All cutting posts, this is the thread #2

Thank you. For Finally Doing Something About the Disrespect in the Last Thread-Including Myself-. This is How The Last One /Should/ have been started. -No Offense-(You Didn't Know The Direction It Would Take,)

x3 Lauren

```But is this only for cutting or will other types/forms of Self Mutilation be allowed to be discussed as well?

I'm sorry. I did not realize this forum existed.

I wonder if my thread should have been locked though. I was not only referring to cutting. But all forms of self harm. This thread doesn't seem to hold the information I was trying to gain. It was a self study after all.

^ You can ask personal questions in this thread. People will take you seriously and answer you with their opinions.

Let’s hope that the posts here stay on the subject and don’t just meander off into abuse as usual. I was one of the “what the…… are they doing that to themselves for”. Until one day recently I emailed someone in the first thread for the reasons they cut themselves.

Since I was five I’ve haven’t been able to sleep. Rocking my head against the wall until I got so dizzy I’d finally fall asleep. Ever since then two to four hours have been the norm. Even now that I got my life on track. I’m still up at two or three in the morning. I bike to work and have to be up at 5.30am -6.30am depending on when I start

It’s really crazy but I find some comfort in doing this. Basically that was the same reason I received back from the e-mail I sent. It was her way of coping. In a way I now understand. Inside my mind I wanted to e-mail back how damaging this was for her and that she needs to stop before it gets out of control.

But I can’t give up what I do, why do I expect more from her?

Elisha-

"It was her way of coping. In a way I now understand. Inside my mind I wanted to e-mail back how damaging this was for her and that she needs to stop before it gets out of control."

Hmmm... I'm willing to bet that it allready is out of control.

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Bob-

I repeate the question someone asked before. Is it for all types of self harm or only cutting?

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Ok some ways to restrain yourself from cutting:

Try cutting up a peice of paper, it kinda relives the stress.
Use rubber bands on the wrist, snap it when you want to cut.
Read, watch tv or put together a puzzle. Pick a topic and reaserch it on the net.
Exersise.
Hold Ice to the part of your body you cut.
Draw red scars on a peace of paper using a red pen.
Draw red scars on your arm, with a red felt tip pen.
Take a hot soothing bath.
Squeeze ice hard (It really hurts).

^ The purpose of abstaining from cutting is not to relieve it with different forms of pain.

I know but people who cut, usually cant stop straight away. So using other methods might help them for a bit. Hopefully they'll be able to fully stop later on. But people want pain and holding ice hurts but only for a bit and its better then cutting/burning.

Shall i edit that post though?

The post is fine, because it is strictly your opinion.

But the purpose of cutting is not to feel pain, but to relieve stress. It is through that pain that stress is relieved. There are other healthy alternatives to relieving stress and some of your methods are indeed healthy.

Such as exercise, or taking a bath. Anything that calms you is a healthy alternative, but sometimes these methods are not enough.

Seeking help is always a must.

I tend to think the self hard is a symptom not the under lying factor. I know what I do with sleep is really unhealthy but its like an addiction I suspect the same with cutting. Maybe something like an eating disorder comes into the same catagory. Eating isn't the prolem maybe body image or something else is.

i cut now and to me, its hard to stop...i've cut for the past 2 years because i had/have so much stuff going on and me cutting myself is like a high...but cutting started me thinking about drugs so i started on that and then suicide....it's really hard and i belive its a bad...''addiction''.

Ok, i have been SI-free for almost 3 months, before my last relaspe i was free for almost 10 months., before that i cut for ithink .. 3 years.. or four, im not sure. all i know is i started in fifth grade. So if any one want so talk about short term ways to stop, or ways to get your mind off it here is a short list of things i have done-

Write-Either poetry or just venting.
Pace- i'd pace in my room when id get upset, i would listen to music and just pace back and forth. (doesnt help that much)
Carve into my bedframe. i have a wooden bed so i would take a nail file or tweezers or something and just carve things. sometimes meticulously or sometime jsut harsh slashes.
