when is too young

^ Kids /should/ be thinking and learing aobut it. if they didnt they would often end up having sex and not knowing the consequences and precautions they should take.

so i am glad she is asking, so she could learn what could happen and that its not a necessity to have sex at her-or my- age.

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sorry about the typos. i typed really fast. lol.

In my opinion, i think 13 is too young. i'm fourteen already...[just turned 14 yesterday.]

i learned my lesson when my sis got pregnant. she was only 16 when she had sex with her boyfriend.
that was her last desperate attempt to make him stay with her [which i do not at all think was worth it].

if guys break up with you jsut cause you won't have sex with them, then it's not a real relationship. it basically meant they thought u would be easy and that they were only in it for the sex ,which u never gave. [you should be proud of yourself]

i mean, think of the STDs and other things that could happen to you if you ever took the chance.

i think the best way would be abstinence [however u spell it]. it's the best way to stay until you find someone you really know will be there or just wait until you get married.

sex is also making love right?
having sex should be just that, having it with the person you love the most.

make sure you're emotionally and physically ready for this. think it over once and twice.

good luck

-Steph

Maturity age and actual age may vary. One would think that it would be a wise decision to be able to grow up to be an adult before trying to raise a child as a child.

i think you to young but its your choice if you feel you can trust him enough to do it wit him and not get hurt by him i think your ready

I personally believe that you should wait until you're married. But that's just my opinion. I mean, if you really think about it, will you still be together in even a 1/2 yr? 2 years? I mean, I'm only 15, and nobody's sure when you will still be together, but this is a life changing decision. If you lose your virgintiy so young, then whats left for your wedding night? I believe that sex is for people who love each beyond words and who have spent a few years together. Personally I don't think that kind of love is possible at 13. I mean we're just starting to try to find out who we are, let alone finding out who someone else is at the same time. It's just a lot to think about (and like mentioned above, there are other consequences as well). It's not the physical things you should think about, ok well you should but, I mean they teach you all that in sex ed, but think about how it's going to affect you emotionally. I know I couldn't handle it. I would make sure that they are going to stay with you forever. And at 13, I doubt he'll be with you next year. I'm not saying it's not possible to love at 13, but well, I'm just saying the likely hood of you guys getting married, or even being together a long time is very very remote. But if you think you're ready, then go right ahead, but remember if you are going to do it, then use protection!!

Well when ever you are ready is really the right age see i am 15 and i haven't did it yet..i just haven't found the right one and it Probably wasn't the right time but when the right time comes then you are never to young....

what the hell is up with "too young under 18"

---who the f*ck said that?

it's not about age... it's about maturity...

*and yea it sounds like crap when u say "let it be the right person"... but it's not... you'll regret it sooner then you think... even if u think you KNOW you love them...

-you gotta get it done tho... right? but if you think of it that way ^^^^^ then just wait... and if ur friends are pressuring you... u tell them...

TO MIND THEIR OWN GODD*MN BUSINESS~

Abstinence is the only way = )
^That's how I am...

Just make sure you're ready... would be a good topic to ask parents... not poems-and-quotes advisees.... (is that a word???)

Ask your mom though^^^^^^^^^^
Or you'll never be outta the house again...

In our country, (is it ok to share our culture?) most are conservative. Love is sacred and especially the intercourse between 2 persons; virginity often reserves for marriage. But i do not say all of us do things like that; but most of us. My friends tell me that they want to be married to the man they love and have that sacred union when the man is already their husbands. And guess what? They're 18 and planning to get married at the age of 24 above...

You shouldn't do it just because everybody does it. You should not do it because of you're age Or bcoz of the pressure... It would come at the right time. Your former boyfriends were really jerks to broke up with you just because you're not ready yet.

Dont even think about it right now darling, you're not legal until next year.

And please, please, do not do it until you're ready, I made that mistake, and I'm only 14. My parents found out, and now my life is pretty much screwed up, I've completely lost their trust and I'm only allowed to see my boyfriend in certain places and times, when before we could do pretty much whatever we wanted. It's sad that I lost my virginity at such a young age, and I wouldn't want it to happen to you. If these guys broke up with you because you wouldn't have sex with them..well let's just say it's a good thing you didn't, because if they didnt love you enough to respect your decision, they wouldn't respect you enough to stick around if you got pregnant. Don't throw your life away because of what your friends are doing, sex is a sacred thing, that should be saved for someone you really love, not just thrown away willy nilly. Remember, you only get one first time, and it doesnt grow back;)

I think tht 13 is way to oung i mean you just became a teenager you havent even had the fun of talking back to your parents or sneaking out and getting drunk then coming home sleeping til noon saying your head hurts (k some people dnt do tht) i mean 13 you havent even had the thrill of getting caught the 2 or 3 time you sneak out i mean like seriously if it was me wait til bout 17 18 to do it and enjoy teenager life

what? is there a problem with what i said...? are you telling me that being pressured by your friends and then falling into it... is okay? if so.. please explain your trail of thought...

