Cheerleaders always get jerks

I am a cheerleader here at Diamond Mo and I always end up with jerks. They only want me for popularity, then when you try to open ur heart to them they run away scared. Help me find true love. Not just for my body or my face.. But for my heart

You expect to find a guy who wont judge you based on your looks and "popularity", yet i guarantee you you wouldnt date someone whose considered nerdy, ugly, un-popular...even if you tell me you would, I know for the most part that you wouldnt but that there is your solution, you get what you give...

cheeer leaders are jerks so maybe if you so called high class gurls stopped acting like ur better than everyone else you would get a nice guy a heart goes deeper than looks oh and i used to be a cheerleader so yea after i quit i got treateed like crap so i dont feel sorry for you and i have the nicest a guy a gurl could get you might think im snobby but now you kno how it feels you go by looks well gurls like you ur personalities make u ugly so dont even try to get sympathy from ne one in here!!!!i dont feel sorry 4 u

just be singo....i dont care about guys...if he and me are meant to be then we are!!! thats what i think....but you should just fine someone who love you for who you are!!!

She is innocent n u say cheerleaders r bad that was ignorant ppl dun judge either shud u

i agree with ---AL---

if you feel like your getting all those jerky guys, then look for something different in guys. popularity sucks, and there isnt popularity in my high school. everyone just has there group of friends and thats it. look for something different in guys, don't go for all the good-looking jerks.

and dont blame being a cheerleader on getting the jerks, your making the decisions. and maybe the jerky guys are all over you because you may seem to them that your a little easy. so therefore thats what they see when they look at you. dont fall for it, look for different types of people.

and i know how some girls are, and if you start dating someone thats not so called "popular" and your friends disapprove. fuck them. find some new friends.

Hmmm, I am a cheerleader too but I seem to have no problem with this. Most guys are jerks yes but those are the ones that want you just for your looks or for your popularity. And I also agree with AL ... most people that are "popular" would never even think about dating a guy that didn't meet their standards. And most peoples standards these days are unbelievable. Maybe try getting to know someone a little first and see how they are before jumping in to dating.

-Jenna.

Becoming a cheerleader is one "sport" that I would never play, it just comes with too much extra baggage. Cheerleading is not a sport, it is a group that cheers FOR sports. Cheerleaders are always portrayed as being ditsy, popular, hot, and airheaded through film, written word, etc...and that is how they are generally percieved. Why would you want to be a cheerleader anyway? Is it just for popularity and you want guys to percieve you as a hottie? Think about that, because I'm probably right. I have been friends with cheerleaders, and none of them can give me a believable reason why they choose to do it. Anyway, I'm going to stop bashing cheerleading because I know I'm being completely judgemental. In response to your problem, I think you are going for the wrong guys. The name "cheerleader" gives off the impression of an easy girl, and guys who find it attractive that you cheer...are probably looking for just that--an easy girl. The guys who are probably more to your liking, deep/intelligent guys, probably subconciously judge you for being a cheerleader and are turned off. I don't know, I know my response stinks. Maybe you are hanging with the wrong croud of girls and it's luring in the wrong croud of guys. I think the type of guy you are looking for is looking for a nice, clever, down to earth girl...the question is, how do you think you are portrayed? Most people judge, whether they intend to or not.

oh you shut up, fine nevermind. just wanted to chat with someone that's on right now

it doesn't say on your profile, and NO i'm not a stalker. i was just curious. i'm 18...........so whats up? what did you do today?

wait, i found a funny video today too!!! on youtube...some guy dressed as a girl singing about shoes. it was hilarious. whats your video about? You should watch CHarlie the Unicorn, that thing is SOOO hilarious i almost died laughing.