Squeeze ice- it hurts soo bad. and is cold. it works some what..
clench my fists. idk.. it just made me feel better.
Scream into my pillow. the only thing is that people could hear me cause my pillow is crap. xD
Cry-Self explanatory

For a longer list i would try www.recoveryourlife.com
i have many friends on there who i can talk to about stuff . and they have a large list of things to do other than SI.

=]

Lauren

If you are trying to stop cutting the best thing to do is throw out all your cutting supplies. I did that, and whenever i had an urge to cut i would have to search for something, before i could find something the urge had passed

could anybody give somemore adives on trying to stop...i think i'm starting to take my cutting just a bit to far

her tears are washing away all t:

Look at some of the tips above.

And this site that lauren gave is really informative:
www.recoveryourlife.com
Ive visited it a couple of times, havent joined the forum but its quite good. I'm part of this forum,
www.facetheissue.com/community
There both support websites.
Good luck,
xx

ok thanks

Lyla. that is the most sensible and best idea eva. ppl should take it seriously....it relli works. thanks for that...i've used it b4 and it helped

^^^^ Not sayin it wont work for some, but if your really desperate to cutt youll find something sharp prettily easily! You be surprised at what lenghts i ussed to go to to find something sharp!

ohh yea same, during my desperate times in hospital i could always find sumtink within a matter of 5-10min. and thats in a locked up and secure ward where everything gets taken away from you and there nurses everywhere and checks always going on. but i suppose when ur desperate ur desperate. i just found that the above idea worked when i was at skool and i relli didn't have an opportunity to look around much. but yeh. works for sum not others

I think cutters should look at the harm they are inflicting not just to themselves but to the people around them. I was a cutter but when my brother found out he went nuts. He made me realise that there were people out there that really did care about me and how selfish I was being by only thinking of me. The pain I would have caused my family if my suicide attempt was successful would have been horrendous and it made me stop very suddenly. Throw out your stuff and if you ever feel the urge think of your family and friends and imagine what their life would be without you and the pain you would cause them.

I have been SI'ing for a long time. For me it is just a way for escaping and often a distraction from whatever the hell is going on inside and in my life. It's something to latch onto, something real. And it's compulsive, I will be in public, like on a bus or something, and I will get stressed and suddenly realised I'm scratching my arm raw. I think the ideas on alternatives to cutting are really good, because, even if they are still self harm, like holding ice or flicking hairties and rubber bands, they are nowhere near as life threatening or bad for you as cutting yourself is.

I've always thought stronly about this quote-

"we shouldn't be disturbed by the cutting...but by what causes it"

Nice quote.

I started Self-harming 4 years ago.
Because of being adopted, having no self worth and just lack of confidence.
I used to get really emotional and was hurt easily by other people's words and opinions.

I didn't want anyone to know what i was doing, i was ashamed but couldn't stop, it hurt more when i realised no-one actually noticed the tiny things, such as pulling down my sleeves when people spoke to me, wearing long sleeve tops in winter.
I did this for about seven months without anyone noticing, and it was by accident that someone read my personal diary (i stupidly left it on top of my locker!).
I didn't know that this person had read it, seeing as though the diary was still there when i went back.
But a week or so later, while I was on a Vocational GCSE this person blurted it out to my lecturer.

I never asked for her support, i didnt even want to talk to her, but she was so kind, and really helped me, i was allowed to write letters to her, whenever i had a bad day and she would speak to me about what i had written.

I knew that the person who blurted this out, couldnt keep her mouth shut and she soon began telling my friends, who pretended they cared but then stopped talking to me.
The teachers began noticing the gossip and i was taken to the heads office where he spoke to me, i was really frightened because he said he had to tell my parents!

And things got worse, but then with the help of my newly found friend (my lecturer), I began to cut less. I found things hard after i left school, but the info was passed on to my new lecturers at college.

