i just lost the love of my life. and i dont know what to do.

Love is pain...

If he left you because he couldn't stand the "stress" of having other people hate your relationship, then his love was probably not very strong...
That is just my opinion. I'm sorry that I can't really advise you as I am just in the first stages of discovering love, being loved, and all that, and have not worked any of it out yet.

So for now let me express my honest sympathy. I have never been let down exactly in the way that you have, but I have suffered similar pain, and I know that it stings right down to your heartstrings.
The writing will come later. Sometimes you can't write about something until a few years later. For now just let yourself mourn and go through the natural healing process of loss.

//T.L.//

how is he treating you right now? that would help a lot in order for me to give you good advice.

hmm i'd say if he was treating you badly, to act indifferent and show interest in other guys..because if he was being an ass, that would basically mean he was trying to hate you in order to get over you. Let's see, if he wants to be friends and says he still loves you, that is a toughie. I think, looking at what's best for YOU, that being friends is not a good choice. In order to get over him, you need to create some distance and try to channel your sadness/depression into anger/frustration. Seeing as you want him back, first we have to consider if it is possibe. Don't appear depressed and cry all the time, that would only make you less desireable to him..plus would you want him to get you back out of pure guilt? Try to remember all the qualities that he loved about you/loves about you, and try to make them shine. If he remembers all of your great qualities and what a beautiful person you are, he'll want you back. Don't overcroud him. Don't bring up getting back together, act like it's not an option for you anymore, but don't voice it. Remember, things take time. Hang out with your buddies, write poetry if you can, listen to music, watch movies, be with your family...do the things you enjoy doing...stay busy while you wait for him to come around. Play hard to get. Yep, I guess that's pretty much it. Just look your best, flirt with other guys if you can, laugh/smile a lot, be cute, etc. If he doesn't come around, just realize that he is immature and not worth your time anymore. Sometimes people try to be something that they are not (ex: mature), and one day it just becomes too hard, so they freak out. Ok, that's all I can say..hope it helped a little

LOL this is a really stupid question, but i dont know how to check pm's can u tell me how?

I agree with Bob. You're only thirteen && you say that you just lost the love of your life? Wouldn't you say that your life is just beginning? I mean technically it is. You're just growing up && losing loves along the way is a part of it. For now, worry about your school work && not about boys. Give it time.

-Jenna.

well my mom was with my dad since she was ten, so doesn't that say something?

i think that it is possible that hes the love of your life. your jusy too young to really do much about it. i think its best for you two to take a "break." maybe in a couple years, if you still have feelings for eachother, your relationship can work again. otherwise, if your still having problems dealing with the breakup, try not to think about it. i knoww..that sounds soo corny! but try hanging out with your girlfriends some more. if their true friends, they'll help you get thru this. and hopefully you and your guyy can eventually have another shot at this!

haha Bob, comparing love and alcoholism...wow, those are two very different things you are trying to weigh equally. Ignore her age, I'm sure she's heard all of the "you're too young stuff" before...since that's what everyone says to the youngsters, but do you see any drastic changes in their social behavior? NO. People learn from their own mistakes much more efficitenly than from the mistakes of others...not that I believe young love is always a mistake. Obviously, her parents are still together which is positive rather than still being an alcoholic which is negative. Think your comparisons through before you put someone down. Disagreeing upon firm foundation is one thing, but alcoholism and love? that's ridiculous. no harm meant on either side, just stating my opinion and explaining it. ok i'm done rambling

It sounds to me like he was just using that as an excuse. Come on, who breaks up with someone because they love them so much and can't handle the stress?

Don't try to get him back, just get over him.

well if you're parents are divorced, then i am sorry ofr assuming they were still together. i was not trying to write a biography on your life, sorry if i went off topic and wrote as if you wouldn't read my words. bob, thanks for responding respectfully.

either way, i agree with the above person somewhat...his excuse does sound a little pathetic..maybe this guy just isn't who you thought he was. i think you will one day find a guy who actually deserves you, good luck and i hope everything turns out ok

Move on?..