Teenage Engagement

This has been bugging me for a while now, so I'd like to see some other opinions on it.

There have been several posts on here involving engagement, including ages as young as 14, 15, and 16. Is it the new fad to be engaged or something?

Does anyone else think that with so many rings being given out at such a young age that it lessens the value of marriage and engagement?

Note: I am not trying to judge anybody, it's just a thought that I'd like some feedback on.

"Does anyone else think that with so many rings being given out at such a young age that it lessens the value of marriage and engagement?"

Yeah, I agree with that. I think that if you're like, 19 years old and engaged, then thats fine because by then you usually know what you want (I'm not saying that anybody any younger doesn't). But it depends on where you're going with your life. 14, 15, 16, and even 17 in most cases is way too young.

Just enjoy life. If you're in love, that's great, but it doesn't mean that you have to go ahead and get engaged right away. Only get engaged if you are ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN that you will be married. Well, thats my opinion. But there's no rush.

I think each person needs to grow on their own before they can grow old with someone first.

Well i got engaged a few months after i turned seventeen and everybody told us we were to young. However nearly two years later, we're living together and have the wedding planned for 2008/9.
I'd say in some cases, if it's meant to be, it will happen but i agree with the fact that some people are just to young and are treating it like fad which angers me because i get roped in the same catagory.
Most teenagers swear undying love for their bf/gf and the next week are saying it to someone else. One of my ex's is a prime example.
So i agree with what your saying on certain levels.
Gem x

I'm 15 and me and my boyfriend are enagaged..kind of, see we started dating 3 years ago when we were 12 and have been inseperable ever since. he gave me a ring last september and asked me to marry him. i said yes and we're not planning anything right away..i guess its just like a promise to be together forever, until the time is right to actually get married. if that counts. lol i dont know if anyone thinks thats a stupid way to do it..but any opinions would be appreciated.

Maybe at that age they've found the right person, maybe they dont need to be 19 to figure out where there going. im 15 almost 16 hes 20 gonna be 21 after im 16 and I know he is what i want and he is where im going.. for christmas he gave me a promise ring.. and in febuary (next) ill be 16 we'll be engaged.. and married 4 months after that a week after im 17..
We both know that wherever were going we wanna go there together.. We wanna be together everyday, share every aspects of our lives.. I dont need to be 19 or older to figure that out.

Hmm...I don't agree with it either. But I can't be asked to complete the post. I'll be back soooooon :].x

my couzin is 16 and her boyfriend is 23 and they just gave each other promise rings. well she gave him a note that she thinks they should have sex (remember the age diff.) and be4 they started dating she told me she wouldnt have sex until she got married. well now they are both talking about getting married. i think its kinda stupid (for her) to get married at a young age becuz she just recently met this guy and she's already saying she's in love...but thats my opinion.

and yes i do think that w/ all the rings being given out that it lessenes the value of marriage.

NOTE: i'm not saying that its wrong to get married at a young age i'm just saying its wrong for her when she falls in and out of love in 5 mins.

I'm glad to see that there are others who share my opinion.

This is how I see it: Teenagers are still growing and changing, they're still deciding what they want to do with their life. Right now, they may think they want to spend the rest of their life with the person they are with currently. But as you change, and your significant other changes, chances are your feelings will change too.

I don't see the point. And I believe it was Britt who brought up promise rings; those are a good idea if you ask me.

And it shocks me when some teenagers are getting engaged after being with the person for only a few months. But I suppose that's a whole other topic.

For some people it's right, some people it's wrong.

It was right for me to get enaged to Marcus when i was 17
But for kids at the age of 15 when they have a new boyfriend every month? Not so right.

Love has to mean something. It's not a fad

"Love has to mean something. It's not a fad"

You couldn't have said that better if you tried. lol ^_^. I am only 15, but it seems a little riducoulus (sp?) to be married at this stage in my life, I know I am still growing, and changing, as are the people around me. As you get older, you're views on the world change, and your view of love changes. What you think about love now, may not what you think love is even 2 years from now. Now I'm not saying that you can't have true love at 15, because true love depends on the persons capaicity (for lack of a better word) to love and feel for other people. I just think that you have so much left to experience when you are 15 and if you get married then, you are missing out on a huge part of your life. I know I would never get married until I was at least in college!! I personally think it's insane, you are wasting precious years of your life. Promise rings are better than engagement rings (at this age anyway). Marriage is a life long commiment, and I know I'm not ready to spend the rest of my life with just one person.

Also, people say I Love You WAY to much, it holds absouletly no meaning anymore, and it makes me angry. They say it, without meaning it, and to some people, that means a lot, while to others it means absoultely nothing. But that is a completly different topic.

However, I do wish those of you who are engaged (even if you are really young..) the best of luck, and I hope your weddings go well, and that your relationships are long and happy. Best of luck to you all ^_^

I am 16 and has been with my boy-friend for 3 1\2 years and last friday he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him i was stunnded for a second not expecting it but i know he is the one so i said yes.... there is nothing wrong with being engaged at a young age!!!