I began counselling and now have not cut myself in a year (not properly), which to me is a result.
I do have times when i find myself thinking about it, and i do get sad but i am much more confident, i have friends and my poetry keeps me occupied.

I want everyone out there to listen to this, You can stop, it is hard and takes time, but you just have to have the right friends, trust in them and yourself, don't be afraid of what others think of you, because you are all beautiful within your hearts.

Keep your head up and keep smiling.
There is hope for you all.

Ever need to talk, I am here just Email me.

Much love, Tara-Kay

Tara-Kay,
Im glad your teacher helped you out.

Recently a teacher saw my scars, my form teahcer was told and she in form period, she was asking me what was wrong and stuff. She asked to see my arms (which had scars all over them), and also asked why i wasnt eating lunch... I just kept lying and saying i was fine and nothing was wrong...

The next tuesday another teahcer found out. Again i wissed a bit of my maths lesson with her talking to me. At first i denyied everything, saying i was fine etc. But then i just couldnt take it anymore and i kinda told her about my eating disorder. Now every lunch time, my firends, and a teacher has to make sure i eat a sandwhich. She was really nice about it.

The first teacher that found out about my arms, called my parents and told them about it. my dad asked me what was wrong, if i was beiung bullied or anything. Didnt say anything to him.

So my parents know i self harm, (not about my ED since im improving), and well everything has gone a little better. I can go a few days without cutting, scracthing or purging now. A little step i know but its a start.

So everyone, talking about whatever with your teacher will help you. I know from personal experiance. :)

for the past year or so i have been self harmful to myself...........i tried to go to counseling the the woman i had never really listened to me and everytime my mom talked to her she would always take her side and never really gave a crap about my side.......i have scars on my arm and both legs........it has been getting worse lately because my mom and i have been getting into alot of fights and i have been getting accused and critized about a whole bunch of stuff that i havent done.........and my mom is getting worse in health......her back has been really bad for about 5 years now and its getting so bad that she falls alot.......she just fell last night down the stairs and hurt her back and her elbow really bad.........my uncle doesnt help matters much cause all he freakin does is sit on the couch and watch tv or stands theres and yells at her for being out of bed........i dont know what to do anymore??!!

I've been wanting to tell my friends about my cutting but I'm scared to how they'll react. They're the kind of people who make the regular cutting joke of like "aw I'm sad now I'm gonna go cut myself" I've stopped forcing laughs at them and just start to kind of go blank. I've been droping hint after hint but they don't seen to get it. I wish at least one of them was smart enough to figure it out without freaking out. I've come close to telling a couple of then a million times but I'm not ready for them to lecture me or end up telling thier parents, who'll tell my parents, who'll freak out worse than anyone.
I try to write and distract myself but my mind keeps comming back to it. I don't even think that there's a trigger for it anymore, I can just feel it and want it. After I do cut though I feel sick with myself. I know I need to stop I know I want to stop I just need one of my friends to help me.

hi there broken soul. I know exactly how you feel I went through that struggle for a long time. I eventually came out to one friend whom I trusted most, and she was great about it. I also know what it's like to not want people to know because you're scared of what they'll say, but to also want so desperately for somebody to realise you're hurting and to help you because you're tired of feeling alone. It hurts when people say nasty things about selfharm, it just shows how ignorant some people can be. If you want to talk more, email me. Possibly you should consider professional help, as it's confidential and they can help a lot. I'm a hypocrit though, I've never got professional help. Also, www.lifesigns.org.uk is an awesome site with a great chat board, all related to selfharm. maybe you should check it out if you haven't already.

Hey all, just a few words here. Self-harm is a difficult subject, especially here at this site b/c of past problems, etc. I have been struggling with self harm for a long time, and I just wanted to get a web site out to you all. It is a brilliant web-site completely dedicated to support and information and discussion of all forms of self harm. I have been a member for a while, and it has helped in some bad crunch times.

