I've lost the will to love

  • The Queen of Spades
    17 years ago

    I've been in two relationship my entire life...neither have lasted more than a month and a half. I'm 18. I know I'm young, but I can't help but feel like there's something wrong with me, I mean not everybody's made for love. After a horrendous fiasco with my ex-boyfriend, I feel like I made so many mistakes and have come out of it looking so ridiculous and clingy I have no self-confidence to get out there again. And part of me doesn't even WANT to get out there. I'm bitter, cynical, very much like Miranda from Sex and the City...times 2. Which is very, very bad. Has anybody ever experienced this? How does one overcome this?

  • Taylor
    17 years ago

    Eighteen may be a tad young to be worrying about long-term and marriage stuff. But it is, however, a crucial mile-stone to it. You see, at this time in your life, you should not only enjoy yourself, but also become the type of person you really want to be. This is the time when you make or break habits, especially when it comes to dating. If one relationship ends bitterly, if you argue and cling, be very aware of this in your next one and learn from it to make yourself better; or in other words, teach yourself to become the type of person opposite of what you described and are afraid to become.

    There isn't one person out there that isn't made for love. I figure, why else would we be here?

    Good luck, and thanks for your advice. It really helped.

  • BrokenREALiTy
    17 years ago

    I think you just don`t wanna love .
    Eighteen is still young . I mean, I`m fourteen soon . I thought I lost the will to love, but I realized that it wasn`t that . It was that i DiDN`t want to love again . Yeah yeah, I`m young, but I`m more um . grown ? then you think . I`ve been in seven relationships . None of them have lasted a month because I always end up ending it after I got my heart broken on the 2nd relationship .
    I`ve learned that you don`t gotta worry about this kind of stuff . It` just takes time away from your life -- Just live yur lifee` and don`t think too much about it . You`ll find love when the world wants you to .
    Everything you go through is just a stepping stone to becoming someone better . We all make mistakes . And there will always be pain when you have a relationship . It`s how it works .
    Just don`t stress out too much abotu it . Yu`ll get over it over time . If you think about it too much though, it won`t help(:
    G`luckk .
    ..__MiNDYY