How old?

My friend is constently telling me that im to young to have sex and she hates it that i do. im 16 and i dont think its too young. but what age do you think is appropriate to start having sex?

Pfft.

I'm 16. And I'm having sex....
I know people who were like 12 when they started.

The thing is though--it's inappropriate until certain factors and expectations are met.

You should know you're partner pretty well because if you get pregnant, you may be stuck with them for a REALLY. REALLY. long time.

You should have a back up plan in case something happens. Are you prepared financially, emotionally, or mentally for the repercussions of your actions? Because once you're pregnant, your options are pretty much set. There's no wishing away a baby.

Or an STD.

Which is another thing.

You should be safe, okay? If you can't make smart decisions then you're probably not ready to be having sex. You'd be surprised how much it takes to be ready...I know it took me a LONG time to get where I am. I used to not even let people touch me at all. Not a simple handshake or anything. =]

There is no age limit for sex. There is no maturity level. It simply happens. Whether you are capable of handling the repercussions is another story.

All I can say is become educated. If you know it feels nice, but you don't know why it feels nice you need to pour yourself a nice bowl of knowledge. The more you know the better. It may just save you from a heart breaking tradegy.

I did at 15 and I am now 19. When you look back you see that is was WAY to young. You may want to now, but you will regret it!!!

I personally think 17 is the youngest age to start.

But then again, it truely is when you feel it is the right time. You are comfortable with your partner and you trust them. It is also when you're mature enough for it. So many people now a days constantly going out that they had sex over and over. They are all bull shitting you. Sex is very personal and should only be really known by the two individuals.

It is appropriate to have sex, when YOU are ready for it.

I agree with Crystal, but at the same time it depends on your situation. I don't really think that there is an 'age'. I don't believe in sex before marriage, but if I were to have sex before I was married I'd at least wait until I was graduated high school. There are so many things to consider and so many critical things can happen. You could get pregnant or an STD and if that STD is permanent you have to live with it for the rest of your life. Most likely ruining all of your chances for a healthy relationship when you are older.

I've had friends who were having sex at age eleven. That to me is waaay too young, and they probubly don't even know the emotional baggage or significance of such a personal thing.

I think that when you're older you might look back and think that you were too young at 16 to have sex, like Crystal was. But who knows, everyone's different. Just be careful :)

i'd rather have sex if i was married to the guy and we we're doing it to have a baby not to HAVE fun!!!!!!!!!

no offence, but eww....

i'm barely 12.......

if u wanna do it, don't forget to wear protection!

xxleisaxx

i dont agree with sex before marriage either...BUT i think if you did it should be with someone you love and trust.
but i dont think there is a specific age

There is no age limit, but please think about this before you make a mistake. It's not a smart decision to lose it so young. What is wrong with teens now adays? You don't need to have sex. It makes me sick thinking about all these people between the ages of 14 and 17 losing it. My friend is only 17, and is having a baby in January. Not saying that i'm not happy for her, but i don't think she made a smart decision. Why not wait until you find someone you're sure you're going to stay with. Someone who you love. Actually, why not wait until you're an adult. I don't understand people. I'm a virgin and proud. I'm waiting until i'm married.

im turning 15 soon, and im a virgin. i dont think your too young to do it, do whatever you want its your body. just be careful, make sure you use protection.

where do you live? Coz in England, the age of consent is 16, so here, technically you are old enough.

However, I don't have a problem with 15 year olds having sex...if they're ready for it. It's different for everyone (though i would say 14 and below is too young, because no matter how much you think you know everything..you have no idea. I'm sorry, harsh, but true.)

Back to the point lol...if you feel ready, then that's fine. It may just be that your friend isn't ready herself, and expects everyone else to be the same. Tell her that you appreciate she cares for you, but you're old enough to make your own decisions.

As long as you take precautions, you're fine. If you're not mature enough to be able to go and get protection (either buy condoms or get them free from health centres, or go on the pill or w/e), you're not mature enough to have sex.

[And Leisa..you're 12, I'm sure as you grow up, your attitudes to sex will change. You may always believe in sex before marriage, but even when you're married you can have sex for fun! :) Anyway, it's good you think like that at your age, I guess, coz at least it means you're not gonna go sleeping around and be one of those 12 year old kids who get pregnant.]

im 15 and i have, i say go ahead do what you want! and if your friends are gonna jusge you for something you want to do, and feels right, then there not really good friends

thankz neena

but anyways, after MARRAIGE u can do it for fun or watever. but before THAT, i mean, if ur younger than 18, u MIGHT need protection. only if u wanna do it for fun. but if u're really interested in doing it to have a baby, well, try to get married first and tell ur parents........

ok, never mind the parent thing, but anyways, just be careful!!!!!

xxleisaxx

i guess its really up to the maturity of the 2 inderviduals and how they r both feeling

im 17 my bf 20 and we havent had sex

I DONT THINK HAVING SEX AT A YOUNG AGE IS GOOD BUT ITS REALLY HARD NOT TO. THATS A GOOD ? THOUGH.

my aunty had sex the first time when she was 15.. and now she and him are married...

my mom had sex when she was 17...

people used to have kids when they where 16 and it was normal... now its frowned upon if you are a teenager with a kid.

i dont think it is wrong. as long as its protected.

I agree with mostly everyone.I came close to having sex with my ex and he betrayed me.SEX COMES WITH EMOTIONAL BAGGESES.i'M STILL A VIRGIN AND i'M 16, ABOUT TO TURN 17.I'T NOT THAT i DON'T WANT OT HAVE SEX ONE DAY WITH THAT SOMEONE i LOVE VERY DEEPLY BUT i JUST WANNA WAIT TILL i WANNA HAVE KIDS. TO ME I KNOW I'M NOT READY FOR KIDS RIGHT NOW.AND I'M GLAD MY CURRENT BOYFREIND DOESN'T PRESSURE ME IN TO DOING WHAT I' DON'T WANT TO DO YET.THATS WHAT MY EX DONE TO ME AND I COULDN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE.SO WHEN HE WAS GETTING IN TROUBLE BY HIS MOM HE BROKE UP WITH ME B/C HE COULDN'T HANDLE THE PRESSURE.. ...ANYWAYS...YOU'LL KNOW WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT TO HAVE SEX
BELINDA

If you're being responsible about it, and you feel you're ready, then there is no reason why you shouldn't. I'm not sure what an age limit is, because it varies from person to person. But I hate to hear about 12 year olds and such doing it, because they think they are mature enough. It's a personal decision, but just make sure.

To me, 16 doesn't seem too young. As long as you are careful.