Bestfriends shouldnt date.

um ok?
who knows you the best?
your best friends.
who understands you the most?
your best friends.
who is there for you no matter what?
your best friends.

people can date their best friends if they want
because im guessing that they have other
friends and idk maybe they have more
than one best friend, eh?

"if you are in a relationship and under 20 its not going to end in marrage."

do you know that for sure?
no.
there is high school sweethearts bud.

yeah, they might think that they are in love
with them but what if they really are?
are you just gonna sit there and watch it pass by
and wonder, for the rest of your life, what it would have been like?

God damnit.

Both of you got here before I could post, and I saw this the moment it opened.

Anyway.

I know a young lady who dated her best friend in high school for many, many years before getting married. Their relationship never turned to lust, and they were always a joy to be around.

I myself had a lovely relationship with my "best friend" which gave me a beautiful young daughter.

The problem with teenage dating is there aren't enough best friends out there.

Posting topics to counteract other topics is quite petty and a waste of time.

Please, leave your petty squabbles in the drawer.

well i don't have much time but i thought i would like to add in 1/10 relationships from highschool do get married. and out of those 1/10 people most of them stay together thier intire life...

well now divorce is more common... so the numbers have lowered.

-/2 Terra

"The problem with teenage dating is there aren't enough best friends out there."

^ Wow, great point. I've never thought about it like that before.

To the original poster: I think it depends on who you are. Some best friends make really good mates (I'm at a loss for words today, so "mate" was the best I could come up with at the moment). And others, well they're just meant to be friends, because that's how they both benefit the best. A friendship should start off the relationship, if the relationship factor is there and if it's meant to be.

Personally, I think if two people just rush into a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship without being friends first, they lose out on the most beneficial and rewarding part of life.

I disagree with the whole under 20 thing . Not all relationships are like that . My best friend got with her boyfriend in seventh grade . They both just graduated and are now going to college together . That`s one heckuva relationship to me . And my other best friends have been in relationships for a long while now starting in eighth on average . Some have already married, about to get married, and a couple even have kids ! So don`t say that so matter-of-factly please .
Also being best friends first can help a relationship . Most of my friends relationships with best friends -- Even if it didn`t work out , they stayed best friends anyway . It`s not bad to take a chance when you feel strongly for someone . Sometimes, some best friends just shouldn`t date, it`s true . But it depends on the two best friends .

My boyfriend is my best friend.:)

good one " Tainted Beauty"--

most of my family who have married meet in high school

No one knows who they will end up with.HE!! you might end up with your best friend.I know it might be scary as he!! to break up a friendship if you date, But don't let no one stop you from being happy. Like some of these people on here, give them a chance.. See how they work out.

I think that people tend to have a better connection with their best friend than anyone else on the planet, and you have the best possible chance of having a meaningful and lasting relationship with someone who you have that connection with.

Me and my boyfriend have a lot of mutual friends, so when we originally hooked up I was worried about what would happen if we broke up. That would make it awkward for everyone.

However, if you're having feelings for someone who is having them back, you don't want to spend forever wondering what could have been.

Your best friend could be perfect for you, if you were only willing to give it a shot. I also think that when you're in love with someone they become your best friend. You might still have your other friends, and refer to somebody else as your best friend, but if you're truly in love then you should be able to talk to them as you would to a best friend.

Okay I'm rambling, so here's my point: Me and my boyfriend have been together for close to 7 months. We took a risk when we started dating, and it paid off. I consider him to be one of my best friends now. So from personal experience, I think you should risk dating your best friend, there's a really good chance it's worth it.

Sure people have a better connection but it doesn't mean that they are made for eachother...my friend has been in an on-off relationship with her best friend and it just ends up in slander and tears...but they are only young so who knows with some it can work out but it may not....it's all up to fate ~peace out~

I have dated some of my best friends. All of my boyfriends, in fact, were friends (I;ve only had four in my lifetime). I learned firsthand that you have to be really careful when you date them. If you get in a fight, your entire group of friends will be divided, you won't have that friend to talk to about it, and if you have classes together it's REALLY difficult. So if you're seriously in love, take that risk, but if you're unsure, might wanna wait it out for awhile.

--Fionn

"Sure people have a better connection but it doesn't mean that they are made for eachother...my friend has been in an on-off relationship with her best friend and it just ends up in slander and tears...but they are only young so who knows with some it can work out but it may not....it's all up to fate ~peace out~"

^You're right, just because you have a better connection doesn't mean you are made for each other. BUT you do have a better chance of having a longer and healthier relationship with that connection there.

And I don't believe in fate. It's just an excuse.

That's why I think that if you are interested in someone, just get to know them as friends first. Not necessarily date the best friend that you have. It could save a lot of tears and heartache.

