gettin over a misscarrige

*hugs*

I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

i had a similar experience, and people ask me why i care so much when it was the result of a violent attack..but the truth is, even though the baby is half his..she's half yours too.

i know how much it hurts. and all i can say is that you have to learn to not blame yourself. there was nothing you could do, it's not your fault. and try to remember that your baby is there with you every moment of the day, watching over you.

sweetie, i'm not gonna lie to you. it's not something you ever forget. it will always be there, in your mind. as time goes on, you will be able to put it to the back of your mind for a while, but it will never go away completely. you just...learn to deal with it i guess.

make sure you surround yourself with family and friends who care about you. [you have told other people, right?] and talk to them whenever you're feeling down about it. i made the mistake of not telling anyone what had happened or that i was pregnant and well yeah. it was a hell of a lot harder.

and if you ever need to chat to someone who doesn't knowyou personally and wont judge anything you say..i'm here. i know it sounds lame but it's all i can do. and i really mean it; im not one of those people who says it coz they feel they have to but then dont wanna hear when you tell them you're upset. i really am here for you.

I'm sorry you had to go through this. stay strong love. *hugs* x

Surround yourself with prayer and the love of your family.

I have had two miscarriages and it is very devasting to lose someone that you love so much even before you can touch them and see them.

If you find that you are severly depressed or start thinking about suicide ten you may need to consider a grief therapist.

I also recommend that you seek out a support group so you can be around others that understand your loss and pain.

Even a support group for rape victems is a good idea. Though not eveyone that was raped has become pregnaunt they can still offer you love and compassion that you need at this point in your life.

Hope this helps a little. If you need anything at all please email me and I will be happy to do what I can for you.

Take care love and my prayers are with you.

--Sherry Lynn

i am so sorry.. i don't even know what to begin to say. i have not been through any thing like this. but i really do hope things get better, and that you should propably talk to someone. what Sherry said sounds like a good idea. try researchig dor a support group. i dont know what else to say. =[

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hey she/he was not only half yours... she/he was all yours!!! he didn't care for the baby so what the heck. You were almost a mother and that is a very excited thing to know. But things happen and it's alright to be sad and upset. You were hoping for something new and it didn't happen and people will tell you your stupid for loving your unborn child and caring so much about it, but only mothers can understand a thing like this and if people tell you to stop caring so much I'll just come and beat them up no matter how small I am or wherre you live.

*kisses*

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and also put yourself in deep meditation, and pretend you have the baby in your mind that'll really work.

*hugs*

that's terrible. i honestly don't know if i can say anything because i don't understand, but just keep being strong. all of what happened is not your fault and you're an amazing person for struggling with this. you can overcome it.