Do Women still want to be Wooed?

I came up with this question after writing "The Art of Wooing" and in doing research on wooing, and one of the statements clearly being made about wooing in these times in what I read was that wooing doesn't have the grandeur it use to, that it's just not respond to in the same way, and as well as it use to be, and had kind of lost it's relevance today. That it didn't have much of a place in the society of today. I wanted to see, if it still did have relevance. I've seen how the socio-political climate of today has left some men some men gun shy, and down right confused as to how to approach their interest in a female. It seems, when you take a shallow glance at it, that the only place a man can safely approach and pursue a woman is in a singles bar/club setting, and I want to get a clearer picture as to what was the state of wooing in our society!!!

This question goes along with "The Art of Wooing" which was posted earlier;

http://www.poems-and-quotes.com/discussion/topic.html?topic_id=126831

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Woo (Wooing): 1: to seek the favor, affection, or love of (usually a woman); 2: to solicit in love; to court 3: make amorous advances towards; "John is courting Mary" [syn: court, romance] 4: to seek the affection of with romantic intent; 5: to work to gain or sway the affinity, affection of, through deliberate action with amatory intentions.

I came up with this question after writing "The Art of Wooing" and in doing research on wooing, and one of the statements clearly being made about wooing in these times in what I read was that wooing doesn't have the grandeur it use to, that it's just not respond to in the same way, and as well as it use to be, and has kind of lost it's relevance today. That it didn't have much of a place in the society of today. I wanted to see, if it still did have relevance. I've seen how the socio-political climate of today has left some men gun shy, and down right confused as to how to approach their interest in a female. It seems, when you take a shallow glance at it, that the only place a man can safely approach and pursue a woman is in a singles bar/club setting, and I want to get a clearer picture as to what was the state of wooing in our society today!!!

I quickly glanced at your other post, just to get a general idea.

And I say, yes. But its as contradictory as the term "Politically Correct".

Women still want to be wooed, still want the idea of romance, or being swept off their feet, of being looked after. However, with recent times independance has also became a huge factor, due to increase in equality.

A woman wants to be wooed, but free.

If I had no exams tomorrow, I would write more.

Now, me, I'm a wooer and a romantic - known for my love of Woman, Beautiful, and my romantic (sometimes erotic) poetry. I love the beautiful women of the world, and enjoy paying them attention and enjoy the wooing art, but have seen not all women respond well to attention -especially from men - from my own and other guy experiences. Some women just don't take well to amorous advances, and there are those women who are just plain suspect of attention from a man, and yet still those that if you fawn over them, they think your a wuss, weak, too nice or just plain desperate and it turns them off. Wooing is obsolete, in the mixed-up atmosphere between men and women these days. The negative consequences, effects, that can/may result from outwardly expressing your amorous interest in a woman in todays socio-political climate, and the just plain fear of rejection, there no wonder wooing has become obsolete - in some sense. Me personally, I think it needs to be revived, by I can't do it by my lonesome. If wooing is obsolete, it probably because we have fashioned a society where many are afraid to connect with others and let themselves be vulnerable!!!

While you are doing the wooing make sure that the one you’re pursuing is not doing something with the your mind that rhymes with skewing, or she’ll be chewing you up, and spiting you out

I have to say, I'd much rather be loved than 'wooed.' Wooing is just some mating ritual - an act. If a guy really cares, he might do these things, but it will be -because- of his feelings, not as an expectation of "oh, i have to make her love me, so I should do this and this and this." Yes, women like to be treated well, but it has to be sincere. Otherwise.. it's kind of revolting.

If women were loved, every time they were wooed, the world would be a better place

It's not so much wooing anymore but wowing.

It used to be that all you needed was a vision of how you wanted things to be a few years from now. Now you have to have the dream realised already before you can even approach some women.

I agree that women want to be loved and treated well. I don't like to play games. I prefer honesty.