"Also, people say I Love You WAY to much, it holds absouletly no meaning anymore, and it makes me angry. They say it, without meaning it, and to some people, that means a lot, while to others it means absoultely nothing. But that is a completly different topic.

However, I do wish those of you who are engaged (even if you are really young..) the best of luck, and I hope your weddings go well, and that your relationships are long and happy. Best of luck to you all ^_^"

I oversay "I love you" to Marcus all the time but i mean it from the bottom of my heart each time the words leave my lips.
I just don't like it when a girl will tell their boyfriend "I love you so much forever" and the next week they say the same words to the next boy.
It's pathetic. Don't say it unless you mean it!

And in answer to your second part, the wedding is halfway planned, lmao. So stressful, it's like moving house which i'll be doing in two months!! lmao

I think its alright to be engaged as a teen. But I also will say this: give love a chance to grow and mature, don't put the pressure upon your heart to mature when it is still young. Let love take its course and flow freely when you are young. If it wants to stay, it will.

i think that if you are really in love in the other spouse is really in love with you then they would wait untill an appropraite age

Egagement and Marriage is something to take seriously. I don't think teenagers aren't thinking that once you commit to it it's not like you can break up two days later. I'm a teenager myself too so yeah lol. Just my thought.

And back in the older days, it was appropiate for people to get married at a younger age because they matured much faster. My great grandma is 90 and she got married when she was 17 to my great grandma who was 37 i think. Idk. But they didn't think about sex and all that they thought about how it would help out on the farm about getting things done faster. Alot more people expected more out of other people back then. Now days some 25 year olds still try to act and look 16 years old when they just have to grow up.

You know, i'm going to be completely honest. I personally think that young teens should not become engaged. You never know what's going to happen. A seemingly amazing relationship could end just like that. A promise ring on the other hand is acceptable. Marriage and commitment is a serious matter. My cousin recieved a promise ring when she was 13 from her b/f. Now they are both 18 and he got her another one with an actual dimond. He plans on buying a real engagement ring when they are ready. I think that it was smart to do because they both want to make sure that it's serious and they are both ready and then he'll propose.

I'm really happy for you Gem!!! That is so sweet, (and I wish you two the best of luck!!!) but Britt was right, I meant when people say it and don't mean it, that makes me angry. Saying it all the time is perfectly fine, if you mean it, which I'm sure you do!!! I just don't understand why people say things they don't mean!! If you don't love somebody, then why say it?? Maybe I am just too deep of a person, lol, but really...

^^ Punksunite24 that is sweet, when they were 13 and they are still together!! That is soooo sweet!! Awww.. sorry, I'm a sentimentilst at heart, lol!!

lol, i know! I really respect my cousin. They are the cutest couple. I can't wait till they get married :).

Awwww.. that is still so sweet, and they're 18 now.. oh wow.. that is adorable, I hope their wedding goes well!!! That is like one of the ultimate fairy tale romances, you know?? High School sweethearts and they're planning on getting married... how, wow, it's just a beautiful thing!!!! ^_^

Talking bout how feelings change after a few yrs as u grow... well think about this, there are ppl who have arranged marriages, whom they dont even know exactly everything bout the the person they're marrying (at tmes) but those arrange marriages turn out to be one of the most successful marriages.

If u wanna know the truth, getting married/enaged young is much healthier, because when a person turns 24-28 etc. they become much more independent they feel no one really needs to control them n getting married becomes more difficult and picky u start to love ur freedom, and u grow older... when your young and fresh you get the chance to emerge with the person u decide to spend the rest of ur life with, u grow a bond with them together. also at a younger age u want to get more involved with intercourse, getting married young helps to not have intercourse with other ppl or making mistakes by becoming pregnant.. etc..

so getting married young now a days in a more civilized open minded society is a big deal but happens with immaturity. if ur in love theres not question to who u want to marry cuz u feel that's the person for u.

Me n my man have been seperated 3 1/2 yrs i was 15 yrs old n he was 17 when we got together, n fell in love, n now im 18 n he's turning 20 n we've decided to get engaged n then married when we're both independent and have our careers set, prob by the ages of 24-27. but the important thing is that we've promised to stick with each other for life and that no one else can take either one of our place.

cuz marriage is not something minor, its supposed to last till u die. now a days for stupid reasons couples would have divorces and etc... if u truly love someone and strongly feel to spend the rest of ur life with them then u should get married etc.. engaged. but think twice if ur young think of how u will support urself later on n how important ur career and other values r. just cuz ur in love it aint the end of life... u have to take care of other business too.

its more deep when u think of it n the other branches to marriage/family n etc. but this is just a general explaination.

think wisely take risks and dont be stupid ask from someone who's more experienced perhaps someone who is in their 30's n lived longer than u.

Engagement while still in high school is insane, I'll say that. But I really don't think that going so far as to call us 'kids' is necessary. A lot of us have gone through a lot, and just because we're minors doesn't mean we're kids, Britt.

well to all of yall who think it is wrong or something I am not only in high school and engaged but i am a 9th grader in high school.... i am happy

Woow.. you must have a really strong belief in each other that you already get engaged at such a young age..

but doesn't the lack of freedom frighten you ?

anyways.. you have my support! :) good luck together.

x