confused.

okay. i'm sure most people have experienced something like this, or close. well, my ex boyfriend told me he loved me since the time we began going out. and he was lying to me. he never felt as strong as i did, so out of not being able to trust him, i broke up with him. it hurt my insecurity so badly. i thought we were actually in love, just to find out that he lied. i got over him, but i never got over what happened. since then, i've been too scared to like anyone else. whenever i get the feeling i like some one, i pull myself back, just fear, a really great fear. and one of the guys, that i think i like, likes me... but i keep pulling myself back. i keep getting scared. i'm so confused. i don't know if i like him or not anymore! it sounds pretty stupid. i just never got over how much my exboyfriend meant to me. he always stood out from my other boyfriends. how can i get over what happened before, and try moving on with this new guy? help.

I know exactly what you are going through, something similar is happening w/ me, but I was hurt by someone I thought was a friend. Now this guy has said that he likes me, but no matter what I do, I cannot open up to him... but Britt is right, you will just have to slowly let your guard down, not all at once, because well, that is like impossible... I totally understand what you're feeling though...

hey dont stress about it. listen i know u loved him alot but some guys are just jerks and just go for the thing you got and not for the love u have for them.am going threw somthing like this but it's kind of confusen cuz its me being da hurter and i'ev learn with my mastakes that love dosn't work like dat cuz u'll end up hurting da one u truly love and trust me u do end up hurting da one u truly love.tell u da truth maybe ur x-boyfriend did love u but he just didn't want to show or he just didn't want to belive da fact that he was in love.but trust me he'll notcie when he sees u with a better guy that truly loves u.

i know what you mean. its confusing. and it takes a lot outa u. just move on, its better that way. and not all guys are buttholes. let go, you dont have to let go completely. and u never no this guy could be the one to fill in the spot u miss. and possibly better. make sure u can really try this guy. dont be too afraid to love, reluctant yes.. just take ur time. if this guy erally likes you, he will for a while. and once things start dont rush...

just dont wrry, ll the confusion seems to deminish after a bit. ull make it through!

Just hold on never let his lying crap stop u. u r independent and shud keep tru 2 urself

hey, i have no real advice for u. i just want to say that i'm going throught the same thing right now. I just broke up with this totally awesome guy b/c im afraid to let myself get to close to him. I don't think there's anything u can do until u find someone that u like even more than the first guy. Good luck to u