What if its your fault

What if you lost the person you loved because you wouldn't let them get close to you? You pushed them away for so long that when you finally decided to let them in they walked away.... Now what do you do when they say that they loved you but they just can't love you anymore and you can't let go.

suffer?

hmm tricky. how often do you see this person? if its not very often, you will probably soon move on. if possible, dont look for situations to see them. if you do, seeing them will only slow the healing process. if you want them back, and dont want to move on, talk to them, alone with no distractions. tell them you want a second chance. if you two are ment to be together, you'll figure it out. best of luck =]

hold on a second. did you decide to let them in when they decided to walk away? if so, then you probably weren't truly ready to let them in, you just realized that they were giving up on you, so as a last resort you said you would open up to them..and they said it was too lat.e. or you could just be making yourself feel guilty. i have problems opening up as well/trusting people, but if someone isn't willing to patiently wait for you...then they aren't the one for you. trust me, you will find someone who will be glad to wait as long as it takes for you to show them your garden of inner beauty. :) good luck and take care

I decided to let them in before they walked away, it wasn't a last resort kind of thing, .. but I think your probably right about the waiting thing, if they really cared they'd wait.. thankyou!

ok...well...if it's ur fault then there's not really much tht i can say 2 help u...i mean...i have a friend and she did kind of the same thing and now she can't stop thinking about him evn when she has a b/f...it's kinda sad...but the guy tht she loves says tht he still cares 4 her and tht he doesn't wanna get hurt again and she has cut herself many times in the past week or so and i'm tryin 2 beg her 2 stop...but she won't. so look...i guess juz try tellin them tht u wanna take another chance and u won't make the same mistake and tht u're ready 4 a relationship with them...ok?

i kno what ya mean ive done it a few times but sometimes we have to get over our insecurities..

ok, well to everyone who tried to help, thanks.. btu in the end i guess i figured it out.. he wasnt worth it.. not only that but i dont love him i just love the memroies, the hardest part was accepting that they are in the past.. thanks again..