Abusive boyfriend?

okay, i have been dating jeff for a few monthes and lately, he has been kinda scaring me. we got into a fight the last 3 weeks and every time we fight, he grabs me...like on the arm or wrist...but one time, he put a chain around my neck from behind...and i am getting really scared. But there is more...my x bf wants to get back together...and i still really like him. i dumped him for a really stupid reason and i am afraid to hurt either of them...so what i am asking is...
1- what do you think of jeff grabbing me and putting the chain around my neck
2- what do you think about us fighting and do you think i am in a dangerous relationship?
3- what should i do about my feelings for my x
and 4- what would you do if you were in my shoes?

i really need help on this and i appreciate all the help i can get

dawn

ok well about him putting a chain around ur neck that should b a instats red light in ur hhead .. umm what kinda guy does shit liek that ... 2 ... fighitng is normal with relationships but him grabbing u and such is not and yes taht does make it dangeruos and abusive ....3 if u still like ur ex and u broke up over somehting stupid and he wants to werk it out and he trested u good id say go 4 it ... 4 if it was me id leave teh guy ur with cause it doenst seem very safe 4 u and it can only get worse and id prob give my ex a 2nd cahnce if he was a good guy ...

goodluck with this situation but i truly feel u should get away from this b4 it turns very bad

xoxo

hmm im gald to see u think its funny that the poor girl got choked by her abusive pyscho bf with a chain .. so sad maybe u wouldnt find it as funny if 4 instance taht was ur gf or ur sister

You should definatly get out of your current relationship! A chain? Thats horrible! I think you should take things slow with your x and keep it on the down low so your current bf doesn't get mad. But definatly get out of that relationship, you dont deserve that treatment!

thank you all for the advice...i kinda took the advice and i told him we need to take a break...well actually my mom told him we need a break and that he wasnt to call me for at least a week...and tonight i am going to a dance with my x...thank you sooo much for helping me...anymore advice is totally welcome!!!

dawn

Well i think you could have been in alot of danger
but hunni let me tell yo something it isnt over
he will be coming back im not trying to scare you but please be aware he could get very very dangerous

Dawn, i hate to say this, but statistically, you'll take your ex back, and then he'll hit you again, and then you'll leave him again and take him back again....

I've never understood girls who always seem to get involved with violent assh0le guys time after time...i'm not sure if it's some kind of psychological link to their upbringing, possibly some kind of father issue...but yeah, makes me angry.

Leave this guy, take a long hard look at yourself and try to figure out why even after he attacked you with a CHAIN!!...you felt the need to ask a bunch of random people in a poetry website what to do!!

Madness. Be strong if you can.

Hey Kevin;

Well you asked for justifycation about why woman keep going back to their men when they are abusive...well i dont know if this is for every woman...but i remember when i was younger i always said i would NEVER fall a victim to jerk offs who raised their hand to me...but as i got older, i fell in love, And that love took the turn for the worst....It's hard to leave someone you love with EVERY breathe you have, to live without them, to think of never being with them again...When you are truely inlove with a man who hits you....i feel SORRY for you because yes it is true you will eventually end up going back, well most people do...i know i did the first few hundred times. But you know after a while when you look in the mirror and you see those nasty marks that are covered with make up you feel low...lower then you ever have, you feel like someone has taken your dignity, they have your soul because you just cant find the courage to leave them, because you fear being alone. When you do finally leave them, it is ALOT OF PAIN, because you restrain yourself mentally from not going back, you cry thousands of tears, you feel great amount of pain. It hard to walk away from someone you would die for, but eventually that love turns into hate...and then that hate turns into fear...it's almost neverending someone needs to be the first one to break the vicious circle...But I dont know how everyother woman feels about this, but i will NEVER forget how i felt....

I would tell you to leave this guy, but you know that is ultimately your choice. I pray that you NEVER have to endure the pain that comes from abusive relationships, the heartaches, the emotional, physical, and mental abuse. I personally would get out before you are trapped and it is too late...any man who raises his hand to you is capable of ANYTHING!!!

i wish you nothing but the best
with love scoobs

I think you are in danger and if I was you (but I am not) I would dump him and go back out with your x b/c your bf is going to end up seriously hurting in the future.

thank you all for the good advice. i do love jeff but i am really scared that i will end up in an abusive relationship if im not careful. Do you all think it is possible to love 2 different people at the same time? i love jeff but my love for john is growing...

Yo all i got to say is lose jeff kid and shit you ever need help loseing someone like this my name is shown with this mesg i will help you out this shit can't go on, ppl like this don't deserve to live.