Someone Please help! I'm losing everything!

Sunday I just got back together with my boyfriend, and We love each other so much, but a few minutes ago he just told me that his ex might be pregnant, and if she is that means I will lose him. It hurts me so bad because I might lose the only guy that i'm head over hills in love with!
I don't want to give up on him, and I don't want to move on. I want to be with him and him only. I will find out tomorrow if she is pregnant or not. See i've have dated him for about a year and He has only dated her for 4 months and she might be pregnant. This is stressing me out! Please someone help!!! I dont want to lose the one guy that means the world to me!

Why should You have to lose him? If his ex is pregnant and he loves you, there is no reason that he can't be with You and still be a great dad to the child.. Getting back with his ex just for the baby [if that is the case] isn't going to be healthy for him, his ex but most importantly the child.. I hope it all works out for You x

thanks and he is wanting to get back with her for the baby, because he doesn't want the baby growing up thinking he is a bad father

If he is active in the childs life he or she will have no reason to believe he is a bad father, he can give him/her the love and attention he/she will need whether he is living there or not.. in fact he will probably be able to do it better if he is happy with the rest of his life and is with the person he wants to be with.. I'm only saying this because I know what it is like bringing children into the world and then having them around unhappiness of mum and dad arguing and fighting all the time.

thank you, you helped me out alot, i'm gonna talk to him about it and see what he thinks, because I don't want to go through the pain of losing him. He means the world to me and he is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. He gave me a ring to prove to me that he will always be mine, and I just don't thing it's right just to walk away from love just like that. He told me he don't care whether or not he is happy that he isn't thinking about himself he's thinking more about the baby. But me and him was planning on having a family of our own some day and it's killing me inside just thinking that it wont happen. well anyways thank you for your help.

No worries Hun.. and good luck for the future.. I hope it all works out.. with a bit of luck it will be a false alarm so try not to worry too much about it 'til she gets the results :]

ok thank you so much!

oh and one more thing....They didn't do anything to get her pregnant though... I trust what he says and he says that they didn't have sex, that the only thing they did was touch.... Is it possible to get pregnant if they didn't have sex?

HAHAHAHA Bob Shank!

Okay, yeah...I must admit that is VERY gullible...

The only way to GET pregnant is through some form of sexual intercourse, sweety. Just by touching someone, you can't get them pregnant.

And if your boyfriend is lying to you about something as so obvious and stupid as this, you might want to look into what else he's been up to and how many skeletons he has in his closet. It seems to me like he thinks you're very dumb, so dumb that he can get away with a lot...

Pfft. I'm still laughing at the "i believe him totally when he says he only got her pregnant by touching her". Yeah.. that's silly lol!!

Wait a second. I heard that it is possible for a girl to get pregnant even if she doesn't have sexual intercourse, by just being naked with a guy. I dunno, maybe I'm gullible, too? But that's what I've learnt in Sex-ed lol

Well I'm just repeating what they taught us in the eighth grade. Lol.

I don't know why you asked that question... You're 17 it seems impossible for me to believe that you didn't know you couldn't get pregnant from touching.

Well, it's not that I didn't know.... It's just I grew up learning one way and I've heard other things from other people....I grew up learning that you can get pregnant without sexual intercourse if there is ejaculation, and when they touch it some how is on their hands. But then again, i've also heard that it isn't possible.

Maybe I didn't state my question clearly...What I was trying to ask was...Is is possible if he ejaculates and it gets on their hands and they touch..could she get pregnant? from what I heard she can...

Lmao, Bob.

Okay, Bob, yes, you're funny, but this girl is most likely freaking over this, and you're little jokes are not making this any easier for her. Kepp that in mind, please.

As for you, Kasie, if she's pregnant, and he's not lying, its going to be HIS problem because that means... SHE CHEATED. thats another possibility. And there have been cases of guys ejaculating, getting some on their hands, and getting a girl pregnant. but thats VERY EXTREMLY rare. but i highly doubt thats what happened.

and also remember that her claiming to be pregnant might be her way of trying to get him back. maybe she thinks that, if he thinks shes pregnant, he'll come back. you never know. it could be total BS. just wait for the results.

I can't exactly say for sure that you can do better, because I don't know the whole situation, but maybe this is a sign that it's just not meant to be. But who knows what will happen in the future. Let him be with his soon-to-be-born baby and the girl right now; they may need him more than you do.

maybe that gurl got pregnent by another guy---who knows?----well ya it can happen u know?---

ya and i hear frm one person up there--says--ya maybe she jsut want's him back and is acting like she's pregnent---or she really is pregnent--but with another guy sperm--dat can happen- also

well jsut tell us what has been happenning--and how did the test go?

Of course it's not possible to get pregnant from ejaculating on someones hand... WTF are you people talking about, IT HAS NEVER HAPPENED, what world do you live in...

To get pregnant sperm has to get to the egg, that's the only way you can get pregnant. Sperm can't somehow get through your skin then makes it's way through your blood system and meet up with your egg. I don't know what some schools are teaching nowofdays...

