It's Ruined My Life

ok so here it goes... i was raped by a guy i reali trusted, a friend, and it was no doubt the hardest thing ever to deal with but i didnt know it was goin to be this bad...i am now 17 and was raped at 14 and i have never properly trusted a guy since and now there is a guy who i really do like and really would like to spend most of my time with and he has constantly told me that he likes me and wants us to be more but i can't do it, as much as i love him, i guess im scared, scared of trusting someone again, and its destroying me, it really is! please help me, someone out there has to have been in the same situation!

take it step by step slowly gain back your confidence and trust. Its not easy going through that everyone knows that its hard, your not going to forget it you just have to try hard to move on slowly and at a steady pace x good luck x

i was raped by my boyfriend a couple months ago. i still have to see him everyweek and it hurts that someone i love did that to me. m trying to build my rust up even with my dad now. its hard but i cant let him win, let him ruin my life. you just have to work at it slowly. its gonna take a while and your never gonna look at a guy the same but just slowly build that trust with him. dont rush it.
GOOD LUCK!!

yeah im trying but i want to be over it now because i do like this guy... i just don't want to because of the circumstances... y is it so hard

something like this has never happend to me but i no how you feel

yea the same thing happened with me. i have managed to have bf's but i never relli liked them. i guess i did it bcoz i thought i needed protection and love becoz i wasn't gettin it from ne one else. but i did find that wen eva they would touch me i would totally freak out inside, and they could always tell sumtink was wrong.

i guess the only thing i could think of is if u relli trust and love this guy and u think he trusts and loves u. than myb u culd consider tellin him wot happened to u. that way if u get together he would understand if u feel nervous and don't feel like tlkn much etc. if he loves u that much he will take it slow. myb just start by going to the movies, beach, out to lunch or sumtink. that way u can begin to feel more comfortable around him and trust will shortly follow. just make sure u don't do anything u don't want to do, and don't let him push u into anything...just take it slow

well he asked me out just last night and i couldn't answer at first, i hadnt thought about it all properly, but i ended up saying yes im happy i did, i love the idea of going to the movies and stuff first to build up that comfort, that is an awsome idea and i hope it helps...yeah i think i will tell him what happened... just in time is all lol.. thank u all so much for your posting back, seriously it has helped so much!! and just to kno that im not alone in feeling like this is a comfort aswel, thx guys.!