here's the one about shoes

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tYnn51C3X_w

the other one which i think fits my humor almost dead on is on filmcow.com just click movies and then charlie the unicorn..hopefully you'll enjoy the experience

lol BOOM HEADSHOT!! ahhha haha, you are such a typical guy i love it

hahaha...actually, well...ok fine, i'm not going to lie. i do love shoes, but i'm not much of a shopper. and i'm not your average chic you pain in the butt, i'm an amazon warrior at heart

i'm not stalking you!!! haha you....ahhh. ok. forget it. go to filmcow.com, click movies, then click "charlie the unicorn"

nooo, unfortunately i have not. some guy offered to take me a year ago, but he was crazy about me at the time and i didn't want to lead him on...so i said no. why, are you a paintball master? hopefully, you like the filmcow video hahah...now i'm scared you'll think it's lame. but either way, you should update your software so..it won't be a complete waste if you find the video boring

hahah, let me tell you what i like. i like horseback riding, i'm trying to get into some movies as a stunt rider, i like horses (i'm an assistant vet at a horse racetrack), i like making movies, writing poetry, singing in the shower, listening to music (music is my life)....um i played lacrosse for 6 or 7 years and i was really good, but i no longer play. i love taking pictures, i spend way too much damn time online, i love reading (i'm really nerdy when it comes to books), i love movies...welll that sums me up i guess. i love animals and i love laughing

i know, that was one of my favorite parts!!! haha, you have a great sense of humor as well and i love that in a person.. i think i'll watch the charlie movie again right now...haven't seen it in a week

haha you're scared of horses? you big baby, now i know we could never get along...maybe i should just give up on stalking you ;-) i love cats. i have 5 right now, but we've owned at least 30 (total) since i was born. i also have 3 horses, 1 dog, 2 fish, 1 lizard and 2 mice. i'm hoping the mice will die soon though, i'm getting sick of taking care of them....ok that sounds evil, i take it back. music? i love all music...alternative, rock, classic rock, blues, classical, some country. what are some bands you like?

i listen to mostly alternative and rock by the way, but my taste is pretty broad and i spend at least a couple hours listening to music every day

i use limewire too! yeah you should try riding again...but not those lame horses with tour guides or whatever...the hokey pokey horses that go on the same short trail every day, nose to tail nose to tail...walk walk walk...

that song is good by panic at the disco, haven't seen the video though maybe i should download it. i'm not a fan of rap or r&b, it's too simple..simple beats, simple lyrics, etc. Not enough skill is needed for that genre. I think music is an artform.

By the way, thanks for hte comments on my poems..if you write a couple some day, i'll comment you back

haha, then write a poem about killing. strong emotion-- like anger and love --make the best poems i think. yeah, my neighbors at my other house had four wheelers and a dirt course they set up with jumps, it looks so fun!! i love speed too, i'm going to quit my job soon to excercise the racehorses. i also have my motorcycle license, a black motorcycle and a little motorscooter called a piaggio hehe. by the way, that is how i ride..with no saddle. it's called bareback riding, it's the best way. brings you closer to the horse. i can't believe you cried on one of those old lazy horses, you are such a wimp!

Cheerleaders are considered to be generally easy and only care about popularity. If you can't get into a meaningful relationship, then maybe you should stay away from them for a little while. Concentrate on your cheering, and worry about boys once that's done.

Okay, this is for storm. First off..cheerleading is a sport...I don't care how many people disagree with me on this one but it takes a lot of hard work and commitment. They do just as much if not more, fitness and weight lifting and toning programs as any other sport. It takes alot. You have to be coordinated just like any other one. And not all cheerleaders are airheaded and down right beautiful.

As to your "Why would you want to be a cheerleader anyway?" question...there are many different answers for that. I know some that do it for popularity or for boys...but most friends of mine that are on squads do it for the sense of being a part of something that involves physical and mental work outs. It's not all short skirts and jumping around. You have to tumble and know how to do many different tumbling techniques. You have to remember dances and cheers. Know how to do the stunts and be every single part of the stunt. You will be a top, a base, a backspot, a front spot, whatever it may be. Again, not all cheerleaders are bimbos and join it for attention, they do it for themselves...not the heartbreaking jocks.

As for the rest of your post about the right guys, I do agree with you. She should get to know guys that aren't the typical guy she goes for...

-Jenna.

