Rely on Yourself

When it come to the many and varied issues that people have, and the broken coping mechanisms that stem from these, I have found that while seeking for solutions the answer rarely lies out-with the self.

You have to be able to rely on yourself, and until you can trust yourself it's up to you to remove the temptations and opportunities to give in. Other people can help you, if you let them. They can encourage or discourage accordingly, support when you are feeling weak and praise when you have been strong, but in the end it is only up to you.

Talking things out, and having others distract you from your immediate need to do something harmful is a temporary measure, though one I know is very effective. However if you intend to overcome your personal vices the change must start within, the intention must be true.

Whether it’s eating disorders, self-harm, abusing alcohol, tobacco, or drugs, someone else has gone through the same thing, and come out the other side. True everyone is different, but it still goes to show that these problems can be overcome, and your ability to do so lies firmly in the realms of possibility.

If you want to quit your harmful tendencies, then you must be sure it’s what ~you~ want. Only then can you seek help and gain from the aid of others. Don’t look for the people who will accept your habits, but for those who want you to change them for your own good. In the short term you might need someone to hold you upright, but in the long term it’s the people who will still be walking beside you when all this is over that really matter.

May you be granted the Hope to continue, and the Inspiration to change.

Stay Strong,

*VioletRaven*

well said VioletRaven! couldn't have said it better myself!

sarah

Thank you,
It means a lot you took the time to read this.

Wow, that was very well said. I don't know where to start, but you had some very strong point but yet at the same time, a part of me is screaming to say something. I don't know what it is. I know that you must first rely on yourself, but I guess what I'm thinking is, where do you run to when you need to escape yourself? I am here to help others when they need it, but as you stated, you must first *want* to change yourself.

As you will find when you try and help someone if they are uncooperative, it is a hard and straining task and many would give up...and you are right, you must first want to help yourself. Very well said.

-Jenna.