I wasnt even ment to be born!!!

what would you do if you were told by your mum that your not even ment to be here? that it was rape that brought you to this wide strange earth? that if it wasnt because your nan didnt believe in abortion tht you wouldnt be here? I have noticed since i was little that my parents didnt care they didnt do what normal parents would they never spoilt me or took me somewere nice. But nw as im older my mother decided that i was old enuf to tell the truth so they did i feel useless, unwanted, unloved, a stupid young girl.. what does this life bring to me ? someomne please help im unsure with what to do i feel so depressed i havnt eaten for a week i just dont know what to do xx i feel so alone x becky x

Wow...that has to be one of the unnecessarily harshest things I have READ on this site!
Who do you think you are, Dead Soul, to come here and tell her she's being overdramatic and doesn't deserve sympathy! What's so wrong with caring about someone other than yourself and offering REAL advice rather then make her feel even worse about herself?? Do YOU feel any better when you push her down? Does it make you feel like a man because you can talk trash to a young lady and probably get away with it?? Well it's RUDE and inhumanly cruel! This whole situation is OBVIOUSLY bothering her! So instead of making the situation worse, why don't you offer some hard-hitting support rather than "f**k it!" since that will never really do that trick. If she was capable of coming up with something that barbaric, do you honestly think she's had be on P&Q asking for help?? No. This may surprise you, but it sounds like THIS human has a HEART. Hmmm, strange isn't it?

To the poster:
Okay,...so I understand that your mom was raped and got pregnant with you. Well...at least she didn't have an abortion! A LOT of people would turn to abortions if they were raped, which she obviously didn't and you can be grateful for that for reasons which should be obvious....and did your dad actually stick around?? It sounds to me like your mom DOES care...it would be hard raising ANY child as a result of a sexual attack. And I'm so sorry to say that but I bet you she was going through a lot more than you're going through now. And she made the decision to have you and raise you and still be a parent. Maybe not the BEST one but she was there and she's honest enough to tell you now. I hope everything works out and i hope you can learn to live with the truth...Life is strange like that...often throwing unwanted truths in our faces that we're kind of glad that we finally know but at the same time wish we didn't know...that they weren't, in fact, the truth. I hope that makes sense to you..

What is wrong with you Dead Soul. Be nice to the poster and don't try to act all big and bad because people will call you on it. If you have to be mean just keep it to yourself and not make her feel worse than she already does.

Dead Soul, just because you have the ability to make things go away by telling them to f**k off, that doesn't mean that everyone can. To the poster: this is not the person to listen to when you're feeling depressed, obviously, Dead Soul is simply trying to act bigger...to hide something wrong with you, Dead Soul?

Oh geez! Look in the mirror and praise God for your existence!

jst forget it...i know its hard but i am moving on steadily...and yes my mum went thru alot of course she did i got put in care for 2 years cos of it so i know! and you havnt made me feel worse dead soul you have made me feel stronger i shouldnt let comments like that put me down im not like that...whats been sed has been sed and thanks everyone else ^^ xx

My daddy didnt want me to be a girl so thats another time. Might as well get used to it because it's life. And life is going to be like this.

yes, yes, always good to have atleast one brutally honest commenter.

Rape, however, is not love. Sex is not always condusive with love. Not everybody is put on this earth because of love...A lot of other things can go into the complicated and vague term one associates with love. Her mother's love, however, and testament of courage, is the reason the original poster is here.

To the OP: Your mom is amazing!

well...

there is no normal family. does that help? be thankful that you've had a chance to live, and at least ur mom didn't kill u

I agree with dead soul, actually. I wouldn't have been mean about it though.

What's done is done, there's nothing you can do about it. Just get on with life, you're here for a reason.

I wasn't meant to be born either, i was a total accident and because of me, my parents were forced to get married and had ten years of hell.

So my advice. About half the people in this world aren't meant to be born. That's life. Just be thankful you've got one.

Okay, i was told by my father that i was a mistake and wasn't meant to be born. He even told me he never wanted anymore kids and my moms getting pregnant was never meant to happen. I don't really give a f*ck anymore because that's in the past. I know my mom loves me whether or not i was expected. I agree with dead soul. Move on. What's done is done. Life goes on. It may seem brutal, but it's the truth. It's better to be brutally honest then to show sympathy and go on about how sorry you feel for them.

I agree with Gem .