I agree with Jenna, when i lived with my mom, i was a cheerleader at that school, not because of popularity cos there wasn't really any of that at this school but because it was a challenging sport and a lot more difficult than something like football!
(I'd like to see David Beckham do half the stuff we did!)
As for the guy thing, get to know a guy first. become friends..
Then you'll know if he's after your heart or body =)
Good luck
XxXxX

ok i don't think cheerleading is a sport. Like I said, it is a group activity that CHEERS for a sport. However, I DO think it is grueling and takes a lot of coordination, flexibility, and stamina. Sort of like dancing, except much more spastic. I don't know, I don't get why a girl would CHOSE to be a cheerleader rather than another sport or even dancing. Dancing is actually an art, whereas cheerleading is like jumping around, jutting your arms and legs about, flipping back and forth and shaking some pom poms. I would chose being a gymnist or dancer over being a cheerleader any day. Yes, i know many cheerleaders that are completely unnattractive...but that's besides the point. No matter how many girls stand up for cheerleading, guys generally percieve cheerleaders negatively.

Ok I can see where you are coming from with the it isn't a sport thing, I get it everyday. But not all cheerleaders are JUST cheerleaders. I also do volleyball, soccer and badminton. But cheerleading it is all year round, it keeps people happy, it teaches teamwork and also in my school it awards 5 credits if your squad makes it to provincials. I was also in gymnastics and cheerleading is funner and involveds gymnastics AND dance. I'm sorry, I just don't see why people say that it isn't a sport...even before I was in it and I've been in it for 4 years lol.

And I know that no matter how many cheerleaders stand up for it, guys will always take it negatively but that doesn't only tell you something about the girls choosing to be a cheerleader...but something about the guys.

-Jenna.

i completely agree.

haha I am a heavy built girl and will never be one of the popular girls never been either, but I have no idea what people have against cheerleaders, to say that ALL cheerleaders are preppy, bitchy and so on would be what is known as a hasty generalasation by TOK:D but girl your solution is simple: look outside your normal gang, I have always been with the music geeks:D I will promise you that anyone is usally welcome among them as long as they have music taste and you will meet very few wanting to date you due to looks, my conclution: FIND ANOTHER SUB-CULTURE!!!

lol you are hittin the nail on the head person above me!!! iam athletically built...im with the punk group they are really nice and i got outta the preppy group and expanded my friends im still polite i just dont chill w/them any more and guess what i found a man who loves me and i love him so boo ya baby!!!he treats me like a queen so i think^^^conclusion is right

hmm thats like saying cheerleaders are always snobs =s.

EVERYONE has had a relationship that ended up crappy, but that is when you move on and grow from it. Not only do cheerleaders get jerks though. im not a cheerleader nor have i ever been, and ive ended up with a jerk. its not that he wants to be popular...some guys portray cheerleaders to be easy. not to be mean and dont take this in the wrong way. its true.

^^ And that would be putting them all in the same category, when not all are like that. Hardly any are.

Let me ask you a question...When Osama Bin Laden put together the attack on America...and he called on all Muslims to "kill Americans wherever they can be found" ... would that turn you prejudiced against all Muslims? No...it isn't all of the Muslims, it is one guy in extreme power who HAS the power to turn people against other in fear of their own lives.

So if you know one cheerleader to be easy, does that in turn make you look down to all of them and automatically assume they are easy. It really shouldn't, not all of them open their legs for anyone. Now I will admit, there are a good few that are "easy" . But, not all are; and in being frowned down upon for a choice of an afterschool sport, or a hobby is just plain stupid.

Cheerleading is work, just like any other sport...and it comes with alot of labels which has been proved. But to judge someone for it...I'm sorry, I just can't understand people that do that..

-Jenna.

Just make sure your not dating someone just for their looks and that it is for their personality

ok...?

lol
do you always NEED a boyfriend?
try getting to know people
and open up to them
before you start a relationship

^^^Ashley above makes a strong point

A lot of cheerleaders make labels upon themselves. its not jealousy, its their attitude sometimes. ok so they're more energetic and love to cheer lol, but that only makes them a "cheerleader" not a slut or sleezbag. so if one sleeps around it is only apparent to think the same if you dont personally know one. they DO come off as snobs and feel the need to act like that because they're popular...........so flippin what lol.

i could go on for days but i think ive said enough lol.

