What would you do???

ok, hi.

if you remember i had a post asking if my boyfriend at the time was telling me the truth when he said that he loved me and wanted to marry me and stuff. obviously, he was lying because we broke up. i have a question though.

ok, while we were going out, i spent TWO WEEKS of my life making a video as a gift for him for valentines day. i was seriously working on it from when i got home from school until i went to bed. i skipped my hw to do this...well, now i really still wanna give it to him. i mean..but will i sound like desperate or in denial if i do?

i really want to though because i really care for him and it took so much work for me...if you were me..would you do it?

here's the link if you wanna see it for yourself:

http://youtube.com/watch?v=nzZ0pNKVr2Y

please help me...what would u guys do in my situation?

hun,
If you love this guy then you should give it to him. I mean, you didn't just give up everything to make the video for nothing right? He deserves to know how you really feel about him. it might even change his mind about the way he feels about you. you will never know until you give it to him right? so just go with the way you feel about it and do what your heart tells you to do.
Hope i helped.
Kasie

its not that he's afraid of commitment. its like...he says he only likes me as a friend again, but thats what he always says when he's breaking up with me. but like i think he's scared of getting hurt. because he says last time he got really serious w/ a girl..she broke his heart..and whenever we start getting close..we break up because he thinks i'll hurt him. wait..is that a commitment problem. oh geez. i spent so long. w/e. bah. i'd like more opinions plz...

I'm sorry you spent so much time on that..

If I were you, I would not give it to him. I don't exactly understand why he broke up with you, but you didn't do anything wrong. He messed up, and he needs to get over whatever issues he has with himself and his previous girlfriends.

I believe that if you give him this then you are opening yourself up to be hurt again. If he loves you as much as he did at one point (I remember your other post), then he'll come around. But don't go throwing yourself at him; let him come to you.

However, ultimately it's your decision.

I'm so sorry, I watched your video and I know you worked hard on it. Best wishes with whatever you choose to do.xx

I'm sorry Erika.

I saw your veido or alteast waht I could see (computer is being gay still so yeah lol.) Iknow you worked hard on it and maybe if you give it to him maybe he'll really understand that you wont hurt him/

yeah. i almost did 2night actually. he asked what i was doing i said..watchin video u? (because i keep watchin it over and over and over again sadly enough) and he said same. i asked what he was watchin he told me..if he'd said..what about u..i would've said...something i was gonna give u. but dang of course he cant bring himself into it. i guess now ill have more time to think if i really should or not.

if your reely in love with him then giv it to the guy, if ur not sure, toss the bloody video

eep. i sent it. lol im nervous. whats worst is he usually is at his appt thingy this time every tuesday...like 2 min after i push send..he signs on. geez. hes not supposed 2 be on until im gone. im so nervous of whats gonna happen.

yeah i sent it because i decided that i do love him and whats the worst that could happen? he hates me or doesnt talk to me anymore? oh well..we're not really talking now anyway. so nothing to lose! wish me luck:P

totally give it to him

well i did. and u know..i was expecting 1 of two reactions.
1) he says he still feels for me and asks me out again
or
2) he says...um stay away from me.

or somthing along those lines.

i got a middle reaction. he saw it and he said 'that's good. i'm sorry things didn't work out.'
that was it. ouch. meh w/e. ill get over it eventually. its almost been a week since he broke up w/ me so i should hopefully be ok soon.