I'd also like to comment on the wowing thing :)

Not all women are like that. Although I have noticed a lot people( male & female) are like that now. I am trying to find a man who isn't ruled by money. Don't get me wrong, money is nice, but how much does it really take to make you happy? I think there are A LOT of things WAY more important in life than money. I have never needed a lot of money to be happy. I believe people are too materialistic now days.
I have a good job now, but I don't think the money has made a big difference in my happiness & I don't think it ever will. I just don't need "things" to be happy.
Although, A Harley might make me a little happy..LOL
Just my thoughts on this :)

I agree that most men are gun shy about romance these days. It may be that the generalizing of the sexes is responsible. It seems that wooing was defined, at least in part, by the seeking of affection and favor. Now as Tammy said she prefers honesty. But I wonder what she would do if a stranger approached her, and said I am seeking your favor and affection.
I think after a more direct honest pass like that she would be laughing her pass off

If anyone is interested I was single up until about a year ago. When I was single my sister introduced me to her neighbor who was recently divorced. I went through the old fashion courting ritual. My persistence while trying to win her affection, and favor put her in very uncomfortable position. To this day I think she thought she was doing me a favor by not being honest with me. My sister from time to time would ask me how things were going and I would tell my sister that the woman never seemed to have any time. So I decided to let my chores go, and help her with her’s so we could spend time together, and we became really good friends. My sister told me of the wonderful news that she was engaged to be married three days after I ask her to go to a Christmas party with me. Of course she was busy. When my sister told of the engagement I finally told her that I would have thought a friend would have told me sooner. My sister asked me why I felt that it was any of my business. To this day I cannot explain why I felt so wooed
It seems that playing games is part of romance, and I thank God that the best man won

I agree that some women are more honest than others

It's not money that we're looking for -atleast that I'm looking for- it's power. Which has nothing to do with money. It's about having confidance in oneself and strength of character and the whole idea that you have to -want- to wow, or woo this woman rather than feeling obligated to. But with confidance will come sublety so you don't come off as a total creep.

An article in national geographic talked about this topic. It was called the science of love. It said basically that if a man took a woman out on a date and wanted to ensure a second date, he should take her somewhere that wows her. Why? Because a bigger, more explosive stimulation to the brain (like taking her to a theme park and riding roller coasters) are more likely to release endorphins into the brain (and more endorphins at that) than just going out for coffee and a walk. The brain then in turn correllates this good feeling with teh experience of being around that person, resulting in the woman wanting to go out on more dates with the man because the brain likes the "natural" high it got off the endorphins last time.
I understand many women would disagree with this, but it is the same basic reason why a crackhead likes crack. The brain likes the feeling.

I don`t know, coffee , a walk and a little wooing sounds better to me, but then I think my brain likes the feeling of the wooing!

Actually, Michael, I have dealt with similar situations recently. A couple of weeks ago, I went to work at 5am as usual. About 4:45am I was sitting at a table outside smoking a cigarette and drinking a cup of coffee when a man sat across from me, looked me directly in the eyes and said "I would really love to kiss you" Honestly, I didn't know what to think. (being caught off guard) So, I put out my cigarette and picked up my coffee and said "I really have to go" and went to work. Not even a hour and a half later another man was walking down the hallway with me and told me he was in love with me. Caught off guard again, I said, what the hell is going on today?? I did talk to both men the next day. The first one I told that I enjoyed talking to him but that conversation had made me very uncomfortable. The other man, I really didn't know what to say but I do have a rule about not dating anyone I work with.
So, yeah, sometimes honesty can throw ya for a loop :)
However, I still prefer it.

Kayla-

Keep thinking that way girl! You're on the right track :)

I'm not too fond of a guy telling me I am really hot either... It just comes off sounding like a line.

Girls like to be wooed ... just not by a complete stranger. Wooing can be confused with creeping, and creeping ... is creepy. It's hard to determine what women want, we're hard to read. And, if you feel like wooing a woman and she doesn't appreciate it, clearly, she's not the woman you want to be with anyhow.

I disagree wholeheartedly with you there.

In my youthful days as the roguish scallywag I was, I did all of my wooing with women I had never met. And those women number somewhere from forty to sixty... I was that bad.

I actually found it much harder to woo the girls I knew well.

HAHAHa, That's because you were in the friend zone bret

Not to be confused with the Twilight Zone, but certainly to be compared with.

You're right though. Once you have that initial connection a girl they have already made up their mind as to whether they want to be romanticly involved. Of course there are some exceptions, but in the main once you have a friend who is a girl it isn't going to go much further.

Women make up their minds within the first six seconds and put you in the yes or no pile. That's why wooing women you don't know is easier. As soon as you get the no vibe (not going into the depths and complications of nlp here) you make your pleasantries move on.

Meh.

Yes wooing does work for some woman. Or at least it does when a guy wants to go out with me. It just depends on how the guy goes about it.

not the first six seconds! somewhere around that, though. ever heard of a woman's intuition?

Very funny Bob :P

I think it was a full moon or something...who the heck knows lmao