I'm CONFUSED PLZ HELP!!

  • Jesslynn
    20 years ago

    I'll start from the beginning....When i was in 6th grade (i'm in 8th now) i was molested and ever since then i dont stay with guys long cuz i never trust them or feel comfortable with them...but then about 6 months ago i fell hard for this really nice guy....i really thought i was in love with him and he was the only guy that i trusted and felt comfortable with....he was my first kiss and we were great together and that lasted for 5 months....everyone knew how in love i was and how much he cared...and when something went wrong i would always talk to my friend Evie and she would talk to him for me.....then we broke up about a month ago but he said he didnt wanna be officially over just takin a month long break....i was crushed but i was COMPLETLY broken when he started goin out with Evie....now he doesnt talk to me and all my friends have ditched me and i've just had a really bad month...i dunno how long i can take it and i really need some advice on how to get over him cuz i always think about him and i still cry over him all the time....PLZ GIVE ME SOME ADVICE

  • sarah
    20 years ago

    First of all I am sooooo sorry that happend. Especialy since you were molested when you were younger. secondly your friend Evie is no friend if she knew that you were head over heals for him and went out with him still! ovsiously she odsent know the rules of friendship. you dont ever go out with your friend's ex or seperated b/f unless she has perfimission from you first. I would seriously think about getting a new best friend. about you crying over him that is totly understandable it will probably take a good long time to get over him so cry your little heart out. eventually it will get better and there is always goin to be someone better out there. someone who is more caring, loving and wont go out with your best friend!

  • Jesslynn
    20 years ago

    Thank you so much for the advice....i know she wasnt a very good friend and i havent talked to her since....especially after she saw me bawling my eyes out and then told one of my other friends that she was tryin to get hooked up with him....i just dont understand how she can still feel good about herself after she knows how bad it hurts me to see them together....i've recently started cutting (again).....and it seems like its the only thing that makes a little sense to me these days.....i used to cut but then when i was goin out wit that guy he gave me a better day to wake up to and now that he's gone and i dont have really anyone to talk to i turn to the knife which is bad i know but when i feel so bad on the inside i cut so i'm not focused on that pain then i am focused on the pain on the outside...i dunno why, but that pain is easier for me to deal with...thnx for your advice :)