Basically you can only get pregnant if sperm gets into you vagina. Does this mean you have to have vaginal sex? No, but if she got it on her hand she would have had to touch her vagina afterwards, and even then the chances of getting pregnant are almost zero, but of course not zero.

uhm u dnt hav 2 hav intercourse...sperm travels...certain other activities can result to gettn sperm in the vagina...use ur imagination haha...ok.

well, she is pregnant. Or at least he says she is. Maybe he just wants to be with her fro some reason. It also could be like y'all said and she is pretending. He left me like he said he would, if she was pregnant. We was doing fine until he had to yell at me and say that "We don't have a future". I had asked him "well, what about our future, where does that put me? I have to lose you over some girl who should of never got pregnent anyways?" Honestly I don't think I should lose him, because he broke up with her before he knew that she could of been pregnant. I'm begining to think that it was more than what he just told me, like he didn't have sex. I'm beginning to think that they did. I would of never did what he did. I would of never went off and got pregnant by some other guy, but he sure did go and get another girl pregnant.
What do I need to do? I have been up 2 nights straight worrying about this. I can't sleep and I can't eat, I can't do anything because it reminds me of him.

If he only dated her for a few months, had sex with her, and THEN dumped her, I wouldn't trust him. Move on hun, he's not worth the risk of a broken heart.

Well...maybe you should be thinking about this in another perspective other than your own.

If you were the other girl, the one whose pregnant. And you had sex with this prick in question and then later he dumped you....wouldn't you feel remorse of having ever slept with him? Yes. Most girls would. And if you found out you were pregnant BY this prick...wouldn't it devastate you even more?

Yes, she shouldn't have "gotten pregnant" like you said. But furthermore, she shouldn't have SEX with this prick. Which means YOU shouldn't still be WITH this prick in question because if it hadn't had been the other girl, this could be happening to you.

So really, in the long run, you should be kind of grateful that this is happening because

1) you learned that he's a liar.
2) you learned that he's a butthead who yells at YOU for something that's not your problem. Men should never raise their voices to a woman. Especially when they're the ones at fault.
3) you learned that he's a sleezebag

and with all of that, you can conclude one very important thing:

He's not worth your time. Though i give him kudos for sticking to his morals and responsibility to stay with it. Maybe you should be a bit less selfish though because there's more than one side and you're not necessarily the victim in this situation.

I understand that she and the baby needs him. I respect him decision, but if I was like her and he got me pregnant and left me before he knew that I was pregnant with him child, I would want him to be happy. Yes of course I would want him there with me, but I would want him happy more than anything because I love him. I know that right now he's not happy with her, because he told me he wasn't. Besides he is only with her because he wants a child and I can't give that to him. I can't get pregnant, or at least thats what the doctors told me. lol. There is a possibility that I could get pregnant, but it's very dangerous with the condition that I have. Yes, I still cry over losing him, but I have accepted that I can't be with him. I'm just going with what my dad always told me. "If you love someone, let them go, If they come back, then its mean't to be." I'm only letting him go because I love him. What really is hard to get use to, is him calling me everyday to see if i'm okay. He called me at 3 am to see if I was okay and I didn't answer the phone, so he left a message saying how much he loved me and asking if I was okay, and he also said he missed me. When I heard that message I just burst out in tears. It's hard for me to talk to him any more. but I'm determined to still be his friend and show him that i'm always there for him when he needs me. I may not of been that good of a girlfriend, but I sure can prove to him that i'll be a better friend.

No, I don't regret metting him, no, I don't regret dating him, and no, I don't regret loving him. The only thing I regret is losing him.

Okay, firstly...I would not invest too much faith in that saying. Because there are a lot of flaws with it and which I have had too much experience.

I loved someone with all my heart and he was showing signs of being unfaithful so I heard that saying and I figured I should try it out....

And I did.
And he's gone. Went bye bye. Never talked to him again and it left me hurting badly for a year and a half. I honestly cannot understand your situation....I feel horrible for you because you're in love with a guy who sounds to me completely wrong for you and you should have enough self worth to walk away from this and tell yourself that you're better than him but you're still too attached. And you're saying that NOW about the imaginary situation of you being pregnant...but trust me, if you WERE pregnant like she was, it would be a whole different story and you would need him there. It's not just all about HIS happiness because if he had it his way, he would probably be sex happy ALL the time and get lots of girls pregnant. He's doing his responsibility, facing his mistakes. And that's more than I can say for a lot of males these days.

The Illicit Dollâ„¢ did you even read my post... My exact post was that you DIDN'T need to have sex to get pregnant but sperm needed to get into the vagina... Then you come and say I'm wrong and that you don't have to have sex.

Don't ever rely on 'sayings' to be correct...they are always a 50/50. It really depends on the situation and those involved. Anyway, if he doesn't love his ex he shouldn't be with her..regardless of the child. He can still be an excellent father while being in a relationship with you. I didn't read all of the above, so sorry if I'm out of the loop.