*pce n luv* _Mya_

u say---jerks get u?--well dan y don't u just say no to jerks??!!--and look at other guy--try to impress not the jerks-but the others--

"I would chose being a gymnist or dancer over being a cheerleader any day."

Not all schools have a gymnastic team. My school only has a guys gymnastic team (which really sucks). And most cheerleaders I know DO play another sport when they aren't cheerleading. A friend of mine only cheerleads for the reason that she's not interested in any other winter sports and because that's a way that she can go see all the home and away basketball games.

But if you really don't want to get guys that are jerks then maybe you should look somewhere else for guys. Or... just don't look at all. Not having a guy isn't the end of the world. Open your eyes and you'll most likely find a really great guy.

1. Like many have stated above me, look in different groups of people because guess what, just because they aren't popular doesn't mean that they aren't good people.

2. If you don't like 1, then don't look at all, love will come your way.

3. Labels are WRONG!!! Nobody should label one another or themselves. Like the above said, "cause when you turn out the light, we are all the same" I TOTALLY agree with that, no one is better than anyone else. It's not right just because someone is a punk or a goth, to assume that they are weird or crazy or stupid or nasty, for all you know, they could get abused at home and the sh*t beat out of them everyday. I bet you didn't think about it that way. Also, it's wrong to assume that all cheerleaders are stupid sluts, ok, my best friend is a cheerleader and she is about as far away from that as humanly possible.

4. Everyone dates a few jerks until they find the right guy, so don't stress about it. Love will come your way, so don't fight it

5. Who gives a rats as* if your "friends" look down on you for dating a "geek", if he makes you happy, then date him, and if they aren't happy for you, then they aren't your friends. Date who makes you happy and treats you right, in the long run, you'll be much happier that way.

6. Don't lower your standards, on anything! Stay true to yourself

I hope I didn't come off as rude, that wasn't my intention. Just stick to your standards and don't waver. I hope this helps

i was a cheerleader once..........in like second grade. I quit not because i didn't have fun, but because i sould see my self changing, it really hit me, when my best friend since pre-school came up to me and asked why i was talking to one of my friends (hailey) i said because she was my friend too, every one (cheerleaders and popular ppl) then told me that being one of them meant that i couldn't hangt oput with people like her because they weren't like "us" (hailey was over weight).......once again in 5th grade i hung with the popular crowd, but again i saw my self changing when i went up to a girl i had also known since pre-school (hannah) on the bus in front of every one, and told her she couldn't talk to me in front of people because it made my rep look bad, and we could still talk just not on weekends and she couldn't coem over, and couldn't tell any one we were friends.......once again in 8th grade.......i changed but not for perpy most peopl would call it goth but i jsut say i was being true to my self, but the preps at the school didn't like it, so i was talking to one grl who is a prep but had been friends with, she told me the reason i wasn't popular was because i was a bitch and wore black, adn my friends were a major bad mark on my rep.....

through all that time i tried to be popular and date the hot in guys, i wasn't my self, ebcasue i couldn't be and when i started being true to me and not the people around me i looked at the guliest guy and school adn guess what hes awsome and every grl he has had, he treats them like royality.....try dating out of ur "click" ull find once people know YOU you'll get the guys you want.

Always with love,
Bianca

that's actually really funny. (that comment was towards the intial post)
cheerleaders aren't popular at all in my highschool.
most people(girls) just view them as sluts.
i don't know any of them so I can't say anything.
they're just as "popular" ( i hate using that word) as people who play lacrosse. The difference? there is none!
exactly.

im a cheerleader too and this guy went out with me to get popular and all the senior guys liked him cuz he treated me good then he broke my heart right before we both had practice cuz he played football and his friends told him you made a stupid choice get a life and now none of them talk to him i hate when guys do that either they like you or not they need to find someone they like just not the way they look i mean come on get a life but jsut find someone that really likes you