people always get so bitter about their 'ex'.
There was obviously something nice about them to make you like them so much in the first place, so just because it 'wasn't the right time' or 'she found someone else', it doesn't give anyone the right to go around being verbally abusive to them or ruining their relationship with others.
Why can't people just get over things without seeking revenge (i.e. tearing up your ex's stuff because he kissed another girl while he was with you)

I like to think of my ex's as friends, though I was never really in too much of a serious relationship with them, except the last (who, might I add, has been trying to seek revenge) but who I never would refer to as 'my ex' because he has a name and a heart and a soul, even though we're not together anymore, everyone learns something from every relationship they encounter and that's what life is about, learning.

u have a good point but sometimes people feel angry and betrayed its human nature and sometimes people over step their bounds but i put up this thread so that somebody can take some advice and not feel so angry ya kno...