...and even then... what do you tell a 13 year old? those long ass speeches? w/e... sorry you got a problem with my "maturity"...

Only you can decide whether or not you are truly ready. Its perfectly natural to be curious, and its expected. But being curious and being ready are two different things.. But I agree with everyone on this one. Its because you've got your whole life ahead of you to look forward to; a life filled with love and lovers, prosperity, and happiness. Are you willing to risk that for something that lasts a very short while, and can possibly alter your future? I know this because my mother became pregnant with me while she was in highschool. She got pregnant on her first time. In a way, I blame myself for so many things because I know she had big plans after she graduated. I ask myself, If I hadn't come around, would she be happier? Did she regret it?
I can't help but think she did.
If you decide that you're ready, but still have even the slightest doubt, I emplore you to wait just a little longer. You might get over this, you might not. Wait atleast until you are completely in love with a boy that respects you and is a gentlemen. If he asks, you know to dump him. Be sure to inform him of your physical boundaries, but feel free to ask questions. Know this guy all the way, in and out. If you haven't met him yet, use that as a reason to wait. If you're gonna do it, atleast make it count. You're friends keep pressuring you? Tell them you're just waiting for the right person. hopefully they'll leave it at that.

Only you can decide. Good luck.

Honestly, if you think it's awkward to talk about sex with your friends, then you shouldn't be doing it.

Trust me, wait until you're older. I've just turned 17 and even though I am not in a loving and serious relationship with any boy, if I was I still wouldn't be ready. Although that is just me personally, it really is about your maturity. But at the same time, you must be realistic about your maturity. Make sense?

I'm 16, almost 17 (in a few months) and I still have my virginity in tact. That means nothing to you, but let me say a few things:
-If you think "maybe I might regret it soon" don't do it.
- If you think "I wanna be in love, so I am in love" don't do it.
- If you have a moral issue against sex so young (which you seem to be contemplating), don't do it.

If none of these apply and you're sure you're ready, do it.

I'm not going to preach my views and values to you, because obviously they do not apply. And when using protection- a condom- make sure it's put on safely and properly, this way you're almost certain not to fall pregnant. Most pregnancies whilst wearing a condom occur due to someone incorrectly putting a condom on.

Goodness, thirteen?

I'm sixteen and when I was your age, it was "I wonder if I should hold his hand." Not "Let's have sex." I'm still a virgin and plan to be until I'm married. So many things can go wrong. And when you're 13, I mean honestly. You're not even in high school yet. You are not nearly mature enough to handle the consequences, even if you are aware of them. I'm 3 years older than you and I can admit that I'm not even capable of handling a baby with the things I'm striving to acheive. Don't do something like that which should be so small on your priority list. Worry about that when you're at least out of high school. I have friends who have done it, and they have told me personally that if you're not in love for sure, it's not worth it.

^^^agreed hunn your thirteen my friends fourteen and thinks hses ready and shes not she thinks shes in love but she dsnt know what love is i am fifteen and almost gave it up at fourteen but realized i wsnt ready i thought i was i sstill dnt even know if ready i mean what if he forgets to "wrap"it up and fyi if condoms arent availible DNT ever use suran wrap dsnt work i know someone who tried tht anyway back to what i was saying if you become pregnant you cnt handle a baby your thirteen ok your body still has a few years to develop i mean we dnt even know if you've started your period yet tht would make you too young hmmmmmmmmmmmm but seriously though if you know the consequences tht dsnt mean nuffin i have a friend who whenever she sees her bf she does it with him i heard from someone they did it on a school roof she clamis shse loves him yet she goes of and dates other guys i have another friend shes 14 did it in my basement with a guy who a month before wanted to beat her up and kow what she regrets it everyone who has done it before they were ready regret it so hunn i advise you not going out there getting laid and ruining your whole life ok so please think before you act

if you are questioning if u should or not that should be a sign to you're not ready. Wait for a VERY long time!! u are still very young..iam only 16 and still a virgin and iam loving every minute of it. yeah peer presser is going to get in the way but dont let it go to you. U are 13 u shouldnt be worried about having sex u should be worrying about...having fun not sexy!

"akward for me because some of them have already done it, "- Remember most kids are full of crap trying to impress their mates.

If your questioning it then you are to young there is plenty of time. I started from a fairly early age but it was my choice and something I wasn't presured into.
Some people are probably mature from an early age and others aren't prepared through out their entire lives.

If you do decide to, take precautions and remember there are options to enjoy yourself without getting pregnant,(which is like the disaster of all disasters). Most important don't be presured into anything set your limits and communicate them to your partner.