Has anyone here gotten out of depression by falling in love?

I used to suffer from severe depression. I even used self mutilation to try to forget all of my pain. It seemed i could never get myself out. I had boyfriends who tried to help me, but nobody could. Then i met someone, and fell in love with him. While I was falling in love i noticed i was no longer depressed, instead i had the symptoms of falling in love. I even stoped cutting. We were together for a while, and then he ended it. I was devistated. I was so SAD but NOT depressed! I couldnt believe. Before i was scared that If something happened to us, i would be right back where I started, but i wasnt, i was cured. I didnt even even cut myself when he dumped me. I was wondering if anybody else had any similar experiences, anf if you think it could have had something to do with love balancing chemicals in my brain..or something...im not exactly sure how it works.

WOW, what a story...i have severe depression but i'm not sure if love is helping me but...with what you said i'm sure it could help you come out of depression

Shoot me now. Does someone want to do the honor of tearing this apart, or shall I?

it got me outta depression a little a while back...but i think i got outta depression cuz i was with him and we helped each other out...but after we broke up i started to crumble again...soo it mite of been by falling in love..

I have a similar story.
I'm glad to hear your depression was cured.

I was depressed for around two years before I met mine... Then I fell in love. Recently, he broke up with me, after we had been dating for nearly two years. It really hurts now... And I'm slipping back into depression.

Ah, I'm getting off topic. This is about you.
I'm very glad that you learned self harm isn't the thing to do and realized you are stronger.
Love can do many things....

I hope you are doing well. If you ever need to talk, please, email me.

xTheEcstasyOfSuicidex

A year and several months ago I had an intense relationship with a young lady who I loved very much. As our relationship grew and progressed we delved into deeper parts of our relationship. Before such a car crash could be avoided a beautiful daughter was at my doorstep.

When I stood in that delivery room and saw my young principacia for the first time, I knew I did not have time to be depressed. One cannot dwell on thoughts of suicide when raising such a fragile thing.

You may say that I was cured by falling in love. But it is hard not to when such a beautiful young girl is relying on your care.

^^ aw, that was beautiful.

i did but then we split and i feel worse than b4!

i had been SHing for about 4 years and had just gotten out a secure unit when i met my bf. We stayed friends for a while and thats when i stopped cutting. When he finally asked me out i felt happy, and i remember it so well because i had not felt happy in years. We have been together nearly 4 months. I am 6 months cut free and 4 months free from the pit of depression.
im terrified of loosing him but i know if anything does happen he has made me a stronger person.

still i want him forever =D

i have. but its rocky. he does help me through though. =]

x3

lush story
wooooooooooop your happy !!!!!!!!!!!
ive had depression but the summer got rid of mine
but it came back this winter and got worse
but has stopped ALOT
so i am happy to
and falling in love is very nice

what happened to your boyfriend that tryed but couldnt help you out of depression ??

me x x x x x

Yeah, I have. my fience now. We broke up one time before, and a time before that we almost broke up because he left for SD because I forced him emotionally away from me. And I didnt cut or anything, i was devestated and very very anger and upset, but i got better, and we got back together

Didn't EVEN have to get a kitchen weapon and slice your arm after he was gone! Wow.

Seriously, no self harm solves depression, ever. Like a billion people on the internet have said.

k?k.

umm...did anyone say that self harm solves depression?

If only I had a gun.

BANGBANG...

You're dead with two shots to the head.

Maybe you fell in love, you were happy and gave up cutting. Then when he dumped you, you had already broken the habit of cutting, and it didn't make sense to start up again? I don't understand you self harmers.

I felt so much pain when he dumped me..but i knew self harm wasnt the answer anymore. And its not even about that, i wasnt depressed anymore, that was a big deal to me

Oiy!
People.
This is NOT a self-harming thread.
DROP THE D-MN SUBJECT.
And to you all who don't 'understand' cutters: It's a release. of adrenline (spelling). Figure that out. God.

Now. Goodbye.

xTheEcstasyOfSuicidex

I thought I was in love but it was just pain blinding me

^ Huh?

Does that have anything to do with the subject?

