My parents abuse me HELP!

My parents (mostly my dad) are always complaining tht I dont help them enough around the house. But I wash the dishes monday wednesday and friday and i put them away everyday and set the table everyday. And when they ask, I do extra.

And my dad is always saying im stupid and my mom says tht she wishes she had a daughter tht had a brain, and tht i cant do anything right. And if theres one thing I forgot to do cuz i didnt hear my dad ask me, my dad complains about it rite in front of my face to my mom. When theres an arguement my mom says sorry for yelling at me, but my dad never does. And he gets pissed when I dont apoligize. I tell him tht he never listens to ME and tht all he cares about is if i help THEM, which is true, and he gets mad and yells again about not helping enough.

I tried running away once, cuz my mom was yelling, and screaming and hitting me cuz i was 2 hrs late coming home from my friends house, and it wasnt my fault. My friends dad had just brought me home late. And i told he tht but she didnt stop. And sometimes shes about to slam my head against the wall, but i walk away and hide so se cant. My dad is even worse. I say tht i hate this family cuz they doont love me, and he says, "why should we love you when you dont help unless ur askd." BUT I DO HELP!
And so i said, next time i dont come home, im never coming home, and he said good! Leave now! Ill hold the door open!
What should i do?

The making you help thing isn't all that unusual, and parent-child arguments are pretty common, coz we're teens (how old are you?) but if your parents are hitting you then it's got to stop.

You need to report it..is there a teacher at school that you feel you can trust? Have you told any of your friends? If so, get one of them to come with you if you're scared to do it alone.

I guess I'd be able to help you better if I could talk to you properly. Do you have MSN? If so, mine's stars_n_smiles@hotmail.co.uk
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Please do not put your email in a thread. There is a pm system : ) If you want to use msn try and email your address using that system.

I'll try and give you some advice in a bit, original poster : )

Umm...ok, but what's wrong with putting emails in threads?

Go tell the school counsler or the Social worker. Maybe they can help!!

Im 14

My friends have told me I should do tht, but Im scared tht my parents will find out tht I told someone.

...that happened to my sister (not related, i just call her that)..

she said, if u run away, run to a friend's house.

NOT on the streets. if u run away on the streets, something bad might happen to you.

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My mom works for CPS (Child protective services), and they always have a ton of abuse cases. i know you love them, but..... well, they can and will get violent. if it comes to the worst, tell ur friend's parents, a teacher, or another trusted adult... they myt b able to help.

Ugh, drama.

WHERE THE FRIG IS BOB!!!!!!!!!!! oh geez I can't take much more of this!

^^ some people need help, sorry if your lives dont involve abusing parents.

heres some information that might help:

http://www.childhelpusa.org/about/programs-and-services/childhelp-national-child-abuse-hotline-1-800-4-a-child

The Girls and Boys Town National Hotline is the only hotline that children and parents can call with any problem at any time:
Open 24-hours a day, every day at 1-800-448-3000

Spanish-speaking counselors available; translation services for 100+ languages

Report Child Abuse
Childhelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline
1-800-4-A-CHILD TDD: 1-800-2-A-CHILD

good luck sweetie.

My parents hit me as well, and also call me names I would be banned for if I said on here. I've run away too, and also have bruises. I'm going through the same thing, maybe even worse. feel free to email me or send me an IM on AIM at
LiL meLz92.

some advice, I think I've learned 3 very important things in life.

1) the only person you can always trust, is yourself.
2) Things could be worse, someone out there has it harder than you.
3) Life always goes on.

I'm afraid i'm going 2 have 2 go with bob on this one. it is very rare that an abused child would complain or tell people. they may not even understand the seriousness of it. a simple thing as doing the dishes and your parents complaining that you haven't. isn't really an adequet reason to complain so heavily

and plus. you think running away will solve your problem it will probably make it worse. it is quite possible that u wuld recieve even more abuse..worse

ok bob and xbeyond, i understand your points, there is quite the possibility that the abuse is being exaggerated, but that doesn't mean that this person is being affected any less severely. although i was never abused, the times my father hit me have always lingered with me because they were never resolved. one of my closest friends also had a very harsh mother who was very critical of her physically. though she never called her names, those things have really made an impact on her eating style and she's had a lot of self esteem issues. yes, she should be grateful that she has all those things, but if she FEELS like she has nowhere to run but away from home, and is lost, and confused, obviously something has gone awry in the whole family. Just because a family is not super-abusive does not mean there are not problems. Hon, I just want to say that you should really talk to someone, honestly and openly. Do not listen to people who say you have nothing to worry about, because you know in your heart what is really going on and maybe with the help of a counselor or family member, you can try to have a calm and resolving discussion with your parents.

you can call social service or something about the violence- child abuse is against he law

though I cant complain about chores I do the dishes, vaccum, sweep and all that

i agree with all the points made but this is my view u have problems in your family we all do expecially me but thats of the point u have minor problems if u look at the whole picture soo be thankfull but sort the problems u have out thats all u might feel hurt by the frankness and aggression the posts here say but we have had worse people are having worse so try to understand u have minor probs compared to the ig picture

you have to tell someone! like a counsiler at school, a teacher, a friend....someone!

ok to the people who are saying "you could have it worse, you could be beat", did she not establish in her post that her mom hits her and was about to slam her head in a wall? I think that's being a little overly-physical. First of all though, everyone is completely right when they are saying you should not be complaining about use when referring to your parents wanting you to help around the house. Try having a single mother who only has you when you're ten years old to pick up around the house. It's not a big deal. I hate house chores but they get done and its not too bad when I'm playing some loud music to dance and sing to. But secondly, do not just expect sympathy from this post. If you are being abused and you're having real problems emotionally, mentally, or physically, it is your responsibility to get help. No empathy/sympathy/pity is going to help you from here, but there are so many domestic violence services that can help you. Good luck!

on second thought, listen to Britt!

I guess they are too immature to have a child
And don't give a f**k
just live your life and dream about the days that are on your way
It will keep you sane
And someday you will move out and you won't even have to talk to them
Just be patient and wait for the day

may I also pose to people the fact that although physical violence is a lot more obvious, emotional abuse which mentally fucks children up in the long run is no better.

omg you cant take this no more, parents are supposed to be loving, but what would i know, i dont have parents, my mom isnt around and i dont know who my dad is, i'v been living with my grandmother all my life and she was very strict with me, finally one day i had enough and argued with her until she tried to physically hurt me, well she didnt, i packed all my shit and left, now i've been on my own for like almost two years now, and my life is so much better, im so much happier not having to deal with her everyday.
YOU DONT DESERVE THIS, get out now and jsut leave, you'll be better off on your onw, try go to someone you trust , a friend, anyone who you would depend your life on, its your word against theirs, damn i wish i can take over your body for at least an hour i beat the shit outta them for treating you like that, i wish u te best. and my prayers are with you.

realistically i don't think she is goin to just pack up and leave home. she's fourteen. she is probably too scared to be on her own. i had a friend who was 15 and she was being abused at home. she said as much as she wanted to leave she was so used to all the good things her home did supply her with. the thought of being all alone in the world at 15 without parents (who even though can get angry at times probably still do care a lot). if you want to leave your home that desperately (and trust me it's not as good as you think, people say there life will be so much better in a foster, or group home or even in resbite. i have seen so many go through the system and it does more worse than good expecially if home wasn't thattttt bad) than get community services to help you because simply packing up and leaving is NOT a good idea...

*unless your in immeidate danger of really bad harm...but usually it would be better to just call the police then