Don't want to lose my best friend...

Okay so here's how this goes. I've been best friends with my friend Michelle for about 6 years. About 3 years ago she had moved to a different town (only 15-20 minutes away) and we were both upset about it. Even so, we managed to keep in touch and still stayed best friends. Well, that is, until just recently. Just last weekend she came to sleep over and well i was kind of upset. School has been bringing me down lately (by school i mean the people there). I was all depressed and moody, and not my normal crazy self and because of that Michelle wouldn't be herself either. I felt bad the next day when she left because i wanted us to have fun because we hardly spend time together. Here's the problem. I just recently emailed her over myspce saying that i felt like myself again. Then she replied saying it was great and we could be crazy together again. Then i replied saying that i'm glad she's not mad and stuff. Only, she never replied to that one. Then i notice her new pictures, and they are all of her and another one of her friends that i had met once. It hurt seeing the crazy pictures of them because we used to have pictures like that of us. I still have them on my myspace, but she doesn't. Anyways, i thought i was jumping to conclusions, but when i went to her friends myspace, and looked at her pics, she had the one with her and Michelle, and underneath it, it said "my bff". I feel so hurt. I know some of you may think it's not a big deal, but it's because you don't understand. Michelle always tells me everything, she told me i was her bestest friend forever. I know we live in different towns, but that didn't change anything up until recently. What do i do? I don't want to lose my best friend. I feel like crying, whether it sounds stupid or not. Could it be because of that one day when i was depressed? Please..someone help. I could REALLY use some advice.

Personally, I would try not to worry about it (I know that's hard..).

She can have more than one best friend. And if she doesn't live as close to you as she used to, and she goes to a different school, then it's only logical that she would be making other friends, and getting close to other people.

There is no good advice to give here. You just need to make an extra effort to see her, call her, email her, or any way you can to keep in contact.

I can totally relate to you, my best friend moved two years ago, and I haven't seen her in close to a year. However, we email each other and try to talk as much as possible even after all this time. We obviously have had to grow closer to other people, and it's hard to feel like you are drifting apart.

I hate to say that you are just going to have to accept that with the distance you are going to drift a little, just make the best with what you can.

It does get easier, trust me, once you get used to it. I'm sorry that she moved away, and I hope you feel better soon.

I'm pretty sure I'm not helping much, but I just thought I'd put my opinion on here. And for the record, I highly, highly doubt that this is just because of that one day. She's your best friend and she would understand you better than that.

Best wishes to you and her.xx

I know how you feel. A friend of mine moved away three years ago as well, only to a town about 9 hours away and I haven't seen her since. We've only known each other about a year at the time that I met her, but we bonded so closely so fast that we automatically became best friends. At first we were still really close and called each other almost everyday. We made plans to go to Bible College together and travel and everything when we got older. But then I called her two weeks ago, and it was as if we didn't even know how to talk. And she has made a new "bestest friend forever" which is what I was only a short while ago. I realized though, that, as painful as it is, sometimes people just move in different directions. Sometimes you have to let go of the old to get new stuff. In this case a new best friend, but that doesn't mean that what happened to me will happen to you. I still get along great with my friends back in Newfoundland, even though I moved to Alberta over 6 years ago. It depends on the person. Maybe you guys are just going through a dry spell, and need to make some new friends as well as being there for each other. Just give it time. Sorry if I couldn't be of much help.

Take Care and God Bless,
Sarah-Joy

I know how you feel...
Whenever I'm depressed because of school, she doesn't talk to me because she thinks I'm mad at her... And when we have little misunderstandings, I always cry... But I can't see any sign of concern from her... She's always happy with another friend of hers...

The only thing I can tell you is let her be where she wants to be... If she's happier with her new best friend, you can't force her not to be... I'm sure there's someone out there waiting to be your best friend... And I'm looking for that person now....

Thank you all so much. I feel a little better knowing that people can relate to what i'm going through. I know i should just let it go, and just try to stay in touch with her, but i just feel so horrible. I mean, this girl who could be, i'm not sure, her new best friend, has only known her a year or less. I've known Michelle for 6. I know everything about her. I could write a biography about her. This other friend of hers couldn't possibly know half as much as i do. I guess i'll just have to try to think about something else. It's going to be so difficult...nothing has ever broke our best friend bond. That's why i think this friend of hers thinks of Michelle as a best friend, but Michelle maybe doesn't think of her as a best friend...

this all sounds just like me
My "bestest" (that's what we used to call each other...didn't know other people used that..wow!) friend moved about 4 years ago, and we had made all these plans to keep in touch and visit each other. Some of them worked for a while, but after a while we drifted apart. We still talk on the phone and email each other now and then, but it's not the same. We just realized that we were in different towns, and it was going to stay that way. We could still be friends, but we would have to move on sometime. Now we both have our own friends now, and maybe new best friends, but we'll never forget how special our friendship is.

So, I guess in the end, she may have a new "best friend", but you'll always be her true friend, someone who she can always turn to. It's hard to let go, I know. You guys will still have the "best friend bond", just in a different way. Remember that even though you aren't best friends anymore, your friendship was still special, and that's what counts the most.