I think love does wierd things to us. I have a boyfriend and I can tell you I am much MUCH happier now that I am with him. I think (and correct me if I'm wrong) that the feeling of love can change you because the person you are in love with gives you a positive energy and makes you want to do positive thing rather then nagitive things such as self-harming. I feel it's a wonderful thing because someone who can be such a great inspiration and motivation to help you change your ways from being depressed to being happy and care free is such a fantastic thing!. I also beilive that you need to have the ability to want to change as well. But having a boyfriend or someone who loves you back and makes you feel so good about yourself can really help you come out from being depressed.

sarah

yep! i'm happy....i'm in love but i don;t have a bf....if i'm in love with my ex...it will keep me being sad...but liking someone else makes me feel a WHOLE lot better!!!!!!

Well that's silly....

at least to me...

I truly believe you can't rely on anyone else or anything as inconsistent as love to save you. You are your own hero and only you know what you want to hear. Everyone else will just let you down.

^^^
Wait until you fall in love. =]

Then you'll change your mind quickly.
You may be vunerable, but it's worth it.

xTheEcstasyOfSuicidex

Wait until I fall in love?

I have fallen in love three times, which you may think is impossible because love is SUPPOSED to be forever and if it's not, then it's not true love. You might say that it's not real love because you can't fall in love more than once...

but you'd be wrong, in my case. Because I'm finally in love with someone VERY MUCH. I would give my whole heart to him. I want to MARRY him and have a bajillion of his children...I'm completely vulnerable and I love the way he takes care of me.

But it doesn't change the fact that at times, I still get depressed and even he, as much of a poetic genius as he is, can't pull me out of my depression. I try to be happy for him but somethings are stronger...some things are harder and overwhelming...

And he is the same way. We've both been through too much already, seen too much and felt too much. And we can't get rid of a lot of it. And while we do our best to make each other happy, sometimes, it's just not enough to BE happy. It doesn't change the fact that we LOVE each other...

In fact, I just got a text from him telling me that he cut the crap out of his arm...and he wanted to let me know because we're honest and he regrets it. I'm glad that he told me, I just wish he hadn't done it. Bahhh whatever.
Merry Freaking Christmas, everyone.

^ I agree with most of what was said above.

But the question was not, are you ever depressed while in love? It was, have you risen above depression by falling in love?

It's not an absolute case. I support you in the fact that at times you still become depressed while in a loving relationship.

Do you know what I do when that happens? I wake my daughter, hold her close to my chest, and feel her heart beating in her little body; knowing I created that beat, that breath, that child, and suddenly nothing else matters.

She is the best thing that has ever happened to me, and everyday I am blessed she is here with me.

You say you can't rely on anything as inconsistent as love to save you. I'd like you to tell that to my daughter, and ask her how she would survive without my love.

'I have fallen in love three times.'

I doubt that, but say what you want. Your post is pointless and irrevalent, in my opinion. It says nothing and I stick by what I said.
I was replying to the poster and as always, you have to come in a downcast someone. That's who you are. Get over yourself. You tire me.

I'm done with this pointless thread.

And thank you Nobody, as always sticking up for me. I greatly appreciate you.

xTheEcstasyOfSuicidex

I think that love can cure most things.
But i guess that it just me believing in it..

I know a few people whove gotten outa depression by falling in love. Even though it wasn't intentional untill they eralized that the girl that was there for them was "perfect"

Ecstasy--calm the heck down, woman. I did nothing but share my opinion on this thread. And how on earth could you know the intensity of what I've felt for those three people if you are not me? You have no idea what I was willing to do for all of them. What I wouldn't have given to have 2 of those guys. And now, I wouldn't give a second glance to them because they've moved on past me. Love isn't always forever, but it doesn't completely erase the fact that there was love. You can have love unreturned which can be extremely heartbreaking and cause you to move on. And I'm glad that I moved on. I found the love of my entire life now...

And there are different KINDS of love. You love your parents one way. You love your friends another. You love your boyfriend, girlfriend, fiance, husband, wife, whatever in another. You can love GOD...you can love your neighbors...think about it. SEVERAL different ways to love someone.

And in the way that i was referring...as to the partnership, most times, it IS inconsistent. And putting that pressure on someone to save you, it's cruel and makes life a lot harder. Though I'm glad that you love your daughter, that you're grateful for her. I wouldn't want it any other way. That's how a father SHOULD love his daughter!