I think Best friends should date if they have feelings for the other on, you wont ever know if your meant to be with out trying if it turns out you become no longer friends then thats a risk you will have to take. Personally i think the two people should be machure enough to get over there problems and be godd friends again. My boyfriend over the last year and a half has turned into my best friend. Friends come and go. Its life.

I also think your wrong about if your under twenty you wont end in marriage. All my friends and family members have gotten married around 17 and the guys 18. People do get married young.

fuck that!

[sorry for my language...]

that's way not true. ur best friends are the people that know u the most, they know u even more then ur parents do.

they know what annoys u and what makes u happy. they would be a perfect bf or gf.

they practically know ur whole life story anyway.
and best friends love each other, and most have similar intrests.

to conclude,
best friends are the ideal wives or husbands for anyone.

I think it would be good to have many best friends.

umm...i've dated 2 of my best friends in the world. neither of them worked out though. it was too weird. but we went on being best friends after we broke up. i think it's fine to give it a chance. we always joke about it too.

i think bestfriends shouldnt date because after that everything becomes wayyyyyyyyyyy awkward not to mention you start to drift different directions lol

one of my exs was a close friend i considered him a best friend and we are still close cuz we can tell each other anything literally and yah we didnt last long he had family issues so i dnt blame him

people can date 1 of their best friends; the problem is WHEN THEY BREAK UP.

Its kinda rude to say best friends shouldnt date but its your opinion. Many people have dated their best friends and still are or learned more then ever about them while they were dating then when they were friends. I've never dated my best friends because they are all girls. And I'm not a bisexual so yeah. But yes their are people who were under 20 and when they became old enough married. I've had numerous of friends that have had that happend. One of my friends have been married to her husband for 34 years and they're still married with 4 kids and 16 grandkids. And they met when she was 15 and he was 16.

I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU MEAN because i dated my bestfriend and when whe broke up and me and him never talked sense..that broke up a GOOD friendship just because we wanted to try it out..So yeah that is true...I'm not saying that being best friend would hurt yalls relationship because it would sorta help it but make sure yall are meant to be with each other first..Okay.. :)

I dated my best friend and when we broke up we didnt talk for a bit but we talk now and i tell him everything

i'm actually not sure how to answer this. i dated one of my best friends and we haven't talked in a long time. he ignores me. i dated another one of my best friend and we're still best friends even though we broke up. i think it's ok to date your best friend but if you break up you could lose them. think about that.

it just depends... i went out with one of my best friends and we broke up because it was just weird but it can definately work out. as long as you promise eachother that you're still gonna be best friends no matter what, go for it!

Your best friend knows you the best.
Your best firend knows everythinga about you.
Your best freind understands you...
Your best friend loves you
Even IF they break up, if they were BEST friends, it shouln't make a difference, becaise a best friend will STILL be there... no matter WHAT!

It is possible that they will get married.... You know love the best when young... Yes, some confuse love for lust.... but you know love when you get it.... And dating your best friend for years... will most probablly lead to marriage

Well, if you are together... won't your bf/gf BECOME your best friend?

From experience, if you're in high school, don't date your best friend. He was my best best best friend!! We talked about everything, said we loved each other. Often times, you love their personality and how they treat you, but honestly, don't risk getting more than friendship involved in it. That friend of mine broke my heart and it will never be the same.

Granted, like said above, you will become best friends with your spouse when you get married and the lust part of it dissipates, but you get that way after a long long period of time.

And as someone else said that I read, yeah I love my best friends that are girls, they understand me the best and all that jazz but it doesn't mean I'm going to go date them now, does it?

My teacher said tht u have to marry your best friend. he said tht no1 knows u better, and no1 can talk to u better or feel more comfortable around u than your best friend. i went out with my best friend, we went out for more than a year, evn though he broke up with me, we're still always there for eachother, no matter what. if your best friend breaks up with u and nvr talks to u again, he (she) wasn't your best friend in the beginning. best friends should be able to get through ANYTHING!! so i think ppl should date their best friends, they just have to sure tht tht person is truly their best friend.

Thank you ^. I've been trying to say that. Your best friend will always be there for you. Friendships that turn into relationships do not always work out bad. They can work.. Some do. Some don't. But having a relationship with a complete stranger, I think people are ignoring that

^thts exactly wut i was trying to say!! and your welcome

But some people never find the right person of the opposite sex to be best friends with. I mean, what's to say of their relationship in marriage?

i dated my best friend.granted it didnt end well but it was the best 6 months of my life and we're still really good friends so you cant say best friends should never date, thats just a lie. yes some shouldnt it depends on the two friends duh!

I hate the word duh. People say it like they know everything. It's opinion, not fact.

DUH! Gosh that's so duh-mb.

well who cares what ur opinion is?

.... that is true... most relationships end...

i've come to realize that i'd rather have a best friend for life than a love for a week :\ it's for the best... besides, he doesn't feel the same... we've been thru evrything together... it would feel terrible to lose someone so great!

but i did have another best friend... altho the "good friends ending" sort of grew apart...