The Art of Wooing!!!

The Art of Wooing!!!

Wooing is the delicate art of trying to win, to gain, to sway, the affection, affinity, of the one with whom you’re enamored, in admiration of. It is the subtle, yet bold art of romance (romancing), of trying to incite the interest of - traditionally a woman - and entice and attract them towards amorous affection, a romantic desire for you. It is a mixture of flirtatiousness and charm, of guile and luck, a delicate balance between daring and walking on eggshells, brashness and tact, audacity and introversion. To be able to woo well, one must be able to be both cocky and coy, forward and reserved. You need a certain amount of nerve, courage, and self-confident, to get started, get your wooing off the ground (a certain level of arrogance, forwardness, can work to your advantage), but get too brazened, daring, and you could put her off, shoot yourself in the foot. You have to be able to go into the wooing process unabashed (not worrying about the possible rejection), but yet, you have to have a certain level of grace, tact, as well. The number one thing you need though is to be able to read the person (the woman) with whom you’re fancied, that infatuated with, and gage what she might respond best to -- whether to you being flirtatiously forward or coquettishly coy and also to read how she resounds to, receives, your attention.

The intent of wooing is to peak a woman’s interest, to show that you’re somebody she wants to have around, be around and that’ll enhance and add pleasure, to her life. It is to show her that you’re what she wants, needs, desires. The object is to create affinity, within her, for you, like you have for her. You want to win over her affections and sweep her away in thoughts of and with longing for you. You want to engender, endear, the thought of you and her together, within her heart, her soul, her mind. You want to enwrap her being, with pleasant thoughts of you and capture all of her there is to capture and that there is what it is to woo.

Now, what is wooing, ACTION!!! It’s letting the person you’re interested in know of your interest - through your words, your body language, and your gestures, through your actions of affection towards them. It’s showing your affinity for them in an active manner – so, where as, they see your earnest interest in them. Some people woo with gifts and such (by lavishing the woman in whom they’re interested with as extravagant a gift/gifts at they can afford), other simply by the way they act towards the one who holds their affection. The best wooers employ both methods, use gifts and actions to show their affinity (attraction). Gifts are always good, for the show ones generosity, can show that one has a generous heart, but it’s ones earnest interest, sincerity, that’ll wholly win them over. What you want to do is shower the woman, of your interest, with attention, compliments, and with a noticeable level of affection, adoration, and affinity.

Now, most people see wooing in terms of “BIG” romantic gestures, in terms of “GRAND” overtures made towards another (the woman in whom you’re interested), but a lot of the time it’s the little things that do it. It’s your consistent (steady) adoration and kind, sweet words, your genuine, sincere, interest shown for her, to her. It’s the consistent attention you pay her, through your compliments, caring, and kindness. It’s noticing her hair, nails, outfit. It’s being there to make her smile, laugh, just when she needs it, being there to calm, to settle her, when she gets a little frazzled, overwhelmed. It’s being able to remind her that she’s worthwhile, simply by the way you treat her. It’s those things you do, in the everyday, to show your adoration, admiration, affinity, towards her!!!

Now, all this being said, wooing can still be an iffy proposition, because she might be suspect of your intent, the world and its women have got much more cynical now a days. Wooing does not, always, have it intended effect. The line between wooer and stalker has become quite a thin one, and even if she thinks you not a stalker, other issues, problems, could yet exist. The woman could be suspect of your intention - as I mentioned earlier - and not give you a fair chance because of it. And if you shower some women, too much, with compliment, attention, affection, during the wooing stage, they might think you’re a wuss (a little too soft for a man). They might see you as a little too nice, too desperate, or far too clingy. So, you can run into the problem of being so sweet, so complimentary, and so nice, that they think you’re trying too hard or that you’re up to something (that you’re just playing a game of sly manipulation to get your way, what you want). Either way, they’re put off!!!

Although wooing can have its missteps and problem, if there is sincere and earnest interest there, on your part, it is well worth the effort, because accomplishing your goal of winner her affections, affinity, offers far more in reward, than rejection offer in awkwardness, scorn, or ego blow. Don’t be afraid to partake in the wooing art. If you can get past their hang-ups and anxieties, compliments and shows of affections can, do work. If you like her, take action, show it, in whatever way works for you and works with her. If you don’t take the chance, the opportunity, to try and make something happen, it might never, so find your courage and woo her!!!

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Woo (Wooing): 1: to seek the favor, affection, or love of (usually a woman); 2: to solicit in love; to court 3: make amorous advances towards; "John is courting Mary" [syn: court, romance] 4: to seek the affection of with romantic intent; 5: to work to gain or sway the affinity, affection of, through deliberate action with amatory intentions.

A Few Questions:

What is wooing to you, in your opinion what is it to woo, be wooed?

Ladies, what woos, wows you? How are you best wooed? What works best for you, on you?

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