I Suddenly Want my Best Friend.

My best friend had a girlfriend awhile back. He liked her, but not as much as he liked me. I mean, he REALLY liked me, and thought he might have a chance with me so he broke up with her. He didn't know that I wouldn't go out with him, so he ended up all heartbroken because he lost his girlfriend for no reason and because he would never be with me.
So..
A couple months has passed and I notice that he has been acting akward around me. Little did I know, he ended up going out with his ex again. I don't mind, really. I was the one who said no. I just.. I got so sad when I realized that he doesn't talk to me anymore. He didn't tell me. I tell him everything. But then he tells me that theres alot he won't tell me. It really hurt my feelings.
So now he's become a complete jerk. I think its because he feels like he was betraying me, and he's guilty becuase he really doesn't like her the way he likes me. And I was the reason he dumped her the first time. (But I didn't know it)

Here's my problem:
Now I want him. It must be jealousy, but I'm not that jealous. I want him so much, but I know I can't tell him because he'll get all mad and confused and just avoid me all together. I don't know what to do.

TOO LITTLE TOO LATE SWEETHEART.

no not really i just felt like saying that, well obviously if he likes you and you tell him you like him he'll be 'delighted' yeahh.
so just tell him.
x

I agree with BANGBANG on the whole tell him thing.
He should be glad you like him if he likes you to. It opens a whole new door of possibilities =)
Good luck
*Gem*

Yeah I agree, tell him!

Tell him and stop wasting time, kiddo.

I say don't tell him if he's currently in a relationship. Just let them be.

my best friend likes one of our closest friends, his name is Cawlin. she has likd him for almost a year, and since then he has gone out with other girls on and off. right now he is single. she keeps on going on this emotional roller coaster, she's happy, she's sad. im gonna tell you the same thing i told her, and hopefully you will listen:

get off that roller coaster and take a chance with him! there might be a good chance that he still has some feelings for you, so take that risk. keep wasting time and you'll lose ur chance all together sweetie. so get out there and make your move! lemme no how it goes!

u can tell him after he breaks up w/ her if that makes you feel more comfortable?

or..... make an excuse to get him alone; tell him after gradually getting into the conversation... and since u ~are~ best friends, u can tell him it might also be because of jealousy, rite? ive learned recently that it's good to be open, because at least in the end they know how you feel.

^ EXACTLY! I'm afraid thats exactly what I'm doing since I had the perfect chance awhile back and threw it in his face. I don't mean to; I'm just a down-right cruel person, I suppose. haha

I don't think you should tell him... I'm sorry but you don't like him, you like him as a friend and want to stay close with him and you think the only way to do that is to start dating him. The problem is that you don't love him and it won't end well, if you loved him you would have said yes the first time, what has changed since then? Nothing other than the fact that he doesn't talk to you anymore, that's what you're missing and that's what you need to get back.

Sry but I honestly feel that you don't love him and will end up making him worse off then before if you tell him you do and then a few months into the relationship realize that you don't. Let him know that you miss talking to him, and that he can tell you anything (there is a difference between loving someone and being in love with them, and you love him)

Thanks Tony. I guess you're right. I suppose I subconciously figured that if I gave him what he wanted before, I could get my friend back. But what's next??

I can't think of anything other than telling him how much he meant, and still means to you as a friend. Let him know that you do love him even if it's not in the same way he loves you and that you need him in your life. If he actually loves you like he said he did he won't be able to just leave you (I know this from experience, because although it is incredibly hard being around someone you love knowing they just want to be friends it's infinitely better than not being with them).

Tell him. Trust me, I just went through that almost exact situation. Except I was the guy. Trust me, he wants you to tell him. Don't live with regret!!. Tellll him and be in loove :).

The advice i can give you is just tell him and ask him what he thinks about what you just said..and if he gets mad he just gets mad and if not that is the good part if he don't..

alright, so i didn't tell him. He called me and we spent half an our talking about the things we usually talk about. But there was something wrong with the way he spoke. Do you ever sometimes sense what other people feel? Or that something is wrong? It was a quiet conversation, and I kind of got the impression that he would jump at opportunities to dissagree with something I said. For example:

Me: You know how people say that humans only use up to five percent of their brains?
Him: Yeah.
Me: Do you ever wonder what it'd be like if we could use all of it?
Him: Not really. But if I had to, I think it would be easier for us to do things. (He goes on about people flying and making things happen with the mind.)
Me: I was thinking we would understand more about things. If we can make aeroplanes and clone people with only five percent-
Him: Thats because we're different people. We have different personalities. You want to know everything but I just want to live in the moment..

(It might have been altered a tad, but I tried to stay as true to what I heard as I could. I know I see a different view of it.. but it can't be that much of a difference.)

After that there was a long pause.
Him: Taylor?
*Another pause*
Me: Yeah?
Him: I have to go now. Bye.
*He hangs up*

Am I reading too much into this, or am I really beginning to lose my best friend?

You hurt him, he's not going to be the same right away you just have to keep at it. I'm not trying to say that he blames you for not loving him the same way, if he does that's stupid, he should know that you can't change how you feel. However, that doesn't mean that he didn't want to be with you and wasn't hurt when he was turned down.

Anyway, about the conversation it really depends on the tone he used. It's hard to tell online because sometimes I talk to people about how different we are like it's a good thing, we compliment eachother, are able to talk longer because we don't imediately agree on every single topic, and I get involved in activities I normally wouldn't because the other person wanted to (things that I often end up liking a lot).

If you really think he's trying to dissagree with you, try meeting with him in person and talking to him face to face. If he can see you and realize he's hurting you and still does it then I have no ideas. This whole situation reminds me of a quote (I'm pretty sure it was from this site but I don't know who it's by, I'm really sorry if it's yours and I don't source you but it's perfect for this situation)

"Don't make my mistake. Don't let yourself be so angry that you stop loving. Because one day you'll wake up from that anger, and the person you love will be gone."

One day he'll realize that it wasn't worth being angry with you and that he made a huge mistake, I just hope it's not too late when he does.

yeah, probably. Except the problem is, I didn't do anything to him. Its all come up so randomly..
I really think he feels like I think he betrayed me for going back to his ex. Like I care.. I think he feels like it makes me think that he really didn't like me as much as he said he did.. or maybe he's embarassed because it makes him look like he's 'just another guy' as they say. I don't know. But I know I didn't do a thing to hurt him. And I'm getting pretty pissed that he would treat me like crap for no reason.

Grrrr... lol

I didn't mean that you did something wrong to hurt him, but it does hurt to tell someone you love them and realize they don't love you back.

Sorry if it came out like I was saying you actually did something wrong, I just meant that he was probably hurt and isn't going to act the same for a while.

i think this is a classic case of "wanting what you can't have" and its the worst thing ever, but believe me i've been in a situation where we went back and forth between liking and wanting each other and i liked the IDEA of him but i couldn't actually BE with him. be careful this is a messy situation. and when u say "i dont know what to do" i dont mean this in a mean way, but usually thats a "there's nothing TO do" good luck though hun!