Why does everyone think that they have to "help"?

I've recently started going out with this new guy I met and I could swear that every person I talk to wants to say something horrible or just generally annoying about all of it. Right so it's my choice about who I date and why isn't it? So why does everyone feel like they have to disect him and tell me every reason possible why I shouldn't be dating him?

"Oh he's not smart enough you'll get bored"
"You know you can do better, so why are you so bothered about what he thinks?"
"You ended up going out after hooking up drunk, those relationships never work"
"You never see him"
"What DO you see in him?"

Why can't anyone be satisfied that he makes me happy and that's all I want?

Even if things aren't going as perfect as I want them to be I'm prepared to really work for this relationship and I wish for once my friends and family could support me in that instead of putting him down all of the time.

Is that just too much to ask?

how well do your friends and family know him? i think if he really is a nice guy, you should be able to show them that he is. figure out a way to show it, like throw a party where people can get to know him better or something. sorry if that didnt help but its all i could think of, other than just telling them to shut up lol. tell them your happy with him and that should make them happy. the only thing is, if he is an asshole and your friends know it and THATS why their telling you to dump him, then do it. its not worth it for an asshole, but if you know hes really good, go for it.

everyone used to tell me the same thing that was 2 and a half years ago!! my friends all thought he wasnt good looking enough but i saw his inner beauty. my family all said that he was too quiet and we wouldnt work out because im loud, but doesnt everyone say that opposites attract, i believe it anyway.

if you really like this guy and your friends keep criticising your choice then just ignore them... it worked for me, go hang out together with him and your friends they'll get to know him and probably get to like him if not then they should respect your choice no matter what but remember never ditch your friends for this guy, cos no guy is worth your friends no matter how much they disapprove of himand how much you hate them for it

sarah

AND if they were your friends, your true friends, they wouldn't talk bad about him or try to talk you out of it.

^ i think that if this guy is nice to you and has your best interest at heart, then go for it. BUT is there a reason all of your friends and fmaily are saying this? do they know something you dont?

you dont have to listen to them, but i wouldnt ignore them either

and as i said, if he makes you happy, and he likes you for who you are, then go for it! XD

~emmerz~