I'm Listening

post your problems here, and I'll help you get through it; post your feelings here, because I am here to listen.

You can ask for advice or you can just vent your feelings into this tiny little box. :)

I want to help, really. ^^ I'll always be here when you need me. :)

I suggest that you just give him some time. He may have something on his mind, like issues with his family or relatives.

In November 2003 I started going out with a good friend, he made me smile, and made me feel really good about myself, he was so sweet and kind.
I began to fall in love with him, it was so good to be around someone who cared so much about me.
But then some problems at home made me begin cutting again, and i was scared i would hurt this special guy. I broke up with him, in January 2004, and he hated me, he was so cruel, he said really horrible things but I still loved him and in regretted the split.
I havent seen him since July 2004 but i miss him every day, and i love him still with all my heart, i iwish he'd just call me, we never really resolved our feelings. He just hated me and wouldnt talk to me.
I'm 19 now, and havent cut for over a year, so i am really pleased about this and my life is getting back on track. But i just love Antony so so much, i can't forget him.
I know i'll always love him but this love i feel for him has stopped me moving on and getting on with my life.
I get really upset when i think of him.
What should I do?
I know you'll say "Forget him and move on" but i've tried that, its impossible.

Thanks.

Tara, first of all I'm glad to hear that you've stopped cutting. :)

You have to let this guy know WHY you broke up. I'm not saying that he'll fall in love with you again, but letting him know that you just didn't want to hurt him may start to fill in the gap between you two. Things between the two of you will never be the same, so you might wanna start fresh.

Just let him know that you still have feelings for him. I hope this helps.

He knows why i split up with him. But he doesnt care.
I text him, call him,. but he never answers. Its as though i dont exist.
I've tried to move on.
i guess you think that i shouldnt waste my time on someone like him, but i just really love him.

I'm having the same problem. It's really hard to move on, I know. But you HAVE to. There is another boy out there that will never ever hurt you, you just have to find him.

I met a man through the Internet. We started as simply friends, but after about a month we became a little more serious. A couple days ago, he completely cut me off. I'm almost completely sure I didn't do anything wrong, and I've tried contacting him a few times, but he won't respond. (I can tell he's been online though.) Because I received no closure, no reason to be shunned, I can't stop thinking about him, and it drags me under because I don't know why.

Advice...please.

heh, this is random.. I'm on antidepressants and my mum doesn't know, and I'm supposed to have an operation (she does know about) and they required details of drugs taken recently on a form. I couldn't put it there because my mum would see it, but I don't want complications in the operation because I didn't tell them... ?? I know I should ring them and talk to them but somehow I know it will get back to my mum... I've been trying to put off the operation... I don't know.

Ellie, I highly doubt you did anything wrong. Maybe he just needed a brake from talking to you. Maybe he thinks you're mad at him or maybe he's embarressed about something he said. Just give him some time before jumping to conclusions, kk? :)

Tamsin, you have to tell your mom. This could be very dangerous and could possibly interfere with the surgery. They want to know if you've been taking drugs for a reason. Trust me, your mom would want to know. Please tell her.

Oh, and good luck on the surgery. :)

No, I was right. I received the final goodbye e-mail yesterday. I'm not really sad about it, but I can't help but keep running things through my mind. Oh well, these things tend to happen. *shrug*

I'm having such a problem getting over the fact that I'll never meet a certain group of people... People keep telling me that I should stop reading the books that the people are in, but it's just too hard to stop... Sorry... you probably don't need to know...

Hey, if someone say's they'll listen, they'll listen, okay? I luv dis box ^-^

I don't really have too many problems right now, but I guess I'll start with this:

Recently, a lot of my friends have been joking around about stuff they consider 'emo': writing poetry, dying their hair black, cutting themselves, etc. It really gets on my nerves. I tell them to quit saying stuff like that; I hit them if they threaten to do anything dangerous. I'm a nice friend and all, but I just don't want to know that my best friend's died the next day because one of their 'threats' went haywire. I get deeply upset and touchy about topics like this. I've been through it (besides dying my hair black), and every part of being 'emo' is horrible. Except in 6th grade, they called it 'goth' when you complained about how horrible your life is. I really want them to stop; I just don't know what to do. I don't enjoy advising myself all of the time, because sometimes I get so upset that I do nothing at all to get out of the situation.

I don't want to go back to where I was, and I cannot stand seeing my own friends turn into what I used to be.

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Got any advice? I've tried telling them how I feel about this situation. I've also asked them to stop. They don't listen; they just keep on joking around about killing themselves. I get so upset when they do that.

Any advice/suggestions would be helpful. I'd appreciate it. Thanks 4 ur time.

Rain

Hey Fruits Basket fan. Don't worry about it. Just be yourself. As long as you're mature about it, you should be able to read whatever you want.

They need to stop. Joking about killing themselves is not the way to go. It could just be that they want some attention. It's most likely just a faze, but you need to tell an adult, one that you trust. Maybe tell the school counsler and him/her could sit down with your friends and talk to them. Obviously they don't understand the gravity of the situation. And I will say this once more: You Need To Tell An Adult. And don't worry, I highly doubt any of their threats will actually be put into action.

I wish you luck. This IS a nice box, isn't it. :]

v-v if I tell the counselor, will they call their parents?

It's possible. It really depends on what your friends are doing. But there is counlser to student confindentiality. That means that they can't tell anyone about what's going on with the students, unless it has to do with their safety.

I just faced reality, and it let me know (in a rather harsh way) that nothing about my life is good enough. I always wondered why I was so depressed all of the time. Well. This may sound so incredibly pathetic, but I told this person whom I supposedly 'love' that its not even worth it. I hurt his feelings pretty much purposely. I feel bad about it. But that seems to be the least of my problems right now.

In everyone's life we all have to learn that life is never pretty. We have to be grateful for what we have and accept that things are never perfect. We all seek to find something that will make our lives complete, but there is nothing. Only God and Jesus can satify our longning. As for braking up with the one you love, are sure it's what you wanted to do? Or were you just taking out your frustrations on him? I'm not trying to point the finger right now, just for the record.

I hope you feel better. But don't worry, the sadness will pass, it's just a cloud passing over head. :)

okay. I'm done for now. I'll post a new thread like this later, I won't be on again for a few days or so.