he is so sweet

hmmmmmmmmm yeah a year I find it interesting. Dont plan ahead things dont always go to plan. If he did it just to make you happy, yeah the guys sweet but a year is a long time and things can change.

Married at 16? Sorry but I have to judge that, if you guys really do love eachother he'll be there when you're 18, 19, 20... and old enough to be sure that it's the right decision. I don't know how people think about marriage at your age, maybe it's just because I've never really been in love, but I don't know of any lasting marriages at that age. However it is your life, do what you want with it.

Oh my lord, are you even being serious?

I would definitely give this some thought if I were you. If you plan on being with him the rest of your life, then you've got TONS of time to get engaged.

I suggest waiting until you're out of school, and have your life on track.

Seriously, that's a big commitment, and you ARE only 15!

aw, he was trying to make you feel better. Thats so sweet of him.

that's so sweet...

that is the cutest thing i ever heard he really must love you to do that

:') I wish I had the same luck as you gal's...

awwwww, thats so cute!i wish you guys the best of luck!

people who can't spell "wait" and spell it "weight" when talking about a period of time instead of how much someone weighs should NOT be getting married anytime soon...
children will come out as complete idiots..

guys nice but yeah wait, no rush

u guys she said shes going to wait..and i think thats adorable. i really hope it works out for you.

I'm glad she's going to wait.

But in my opinion, marriage is supposed to be a sacred bond, and the way people are throwing around engagement rings these days seems to lessen the true value of it. But meh, what do I know.

Good luck to the original poster.

my boyfriend is going to propose to meh when hes 16, the legal age. His mother even approved it

i say 16 is too young, but you do what you will with your life. i say you should enjoy it while you still can.

how sweet hun i am engaged to and yes i just turned 15 and will get married as soon as i can why enjoy life alone when you can do it together

I think your b/f ois acting the way he is because he is scared of what he did. Like the thought of being with you, however great, may just scare him. He may not be ready for such a committment and he is just to afraid to tell you.

i agree with ^. ask him what's up...and if he's scared now. my boyfriend did the same thing. just be careful and ask him...

One of my best friends Jyll got engaged and she's 16. I'm totally against it. Don't get married young, trust me. My mom got married when she was 18 and they got divorced. People change, you may like the BOY he is now, but you might hate the MAN he becomes later.

Wait til you're out of college and you have your feet on the ground. I think you should get your feet on the ground with your career and know what you're doing with your life before you make a decision like that.

Ok, I just read your most recent post. If you're fighting I think you should talk to him about it. Don't start all drama in school with the crying and bullshit. Go to his house after school (you go to his house not the other way around) and talk to him. Have confidence, and if things don't go well then it's not meant to be. Theres a million people, and I think you're strong enough to pull through this.

Good luck. Keep your head up.

Okay, first off, just because some of you have never heard of a lasting marriage from age 15+ doesn't mean that it doesn't exist. I actually know of a COUPLE who got engaged in their freshman year. To this day, they're still together and very much in love. They're in their 40s and have 3 children and great jobs.

And yeah, I know that engagement rings are being tossed around today, but it still holds sentimental value!!! It's how a couple says they love each other!! It's how a couple declares it, by recognizing that they want to spend the rest of their lives with that other someone.

My boyfriend just got a job because of me. He wants to save up and buy me a 4,000 dollar engagement ring. He already has it picked out, he just has to work his butt off for it. He loves me so incredibly much!!! And I love him even more. We're sixteen and by the time he finally saves up all the money he needs, we'll both probably be 17. He reminds me that chivalry ISNT dead. He's a romantic and he's not afraid to show it. He flaunts me to his friends when I know there's nothing special about me. What's to say that this COULDN'T last forever? We've already gotten in so many HUGE fights, but it's life and we push through it and we love each other the same at the end of the day!

So, really...I don't think it's right to judge someone and say that it's destined to fail because of their age. At least they're waiting. They just skipped a couple of steps and decided that they needed each other! If they didn't have very good communication and a serious lack of commitment, then yeah, I'd say it's going to go really badly. But it could still work.

Babe, just because you're getting in fights with your boyfriend, don't give up! Talk to him, figure out what's wrong. Don't give in so easily or try walking away!!!!

"He say that we are going to get married in like a year from now... yeah"

that's already saying now she doesn't believe it herself. And anyway, this thread is about her, not you^^ maybe you two have been through crap and come out at the end of it together, and maybe you two KNOW you want to spend the rest of your lives together, that doesn't mean SHE does.

make a commitment/don't, it's not up to us and you should be thinking about this yourself. Nearly everybody has told you the same answer: you're too young.

If you don't believe that, well you should pretty much stop asking the population of us here who are all going to come out with the same answer.
we can't dictate your life.
x

"And yeah, I know that engagement rings are being tossed around today, but it still holds sentimental value!!! It's how a couple says they love each other!! It's how a couple declares it, by recognizing that they want to spend the rest of their lives with that other someone."

Okay, I only said that so many engagement rings being throws around lessens the value of marriage in my eyes. It is a big commitment. Most (MOST... I didn't say all) people who get engaged at 15 or 16 will not even get married; and if they do then most will end up divorced.

With so many engaged couples breaking up, because they're way too young to even be thinking about that, it makes marriage seem so.. small. Like it's not even a big deal.

That's just my opinion. I wish you the best of luck, all of you young engaged people, but if you plan on spending the rest of your life with that person than you might as well put engagement off until you are out of school and have your life started. I hate to be the pessimistic one, but the odds are against you.

For that last post:

Hopefully by now you guys are ok. And fights happen. It doesnt always stop two people from really loving each other. if he's ready for commitment, and he truly lves you, you two will make it through. And youll grow old together and so on.

You'll see how that works out eventually. I know quite a few people who have done that. Heh. Good luck. ;-)

i would say your too young and stuff like that but it looks like you have already heard that enough so i am jus gonna say i hope everything works out to your advantage...Good Luck

I'm glad you have worked it out and you guys have a seemingly workable relationship. It's better to wait because it will be far more worth it in the end. Trust me.

"One of my best friends Jyll got engaged and she's 16. I'm totally against it. Don't get married young, trust me. My mom got married when she was 18 and they got divorced. People change, you may like the BOY he is now, but you might hate the MAN he becomes later. "

Actually my fiance's parents got married at 18 and 19 and nearly thirty years later, they are still very much in love with four children and two grandchildren, and guess what, their daughters, Mary and Mindy have a daughter each with their husbands and... omg, they married young too.
So please don't say people who marry young, never work out. I'm marrying young into a family that have all worked out.
So i say to the original poster, good luck
*Gem*

awww...well good for you and congrats on the engangement..whenever tht is..lol =D