Virigin needing help

S.D.-- Here are some questions you might ask yourself. Do you love this guy and is your love based on the kind of person that he is? Since you became aware of his sexual experience, has this really made any change in the person you know him to be? Maybe if he had a chance to do things over, it would be different. But the reality is that things just are what they are now and no one can go back and undo the past.

It sounds like you feel very let down because his experience conflicts with the hopes and expectations you held. It is pretty common, especially in teen years and early adulthood, for our hopes and expectations to be based on idealistic hopes and dreams rather than reality. Dreams and fantasies are fun and exciting. But over the course of our lives there are times when we have to trade our dreams for reality. The more we allow dreams and fantasies to shape our lives and our expectations, the greater that life’s disappointments and heartbreaks are going to be.
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I don’t think that sex is so casual and commonplace that everyone is having sex all the time, as was implied here by someone else. Unfortunately, mass media might seem to have induced us into thinking that’s true. I think it’s closer to the truth to say that people are talking about it all the time rather than doing it all the time.

I can understand you in that it does make you look at a person differently after you find out there no longer a virgin. You kind of lose a little respect for them in a way. Its not something you should dwindle on though.

simple, you may possibly be jealous. because this lad that you love loved someone else enough to go all the way with them. you just simply need to get your head around this and understand that he's with you now and what happened then was then and your living now and he's yours! you not crazy darling trust me, its perfectly normal, gd luck wid it, nikki xXx