internet love

well not really love but it got your attention right? I know alot of people meet on the internet or whatever but can you ever really trust that. In my situation I've been talking to this guy whom I'm developing a crush on. (CRUSH not LOVE...big difference) We've been talking for awhile now and we really seem to have alot in common. He only lives about an hour and a half from me and I'm trying to decide if I should let my feelings get involved or if I should try to see him. He says he enjoys talking to me and he would like to get to know me better. (not in a sexual form just talk more) and I've been concidering going to meet him. Any comments on if these things really work?

Whooo. My kind of topic.

I'll start by telling you a short version of my story:
We met on the internet. We began talking and soon after started dating. The problem? He lives nearly 9 1/2 hours away... I in Indiana, him in PA.
Now, everyone would call us crazy for dating and taking such a wild chance...
But then I shove in their faces that we've been dating for 1 year and almost 9 months as of now. (The 15th will be 9 months). And then they'll only reply it's a fling and we'll never meet... and I shove in their faces that we've met twice; October 28th and December1st (each for about three days). [The first, October 28th, my parents never knew about =D LOL.]

Now that you know all that, I'll tell you the logic:
It doesn't always work. It takes -a lot- of will power, trust, (and soon to grow) love to get through a long distnace relationship.
However, it is dangerous. Since your boy is only an hour away, I would plan to meet him (WITH FRIENDS WITH YOU!) one day and see how things go.. see if you like each other in person.
Sometime there are crazy people out there. And everyone's probably going to redicule me with this post... But, you know what I Say?
If I was meant to die by the man I love, then that's how I was meant to die.
A little gruesome, but it works.

But, always keep in mind, everything happens for a reason. I never doubted the man I am now dating, but we have been through some crazy things, things I never expected to have to go through...So, just be careful.

Basically, what I am doing is giving you logic to support your final answer. I'm not telling you want to do. You really just need to follow your heart. If you like this boy enough to date him, give it a shot... what's the worst that can happen [than falling in love]?

Take care...
I hope you make the right decision. =]

xTheEcstasyOfSuicidex

of course it can work, yes I am a teenager just as the person above so let's drop my stories.
however for many people it does work out, and your case is the simple one:D the person lives close to you, so honestly I do not see your problem!

At this point we are still getting to know each other so I'm not sure if I want to push a meeting or not. Should we wait until we get to know each other better?

Try to get to know him a little better. Then decide if you want to meet him or not!

Ok this is gunna makae me sound so parental the scary thing im 15 but ive heard it enough tht i know i wouldnt chance meeting him for all you know hes some child molester thts like 65 years old i mean unless youve seen him on webcam you have no way of knowing right so NO dnt go meet him it could be your kidnap/rape/death srri if i sound parental dnt mean too

lol, I agree, ^^^ I'm not saying that he's an old creepy man who wants to rape you, but well, it's on the internet and there are A LOT of sick people out there. However if you do decide to meet him, take a TON of friends with you, and meet someplace public, so he can't kidnap you (not that he would, but well, just in case). On the interent you can be anyone you wanted. Talk to him, and maybe meet him, but just be careful, like I said, A LOT of sick people!!! I'm not paranoid, well maybe a little, but better to be safe than to be sorry. Cliche, I know, but true!!

I agree wif pefect chaos but if you do meet him maybe bring a dog to ya know one who'll bite him if he hurts you.............................lol..............................................not funny srri but no bring lots of friends like chaos said lots of sick peepz you never know he could be one

well... depends... if you met him on myspace? then u're in real danger... or facebook for that matter... the truth is... u can never be too cautious... because once u agree to meet them... and drive there to do so... no one knows what will happen... pictures are never enough... very, very easy to fake... and voices? it's the same thing... im just saying... it can work... my friend met the love of her life on the internet... and ive met an amazing guy on the internet... but people lie... and i've always been smart enough to tell him... if he wanted to see me... he's driving here... and we're meeing at a public place... and if he's got nothing to hide... he shouldn't have a problem with that... after all... if he loves ya... he's come for you = ) even if it's hours away....

tasha

PS- my friend met his soon to be wife online... she lives in Indo and he's in US... and he's bringing her over... it's a cute story really... but just saying

---- it could work... but be careful = )

Well since I posted this we've spoken on the phone about 3 times. Now that I've gotten to know him (well what he tells me) we have alot in common. We're talking about meeting up this weekend. He's going to bring his brother and i'm going to bring my cousin (so the 3 boys and me) and we're suppost to meet up at the skate park. It's about an hour drive for both of us so it's right in the middle. I'm just worried about making the distance thing work I guess. I'm nervous that I will make the first wrong impression. I've talked to his mom and several of his friends so I'm pretty positive he's not a 65 yr old rapist lol. I'm 23 and he says he's 25 so we'll see. Anyway thanks for the advice from everyone :) I really appreciate it and we'll see what happens.

ok i thought about how to word it. I've really become interested in this guy but I don't want to scare him off...just incase he's not a stalker... how should i act when we do meet?

the same as you should always be don`t ACT ,be yourself.

^^^agreed be yourself ooh dnt get giggley they hate tht lol and glad to know hes not a 65 year old rapist

i met a guy on the internet (actually on this web site!) who fell I in love with yes in love. We dated just over 4 months,but things didn't really work out,but me and him are still good friends and still tlk. It idn't work out with us because we ended not loving eachother as much as we had thoughtnot because of the distance (me indiana and him kansas) But i am happy that we gave it a chance cause he is one of my best friends adn knows more about me than any one. o no matter what people say about it tell them to shove it. but if u do go meet this guy takea friend or parent or soe one with you, meet in a public place and dont get in a car with him or go any where out of the public eye.
with love
Bianca

i wouldnt do it probably, real life is so much better. my friend amanda is going out with this guy 45 minutes away (not online) and they see eachother like once every month and they barely talk. real life is better when you can see the person more.

I think that there's nothing wrong with sticking to being friends with him, and talking to him, but I don't recommend meeting him. That really could be dangerous.

Plus, I think the chances of a long distance relationship working out are very slim. The second person to post must be very patient, and probably very lucky.

I say meet a guy in real life, in my opinion you can have a much stronger relationship that way.

Well he has a girlfriend now. We had a date set up and then out of nowhere he got a girlfriend. oh well. back to searchign endlessly again. thanks for everyone's advice.

Well then he's full of sh*t and your better off anyway!! Sorry it didn't work out though, it's just to bad, but you'll find someone better!!

Eh, I've met to guys offline, and we wound up not liking each other in person. But hey, do whatever you feel is right. Make sure you trust him though, that's very important. While I don't believe that everyone on the net is psycho killer, there may be a few. ;-)

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well i found my sweety by yahoo,and i'm so happy,but don't think every internet love is real,i recognized almost 400 men and there was only one man to call my lover,that's it

finnally somthing i can relate to.
yeah i think that its good if its yo thing. i never thought i would get into it until i met my bf brandon on here and we've been dating for a month now

I've dated a couple of guys from the internet but this one was just.. I don't know. We had everything in common. I'm hoping to still be friends with him though. I haven't talk to him since I found out but I haven't had access to that website either. Maybe I still have a chance to find love online. I just don't like the guys around here so I have to resort to the internet to find guys from home. (I'm from ATL but I currently live in Alabama) (Guys from this state not just my area)