I know this is a very hard topic to discuss about, but you should NEVER think that you were born mistakenly. Don't let what others may say EVER get to your head. First of all, God put you in your mother's womb and formed you, and you were put there for a reason, no matter the situation. You were born for a purpose and it's up to you to find out what that purpose is. No one is born mistakenly. Be happy that you are able to breathe and do the things many can not do right now. ~Stay Strong~

wow, punks, your dad sounds like an ass.

i agree with dead soul i am putting it behind me slowly u only have one chance in life xx

Yeah, he is. I've never even expierienced having a father because he wanted nothing to do with me. It's good that you're putting it behind you. Make the most of life.

i don't know what it is you believe in, but if you believe in God in any shape or form - your birth was no mistake or mishap, your life is no fluke of nature. Your parents may not have planned you, but God did.

psalm 139:15 - "You know me inside and out... how i was sculpted from nothing into something."

and if you don't believe, then all i can say is make the most you can out of life.

good luck.

i totally aggree with FOXY! that verse is really meaningful, and it does make a big point, which actually makes sense...good luck with everything...

I agree to.

If you were not meant to be born to this earth, you wouldn't have been born to this earth. If you want to talk, I'm there for you. :)
Good luck.

x

no, I think when Dead Soul wrote their last post it was so much more meaningful than the asshole comment they put up earlier. Yes honesty is needed, critique and put downs don't help at all.

well hun, I know it's difficult to get use too and get over this kind of situation. At least you have a good reason. I was told by my dad that I wasn't his and that he didn't want me. (bab thing is...I am his)
My mom is the same way. She never tells me she loves me. But it's something you can't change, I know it hurts to know that your not wanted, but it's something your going to have to learn to accept. I know it's hard to accept at first but eventually you will have to just forgive and forget. Rape isn't love, which what your mom said was true. But I honestly don't think it was right just to come out and tell you that you weren't meant to be born. My mom and dad told me I was a mistake. But I've gotten a bit older now, so I've grown to accept that. Yes, it still hurts but I don't hold it against them. They still are my parents after all, whether I like it or not. So just relax and try not to let it bother you as much. Just think about the positive side of things.
well I hope I helped good luck sweety
Kasie

Be thankful you were given a life in the end, many people aren't that lucky

Black Angel,

I'm back again too. Just want to tell you,

You gotta be happy for to even have a life!

Some people out there are dying of AIDS, Cancer, Diseases, etc.

I don't see you with any of those problems so why are you taking life such a harsh way? God gave everything to us to let us live. I think your mom loves you even though she doesnt want to show it because she was raped and felt she got stuck with you. If she really took the time to understand that children are the best thing that could happen to parents. And children can take under a new understandment for parents. Personally I think your mom is immature && harsh for telling you that. If she really never loved you wouldn't you be in a foster home or a group home?? Your lucky you have parents, some of these kids even younger are living on the streets or in a foster home because their parents don't care. If you think its such a bad thing for you to be at home why don't go and tell the school social worker or counsler[sp?]? They'll be able to help you through. I hoped I helped. And if I was harsh I didn't mean it in that way.

Out of three, I was the only one actually planned. If I was one of the two that weren't planned, I wouldn't really matter.

Like Simba from Lion King said "The past doesn't matter"

Dear Child,

If you weren't meant to be born, you wouldn't have been.

thats sucks...., but try having your step mom tell you she wishs you was never born...,i should just go kill myself and do everyone the favor...,and when your were 8 years old watch your mom shot herself and tell you she blames you for wut happened...,and ur dad still to this day blames u for it..., trust me...,you have it easy

Natalie84, that was really deep...i liked that.

you are just like me. except idk if urs was really because of rape or that was just an example, but i wasnt meant to be born. and my grandpa even told me that my mom was at the place to get an abortion, but at the last minute she felt guilty and didnt go through with it. because of that, my father completely resents me. and he always has, and probably always will. though it hurts, you'll eventually accept this with time, and you'll go on with your life. just be glad that you're alive and live day to day...though it's hard, because i still havent gotten over it myself...eventually you and i will both be ok with it

dear Natalie84: bollocks to your god

Everyone was planned by God.

You're not a mistake. Find your purpose. Be happy you can BREATHE right now.

not to get yelled at but, get over it.
I wasn't meant to be here either and yeah it sucks. but you know what so does life. So just have a good cry spend a week depressed and then just get over it. Who cares that you weren't
"supposed to be here" you are and well that counts for somthing. I find tis a lot less annoying to not think about what it would be like if you weren't here and i am sure thats what your doing. Think about what will happen because you ARE here.
with love
bianca

hey thanks everyone for the advice I have taken it bit by bit talked it through with people and i DEFINATELY putting it behind me, everyone was meant to be put on this earth for a reason even if it was fate or a tragic circumstance that brought them here. I took all the comments in and are on my way in life putting EVERYTHING behind me. I have taken whats wrong and i am just happy that i am here to watch my beautiful neice grow up that i have all my caring friends.Thanks eveyrone you helped alot xx becky xx