But in my case, as I'm saying, I do not believe that -I- can rely on love or anyone else for that matter to save ME. Only I can pull me out of a depression and only I can tell myself when to snap out of it. Only I can dictate which reality I chose to accept and what's more--to ignore.

And right at the moment, I'm trying to ignore the fact that Ecstasy got so EASILY angered without any direct insult...Please calm DOWN. It's only a thread. It's only a site. And this is only my opinion. No one HAS to agree with me and I'm not telling you that you HAVE to. Feel free to completely brush off my opinions, as I shall feel free to do so if I do not approve of yours.

Peace out.

Hold up, just one second.

"I doubt that, but say what you want. Your post is pointless and irrevalent, in my opinion. It says nothing and I stick by what I said.
I was replying to the poster and as always, you have to come in a downcast someone. That's who you are. Get over yourself. You tire me.

I'm done with this pointless thread."

1. MY post is pointless and irrelevent? Excuse me? What does your post right there have anything to do with the topic other than to degrade my opinions? What does it exist for? And that's fine if you think that, I don't really mind...it's just that I find it slightly hypocritical.

2. "and as always, you have to come in a downcast someone. That's who you are. Get over yourself. You tire me." --How do you know who I am? How do YOU know what I always or never do??? I haven't been on this site but on one of my own thread in AGES. Haven't posted my opinion on much of anything lately and I've only posted like 1 poem in the last week. So I think "always" is a bit of an exaggeration. I haven't downcasted anyone. I gave my opinion and just because my opinion isn't as happy-go-lucky, uplifting, and spiritually supportive as your theory that love CAN pull you out of a depression (and by all means, go ahead and keep believing what YOU want), it doesn't discredit MY opinion. Which is the problem with most people on the site. They believe their opinion is right and only their opinion, and that annoys me (again--my opinion). And it stinks that you have to be so darn politically correct in every post, have to state that it's YOUR opinion in order not to offend anyone.

3. If I tired you, why did you waste more of your time, exhausting yourself with bitter thoughts against me, to post the thread that you did. You didn't even give me any real FEEDBACK. You just snapped and insulted. Now honestly, what good is that going to do anyone?

Lol. Nice long posts. Woo.
I told you, I'm done with your pointless thread.
Drop the subject.

xTheEcstasyOfSuicidex

So here I am reading this nice discussion about other peoples troubles when suddenly it turns into a FREAKIN ! , havent you ever heard of the saying, if you dont have any thing nice to say, dont say it at all? And Sick, way to defend yourself but you've kind of turned the discussion into something about you. And finally, both of you, who's to even say what love is? For one person it might be having woo-hoo for the first time and for another it might having a friend for the first time. Now I ask, if somebody else is brave enough to bring this discussion back to where it started please do, but otherwise will the two of you please shut up?

^^ Ditto. xD

You guys bicker like an old married couple.

My experience, no. Congratulations on not cutting, but I found my bouts of depression were mostly simply due to being on the rebound and dating on the rebound is NOT SOMETHING I WOULD RECOMMEND! as I would also not recommend dating anyone on the rebound. And, honestly, dating anyone with expectations that their love will somehow save you is a little naive and somewhat dangerous...though, as others have said, sometimes it just happens. Just like love.

it totally brought me out of my depression. i was really depressed until i met my boyfriend. he's helped me through so much and he doesn't evn kno it. it's nice to have someone to talk to about things so i don't resort to something else tht might hurt me.So yea i think love can fix almost nething, if ur willing to let it.

*Shawte*

i have pretty bad depression, i met this guy named brett and we dated for 6 months and i was so happy the whole time, i didnt feel sad one time, and then he broke up with me after he knew that i had cut myself before, i was so sad i cut again and i got caught by teachers at school cuz brett told them, so i got kicked out of school for a while and it just made me sadder, i have to go on medicine and stuff now......i dont think i have ever been sadder then when brett left me.....we are back together now and i am very happy again, but i think he is the only reason!

boo

hahaha

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SIERRA!

ahaha

boo ya'll!

HAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Suck on THAT =]

maybe we should end this discussion because SOMEBODY obviously cant survive without attention. by the way sick, suck on what? you didnt say anything worth reading.