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A conversation, most of it between me and my friend about the way our boyfriends are treating us. Have any of you been able to relate to us? We would really appreciate your advice or stories of however you dealt with it. It’s a bit long but a lot of you will find that you are in the same boat as us perhaps and we can help each other out. (in my frnds case, they are not technically togerther but they are emotionally in the same place as any other couple and still have feelings for each other)

My friend: he's just I don't know, neglecting? he'll like send a txt and not reply to my reply or something
-but it just seems to be like he only talks to me when its interesting for him
-I spend all day getting pissed off waiting for him to reply
-then he only texts something totally irrelevant back or nothing at all
-it really makes me feel like I should cancel whatever the hell I'm doing

Me: it makes u feel so unimportant

My friend: yeah so I don't know aye I don’t want to make a big deal about it

Me: exactly. but u don’t want this 2 keep going on cos it isn’t fair

My friend: I asked him why he didn't txt yesterday and he said he feel asleep and then he needed to charge his phone but he obviously didn't get that I was upset
-one day he was playing wow ( a game) and then he was like 'I stopped to talk to you or else your get moody' and that pissed me off even more

Me: " I suppose I’ll have 2 reply now".
-they make it sound like sch a chore
-like talking 2 us is just sch an effort

My fiend: they should want to talk to us!

Me: a d they do it wen it suits them
-whilst we are left hanging
-wondering wtfs up, and y we aren’t being paid attention2
-but we don’t want to rock the boat 2 lose whatever we have

My friend: yeah exactly!
-that’s what pissed me off when (boyfriend) and I broke up in the first place because like he made it
sound like I should be thanking him for taking the time to still me my friend because I'm just that difficult to be with
-and being my boyfriend is just so much work

Me: totally. it's not cool

My friend: and its starting to really get to me when I have {good male friend} here being really nice and attentive and saying I'm more interesting than a video game character anyway and crap and (boyfriend) just like NOT REPLYING

Me: and u don’t want to keep thinking bout it, and u think well I have my own life too but it just gets more insulting wen they don’t reply, and then wen they do, u r disappointed by what they say

My friend: yes! I'm glad you understand!
-i'm just really concerned about if I'm going to keep interested in him at this rate

Me: and u kinda want to be like, I’m going 2 walk away, just 2 get a reaction, sum attention, or 2c if they will cum after u

My friend: but its kinda pointless if I walk away because I highly doubt he'll care

Me: which its the whole point of staying but its so unsatisfying at the same time

My friend: but you don't want to be an attention seeker though
-you just want them to be interested in you without having to make an effort

Me: yes! u don’t want a comment because u left them one first
-cos then its just like
-well he’s only talking 2 u cos u talked 2 them 1st

so, what are your thoughts? I've tried telling mine how i feel but he just doesnt get it and his behaivour isnt changing.

If you told him clearly (did you say "it really makes me feel unimportant and angry when you don't reply to my txt's and act like it's a chore to talk to me"?), and if he still isn't changing then maybe it's time to find someone else who will pay attention to you and make you feel important (like a b/f should). There are many other guys out there who would love to talk to you and have someone to spend their time with.

Okay, here's what I think about it.

For texting and msn, cut him a little slack. As long as he takes time off of WoW to hang out with you then it isn't a big deal.

My boyfriend is also a World of Warcraft dork, so I've learned not to expect immediate replies on msn. It's apparently an addicting game, and I'm sure it's really easy to get distracted by it while you're actually playing.

If he starts telling you he can't hang out because he wants to play the video game (and this happens several times), then maybe you should talk to him about it. But until then, let him have his fun.

Once you learn to accept that he's going to take a little more time than most people to reply on msn (or texting), you'll feel better. I've been putting up with it for 8 months now, and it really isn't as bad as you're taking it. He doesn't mean to upset you, trust me.

that answers my m8s problem, however mine is doing the same without the WOW issue and not relli talkin to me much and talking 2 heapsa other chix too. hes away 4 a bit so ye..i duno.

i have the same problem not with texts though.... i try and talk to my boyfriend but hes just like staring at me being sooo immature that i wanna actually have a conversation with him!!!!!!! whats the big deal in wanting to talk to your boyfriend and wanting your boyfriend to talk to you!! i honestly i dont understand my boyfriend is always on the computer on runescape he talks more on there in an hour than he does to me all week!!..... one thing though how do you tell them or FORCE them to talk to you???? im sure he enjoys being with me but like whats the point of the relationship if you cant like talk and find out about each other??? im glad its not just me in this type of situation.... i pity ppl like us -.-

what's neglegent? (sorry, my vocab sucks)

If your boyfriend is just flat out ignoring you, then why are you with him?

Again, however, if it's just msn or texting, cut him some slack. You can't see him; perhaps he's busy, or ran upstairs. It's JUST the computer, I don't see the big deal.

And there's nothing wrong with him talking to other girls, you need to trust that he won't do anything. He's your boyfriend, there must be some trust there somewhere.