Young Love?

You know, everyone always says that young love is just an oxymoron. That teenage love is nothing but lust, and us "horny teenagers" just can't stay away. What age do you think that true love is really possible?

Hey... woh, hold up. I am not one of those people against young love. I am a person IN young love. I just wanted to hear other people's opinions... and obviously yours is a strong one.

Yea... what about people that are like 12 years old? I'm not trying to be mean or anything, but middle schoolers aren't really capable of true love. It takes a truly mature person to be able to love. At that age, people are very nieve. What do you think?

honestly, i've been in love, and i still am. we always said it was true, and i think it really was. i still love him, and he loves me, even though he broke up with me, and we're going out with other people. i can't get him off my mind, and i couldn't imagine what my life would be like if he weren't in it... i love my boyfriend, but i don't know if it's true love, i don't really know him that well. im really trying to stop loving my ex, but i can't. i would've done anything for him... oh well, it's over...
anyways, i don't know if there's a certain age that a person can experience true love, but yea, i think people that are mature (^^^) can love someone like that...

Forever*Yours

Forever Yours brought up something that I thought added nicely to the equation. Age isn't a great indicator of who you are as a person. Love is very dependent on how mature and trusting of a person you are. It just so happens that the younger you go, the less mature people are. But not always.

Alex,
how long have you and your girlfriend been going out?

I think that it can happen, but about 98% of the people who say they're in love during their teenage years are just blind. They may think they are, but I highly, highly doubt it.

Until you've been with someone for a long time, you can't say that you truly love them. And most teenage relationships seem to last only short periods of time.

Forever Yours, I have been with my girlfriend for a little more than 5 months. Why?

If you are young and say "I love you" to every boyfriend/girlfriend that you've had, or even more than a couple (2), then you don't know what love is. Age has nothing to do with it. Its all about how old you are mentally.

Well... Katherine is my first... and I love the fact that she is. I am so glad that I have her, I wouldn't want to be with anyone else.

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Yea... what about people that are like 12 years old? I'm not trying to be mean or anything, but middle schoolers aren't really capable of true love. It takes a truly mature person to be able to love. At that age, people are very nieve. What do you think?

It's not very likely, but it doesn't depend on maturity. The maturity part comes in when the relationship starts, any immature moron can be in love, it just takes hard work and maturity to make it work.

Well, if you truly are an immature moron, then what's saying that what you have really is true love? It is true that anyone (regardless) can love, but for it to be real and lasting you have to be mature and trustworthy.

i was just wondering...

I don't know what to think about people who say they are in love at a really young age because maybe they are who am I to say what they feel. But at the same time when I think about my past experiences I too once thought I was in love and now realize it was nothing even close to love.

the way i see it "young love" mean what it means, its the early stages of a romantic feeling that may or may not turn into "muture love" or infact "true love". see romeo and juliet for this information, infatuation or love? that question can't be answered with out a muture out look on the relationship that you can't have until the couple comes out of the adolence stage in life. there for the truth in "young love" is what it really is and cannot be "true love" until it can't be called just "young love" please lets not get into the puppydog love in this though.....

love you alex.... and kaff is watching this

You know what. I am also a young teen in love, however I can understand why there are some who don't believe it's possible. Lots of people, infact- too many people (especially teens) are constantly throwing around the words "I love you" like they don't mean anything at all. They date for three days and all of a sudden they're in love? They just meet someone, and attraction means everything?... Maybe it's just me, but the way those three words are tossed out there just...almost angers me.

I hate to be distracted so easily, but I loved the lyric in Snow Patrol's song that says exactly those thoughts:

"Those three words, are said too much.
They're not enough."

Anyway. Point is - I know from experience that love is possible during teen years. It just seems that it's rarely ever genuine.

I agree that love is possible, but nowadays it's hard to believe because the words "i love you" are being thrown around as if they've lost all meaning. My friends Dani and Nathan have been together for 2 years and 1 month, and are in love. They are only 15, but they only have eyes for eachother, and are inseperable. The way i see it, it depends on the person. Many people claim they love one person, but then when that relationship ends and they move on, they claim to love the next person as well. Maturity has a lot to do with it. If you're not mature enough to truly understand then..it can't be love. Ofcourse love can be found at any age, but normally a relationship needs to grow. My cousin has been with her b/f for 5 years, they are 18. They go to seperate colleges but still have managed to stick it through because they are in love.

I think that it may just be a different type of true love, and as you get older your view of love changes. So not that it wasn't true love, it was a different type of true love. True love depends on the person and their capacity for love, so therefore it is not untrue love, just a different type of true love. If that even makes sense...

People get the misconception of the fact that teens can't truly love one another because what they see are the people who use that word to freely, and who want nothing more than a frivolous relationships where they only say I Love You because they think that is what is expected of them.

When the reality is, those three words ARE used to much, but there are some people out there who don't use them like that, and that gives those people a bad name. They sterotype teenagers, which isn't right, because we aren't all like that...
It's just like sterotyping all adult males as sexual predators. Not true, same thing for teenagers, it's not true that we're all like that, just like not all adult males are sexual predators.

My point is (no matter how long it took me to get here) that not all teenagers are like that, and that young true love is possible, just in a different way...

