need advice

Ok, I've been dating this guy. I really think I'm starting to feel something for him, like he's perfect for me. He's really respectful and he never rushes me into anything and he's considerate of me. I know he would never hurt me and he cares about me a lot.

Well, I'm going to have the house to myself on my birthday (feb 16) since my family is going to Florida without me. So I invited him to sleep over my house and I know sex is going to come up (that's why I invited him over, I'm ready.)

Well if we do go all the way, I'm not gonna be a virgin anymore and neither is he (we're both virgins.) and I'm just wondering for all of you with experience.. How, if it did, did your relationship change after you had sex?

I talked about it with him yesterday and he gave me all of the things that I'd be worried about (like him getting bored and leaving, or leaving for someone else) and he promised he wasn't going to do that.

The only thing I'm worried about is that if we start having sex then the communication level we have (we have great communication) is going to drop and alls we're gonna wanna do is have sex. I know that's not what I want.

I just wanna know all the possibilities there are if I decide I want to go through with it. I know I'm psychically ready to have sex, I just wanna know what happened to other people after you had sex. Like how your relationship changed?

anyone?

Thanks, you made me feel a lot better about the situation.

yeah sex should come natuarlly! if you two reallu love eachother then sex will bring you closer, sex should be the ultimate sign of love! something you do when you are ready for the commitment and you know you have the right guy!

Thanks :)

anyone else?

" I really think I'm starting to feel something for him"

that's good. you should certainly feel something for him before you have sex. but personally, i think you should be a little more sure than you seem. it's good that you've given it thought, but i'd advise to wait a while longer. if you guys are right for each other, waiting until you're both completely secure and sure will only sterngthen your relationship. plus, then you can be assured that you do get along for reasons besides sex. i hope you love him before you do that.

If you're having doubts, maybe it's not wise to just expect it to happen. It's a big step... and you really should be careful and make sure this won't turn into a regret.

^^^^ "if you guys are right for each other, waiting until you're both completely secure and sure will only sterngthen your relationship. plus, then you can be assured that you do get along for reasons besides sex. i hope you love him before you do that."

that was going to be my point exactly. wait for LOVE... not "feel something for him."

good luck. =]

well if u have sex way to young it can ruin a relationship really bad. like me! just make sure he's doingit cuz he likes you not so he can brign his little man ego up and t4ell people he's not a virgin anymore.