Complicated er....or Ignorant me??? PLEASE HELP!

I have a difficult complicated girlfriend. Or so i thought. Its either that shes complicated, or that im ignorant. the truth is that I'm ignorant.

I dont know why. Since about a month...she has been completely indifferent. Shes been trying to distance herself from me...after having already distanced herself from the rest of the world.

Let me first assure you that it does not have anything to do with any factors that affect relationship. It is purely a psychological problem.

Okay..so shes cut off. Her msn nicknames range from "hide" "dormant", to "i dont want the world to see me cause i dont think that they'l understand!"
She tells me shes comfy when shes "dormant". she doesnt like being with people any more.

She tells me that i never understand anything. (I'm trying to give you as much info as i can fathom)
She has come in from a different surrounding and is finding it hard to adjust to a new environment. Though i dont think thats the reason.

I try to be there for her...but when i told her I'll be there...she said...the point is that you arnt...

I'm really confused as to what to do. I dont know what going on and I dont know what is wrong with her.

When i ask her about it...she says she cant explain...shes not good at expressing herseklf and thats her shortcoming..thats wat she says...

Does all of this have anything to do with mental walls? What exactly ARE mental walls?
How can I break them? Should I break them?
How can be there for her...how can i stick around for her?? How should I contribute and help to her being better....could what i do, have a backfire effect??

dont like to see her sad...I hate it...
She doesnt even tell me any of her emotions any more...

She says "youre so sucked in ur own emotions u fail to see the world around u"

I really dont know what to do.
She wont tell me a thing about the problem.
I'm trying hard as hell to figure it out...
Can you help me to???

Thank you for spending time to read my problem.
Dhaval

I'm sorry, I don't know how to help and hope others do, but I just wanted to let you know that I know someone who also sets up walls to hide her true feelings. She doesn't like to cry or show weakness and when she had a close friend of hers pass away she wouldn't even talk about it and almost pretended nothing was wrong only wanting to talk about the usual. I didn't know what to do or how to get through to her, but a few months have passed now and the topic doesn't come up. However at the same time I know she still misses her and wish she would express herself in order to deal with the problem better.

What makes you think she has a problem? Yes, something is different, but maybe it has always been there. Our inner-most thoughts are hardly ever let out. People can only guess sometimes by ones actions. Maybe she is merely expressing a deeper, more intune, and solemn side of her that you have never seen.

I believe that, the more you try to figure her out, the more she will shut you off because you're thinking of this side of her as if it is a problem. She sees you all emotional because you cant see why she's acting so strange, and you're freaking out on her, when she is actually being more "herself" towards you now than she has ever been.

I can understand why she finds more peace in being dormant. Its a state of complete balance; there aren't any extreme emotions to block what you are really feeling, really thinking. People who tend to be happy or sad all of the time are really just unaware of their inner-thoughts.

My advice to you: Don't try to break down this mental wall. Don't treat it like its a problem, because in reality, she might be trying to show you who she really is. She may not be able to express to you clearly what is going on in her head, because there is so much to it that she doesn't understand. If I were you, I would be grateful, even, that she trusts you this much, that shes not putting on an act.

Dont just "be there." Because being there really has little purpose. If you're gonna be there, mean it as in, take what she says seriously, because she seems to have double-meanings to her words. She's deep. Let her know that she is, and that she's so deep that sometimes you have trouble understanding her. BUT THATS OK. She'll be happy (hopefully) that you are calmly trying to get to her level.

I know this is long, but call me crazy; I've been in your girlfriend's situation before. Its hard because no one understands you, and you feel like you have to keep all of these thoughts to yourself because people won't understand. And in truth, they really wont. They can try, but its not gonna happen.

SHE IS EXTREMELY UNIQUE AND SPECIAL. TELL HER THAT! It helps.

I hope I helped.

ok every girl goes through this... i did about 9 months into my relationship, i stopped talking to my friends, and i just cutt myself out of society! I did it bc I didnt want to talk or spend time with anyone else but my bf.. but b4 this all went down i did the same thing bc i was afraid to hold on and get to attached bc once you do something always has to go wrong and i didnt want to feel the hurt n pain... hope this hepled!

i gotta tell u, ur not stupid and there may be nothing wrong with her. I reached a stage in life a while ago where i saw everything bad in the world and nothing good. Or perhaps she's trying to see how far she can push herself. That's what i did. theres nothing wrong with me but last year i cut myself off from all my friends. It was more of a mental exorcise than anything else. I wanted to see if u can live without companionship. I went almost six months without unnecessary contact with other people. I still don't talk sometimes today. I found that after a while u can reach a point where there's just no meaning in life anymore. I think maybe this chik is looking for a different way of life. Something to keep her interested. Or maybe a more mature relationship.
I don't have all the answers so of course i could be wrong but i hope i've helped u to get inside her head a little more.