How Do I Know? --->guys advice more appreciated!

  • Akasha
    17 years ago

    Hey Everyone, I'm knew to this site so I'm just starting to figure this out...but it seems like this is a good place for advice.
    Usually, I am the one who gives everyone else advice...but I have reached that point where there is nothing left of me and my life has switched to neutral. I have no control over my life or my actions, and nothing is going right.

    Okay...so....one of the biggest things bothering me lately is my boyfriend. We have only been officially together for like 2 months maybe, but we've been hooking up and been best friends for a year and a half.

    He's a very inward guy. He hates talking about issues and he hates breaking things down. But a couple of weeks ago he wrote me a horrible email about how we should break up permanently because he doesn't want to deal with my shit and that I should go find someone else who actually cares because I don't give him anything. I was so hurt....but the only reason it came out like that is because he lets problems build up.
    I have to beat things out of him....and even then he still doesn't tell me very much.
    And, he's very logical and stubborn about it. He thinks what he thinks, and that's the way it is...which is fine...but he doesn't even try to see my perspective. Which is really hard because I'm going through such a hard time right now and I really need his support. But he just doesn't seem like he cares. Course, when I say that he gets really mad.

    So....I was wondering if there are any guys out there who can give me advice on how to deal with...guys. lol. I dont want to mess things up with him, but at the same time...I have a lot going on in my life and I really need him. Maybe I'm just paranoid..and high maintenance. I dont know...but I'd really appreciate some opinions.

    There's more to our story...but I don't wana bore you. If by some miracle someone really wants to know/help out...I'm willing to tell. lol.

    Thank you!

  • melly
    17 years ago

    i think you should just get over him
    hes not good for u
    don't let yourself get hurt

  • Alex
    17 years ago

    P.S. I am a guy, and I may be able to help.

    Personally, this guy sounds like he isn't able to satiate your needs in any way. You need someone who is there to listen to your problems and help you deal with everything going on in your life.
    And about the high maintanence thing, everyone deserves someone who is able to, at the very least, listen to your problems. I wouldn't call that high maintanence. I would call it basic human needs.
    But what are you getting FROM this guy? It doesn't sound like you are getting love, respect, or anything from this relationship. I know that there is something from this story that I am missing, but what did he do to earn YOUR love?
    I won't tell you whether to keep him or let him go unless I know more of the story. Relationships are too complicated for that.

  • xXxAngelEyes007xXx
    17 years ago

    ^^^^agreed