Fear of Love?

I believe that I have a fear of love. I'm scared for some reason to let this person in and I'm not only hurting myself but everyone around me. I want to be with him, he's perfect to me but everytime I take two steps forward I always pull back with fear for some reason. And I can't figure out why I can't pull myself together and just be with him once and for all.

I'm not afraid to say how I feel about him but when it comes to actually acting on my feelings, I freak out. =/

I need help because I'm not only going to break his heart but I'm going to dramatically break my own.

Stephanie

Well, we have the same situation. But mine is from some past experiences, yours might be as well. The only thing you can possibly do right now.. is to learn to trust. Your fear is most likely from mistrust.. so do you trust this boy? And if so.. you have no need to worry at the moment.. he might just have good intentions. If you don't act on your feelings.. you might just lose the chance to do so. So.. go for it. Let this boy in.. good luck. xo.

I'm pretty positive I trust him. I mean we talk about anything and everything. He knows all my secrets and all my fears, this one included.
I know that I feel different when I'm around him, he's not one of the normal guys, I mean he's like my best friend and he'd always be here for me if I needed him and I know that.
I know how I feel, he knows how I feel, everyone else knows how I feel, yet they don't know why I won't ask on feelings. And I can't answer that question either.
I want to be with him but everytime I think about it I get completely terrified and I'm confusing myself by thinking about it all the time.
Please give me all the advice you can people because I really need it or I'm going to go insane!

Stephanie

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Sometimes, age doesn`t have anything to do with it . I`m turning fourteen soon, but my fear of the notion of love is from past experiences . My fear is more of me hurting the guy though .
This guy I like, likes me . He broke up with his girlfriend, and is now taking the time to get to know me because he doesn`t want to rush into things and f__k it all up . But I`m afraid that my fear, is going to drive him away -- either that, or i`ll shove him away with my fears .
Question is: Do you trust him ? If you do, don`t worry much about it . There will be a point in yur life where yur going to have to open up anyway . Why not try now ? Yu&i are still young . Take some chances now or yu might regret it later . Yu don`t gotta jump to takin` actions . Take it slow -- He`ll understand . Well he should . But hey; What`ve yu got to lose ?
..__MiNDYY

Try and learn to accept that, you have to trust some guys cuz not all guys will hurt you. You may not believe tht now but someday you will.

Thx guys.
Sometimes I think people need that little bit of encouragment to get through their fears and I am trying my hardest now to get through mine so I don't regret my decisions later in life.

Stephanie