www.recoveryourlife.com

Also, I have been through it all, and seen it all, so I would be happy to talk to anyone that needs a listening ear. My username for the above listed site is Tainted Miko. Best of luck to you all.

-Eleesa

Okay so I told one of my friends and she promised that she wouldnt tell anyone... unless I slip up even just once. and that scares me because I've been trying to stop ever since I started which was about 6 months ago. I've been trying to its just hard. laksdfj Now I'm thinking telling her wasnt such a good idea.

ummm i dont know if do what is classified as cutting
but whenever im sad ( whcih is a lot) i'll carve something into my skin like a heart or something
its the only thing that makes me feel better, i don't know why
maybe its just making me focus on a different kind of pain instead of the emotional pain

i agree, the line between "just for fun" or "boredom" and then "self-harm" can blur VERY easily. i remember how cutting became a fad at my school, which is disgusting, but its not fun and its not stylish and its definitely something you want to avoid. that being said, i believe there is some sort of body modification that consists of scarring and i mean if thats ur version of body art then so be it but otherwise...be careful.

when my cutting got worse, one of my friends told it to me like this.
i was dating chawawa at this time still and a friend said:
If you dont care about yourself enough not to cut thinkk of chawawa every time you cut.imagine you are pressing that blade against his arm.

she was right.i didnt care enough about myself to stop so i had to put some one else there.

i cut at one point it got so bad i was doing it almost every hour now i'm getting better. I tried using rubber bands and snaping them against my wrist this helped for about two days. Then something hapend and i fell back into the cutting. I have only slowed now because my best freind told me that everytime i cut he was going to. I haven't cut to much after that day two weeks ago. No matter what i do i can't seem to completely stop. The more people ask me about it and how im doing the more i want to pick up my blade and slice my arm. I have tried and failed numorous times to take my life. Something always goes wrong. It has been veiwed as a sign for most of my freinds. I veiw it as sheer torture.

When my cutting got too bad I switched to squeezing ice cubes. It helped me through.. :) I'm over all of it now for about *-) a year and a bit.. :) I'm going the right way, I guess..

x

I fail...
I hide...
I smile...
I bleed...
I smoke...
I've given up on all of these...
Now I'm just SolelyGuitar...

i started cutting over the summer... my friends would always say that it relieved stress.. that it was better then doin drugs... adn well alot of things went on and i didn't want to go to one of my friends and ask for some... so i cutt... but then i couldn't stopp... i did in 17 times in one day... for everything that has caused stress and ppl that had hurt me... and now my bffene found out and he is now makeing me stop... hes promised to stop smokin pot if i stopped cutting... its really hard..i mean really really hard to stop and i stopped b4 i found out my bf was cheatin on me wit a gurl 4, almost 5 years youngeer then us... and that hurht alot... i almost cutt but i couln't find my sfatey pins... i use saftey pins to cut cause i dnt trust myself with a nife or a razor blade.. im afriad ill go too deep.. someone i kno did and he almost died and we all paniced.... honestly i would of rather did the effin drugs...

i use to not cut myself until i met this one guy that i thought loved me...ever since then i just take my anger out by cutting...nothing else seems to work.. so i dont know what to do..i did stop but now everytime i have a bad day i just want to do it again...i wish there was some way to stop me from wanting to do it.

Guys arent worth your pain honey.

And the one who is won't cause it,

-dorky quote but true.

But the only way to have the want stop is to make it. DONT WANT TO DO IT. its as simple-yet so complicated as that...

ok thanx

'i cut myself to take away my pain
it makes me happy
and i hate that for happyness
i have to make myself bleed HELP PLZ'

i feel exactly the same, sometimes my past catches up to me, other times its arguments between work, or even me and my boyfriend, sometimes my family.. i try hard not to do it but sometimes the feeling is too strong and i have to, like tonight, i argued with my boyfriend a little, and what pushed me over the edge was he logged off his computer and said because he could!

im a total mess and nobody notices because i cover it with a stupid fake smile! HELP

october xx