I fell in love at 13. and I assure you that it was true love.

I agree people my age don't really KNOW the meaning of' true love' yet. Although I have come painfully close, I have never said, I love you, to anybody yet. I know that love is a line that we should walk very carefully on. I agree on the maturity thing.

i am 16 and in love. i was in love at one point when i was 14 and i am still having a hard time moving on, but my boyfriend and i are in love i think. if you ask me, i think that you cannot put an age on love, if you love someone, you can feel it.

I'm 18 years old... I'm in love... she doesn't know it yet... But I've never thought of someone else till now & will never think of anyone else... My love for her is certainly true love... So, true love can happen in teenage years...

Hey Alex,
Im glad you asked this question. I am 12 going on 13 in June. I think that young love is possible, I have been in young love and most people I know say I am very mature for my age. Sometimes though coming from a younger persons point of view it is possible and it can happen no matter what. My moms bff Ginger fell in love in the 3rd grade with a guy named Jody and to this day they are married and make a very cute couple. It can happen if you make it, its just like the saying... Wether you believe it can happen or not you are probably right. My moms friends give me hope that young love is true. If you wouldn't mind I'd like to talk to you personally sometime. Thanks! :)

Bridgett

When I was 14 last year, I fell in love. Even though it only lasted a 12 months, I've never doubted it was real. Acctually, he moved away to go to college (he was 18 at the time) and that's why we called it quits. It's hard to get over something when people get separated against their will; I mean, I couldn't even get mad at him because it wasn't his fault . . .

Young love definately exists.

It depends on the person and what they value as love.
I know a couple who have been together since they were thirteen and they are now in thier early twenties.
As for me, i thought i fell in love at 15, but as the guy was an a**hole, it couldn't have been love.
Love isn't onesided
I fell in love for real at 17 with someone who loves me just as much.
That's real love.
But as i said, it depends on the couple.
*Gem*

I agree with Gem, real love depends on the couple. I don't believe that all teenagers only feel lust and not love, I believe real love can happen to anybody at any time.. no matter how old they are. You don't have to be an adult to feel truely in love.

~Loveless Nights~

My first love was when i was 15 and it hurt to be over but yah young love i think is possible and it makes us learn from our mistakes

Well i truely think that teens can fall in love! im 15 and i feel that i am in love! that "teens are just horny and cant stay away" i dont believe it cuz i dated a guy for 2 years and never did anything! so i dont get that part

Teens can find true love... I think a teenager's love is stronger because they have more trust and can jump into love quicker than most of us experenced adults who have been hurt so many times... Us Adults pretty much loose trust after so many relationships, then we find it harder to love the way we used too... I do belive teenagers can find love and they are really in love.. I was in love when I was fifteen years old, and until this day, I still think about that person here and there....

Lol teens can find true love. not all teenagers are 'horny' some couples really love each other. and not going for sex.

My 1st love was 16 years old.. :P I really love my ex-gf and she really love me.. we broke up 3months ago because of the distance.. (Long Distrance relationship) we're more than a thousand miles apart

I don't think there is an age. true love is when you care about someone for more than phyical things. i mean sure the physical stuff is nice but love is when you don't need that stuff...you love them for them.

I say always i mean even if we are kids we are still capable of loving like any adult.... never mind the adults that say we are too young cuz we arent....(ive been with my boyfriend seb for almost 11 montns now and we are still strong together) :-)

anyways teens are as human and as free as any adult.... if you love someone than its that age... !

"([I']ve been with my boyfriend [S]eb for almost 11 months now and we are still strong together) :-)"

11 months?

You consider this a long time??

Consider: Assuming an average lifespan of 75 years (roughly statistical average for American Women), 11 months represents about 1 1/4% of your life, actually a little less than that.

Besides that little detail, a better test of love than mere time is difficulty. What challenges have you and your significant other overcome? What wounds have you and he salved for each other? Without hardships to test a "love" it can last decades and still be hollow.

Just my two-bits from "over the hill."

Definition of love: A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
It does not say, "Love means forever," or, "Only for people over 18."
You can love at ANY age. : )

I think you are never too young to love. i have only told one guy that i love him because i truly DO love him... and ive loved him since i was 4... which most people dont believe but its true... so its possible... i just wish he could see that... because right now he is being unlike himself... he is one of those really rare "nice not snobby at all rich ppl" but he is acting more stuck up than his mom... which i didnt think was possible...

No one is ever to young to fall in love. i am ony 14 but i am in love, sumtimes it surreal, but young love is the only love thats really true

Some teens rnt lik tht.. but age doesnt really matter when u really luv someone though..

Honestly..i think that u can fall in love at any age...some people really do end up like that

Older people(parents) say is that young love does exist because we're just horny or something like that, and that all they want is sex and there make you feel things that arent real just to get you in bed. but what just that isnt the case??

Okay.. my bf is 16, Im 16. And we love eachother,
We havent had intercourse and we have been dating for like.. over a year now.
We have a relationship, without sex.
We plan on being together, without sex until we're married, or at least until we're older.
He and I don't want our relationship to turn into teenage lust.

I think at any age, you can be in love.
But you have know know what love is first. ^.^