another guy issue =/

welllllllllll

it all started when my old friend Albert gave his friend Brandon my number. soooo me and brandon started talking its been a week now and he asked me out on friday night. mind you...weve only been talking on the phone i seen some pics of him on myspace but he doesnt know what i look like...only from what Albert has told him. but on saturday he told me hes moving way too fast and now ive become his reboundish gurl because hes still talking to another chick he likes. he didnt call me at all yesterday or at least we didnt talk. idk what to do. advice please!!!

well he actually said me and him are still going out...which makes no sense at all because im sure he likes that other chick as well.

yeah i know its weird. but why would he ask me out then....is he deperate?? he tried taking it back when he said i was his rebound but little things like that stick to me like super glue. i cant forget that he even said that. makes me feel like sh!t.

oi Matt, let's not be mean.

Do you mind being the "reboundish" chick?

If so, keep pursuing. Personally, if I was the "backup" dude, well, no, I wouldn't be. If you allow him to do this, I don't see anything working out.

honestly idc. my self-esteem is in the negative digits!! even though he said he took it back and he didnt mean it in that way.....i know what he meant and im glad he said it. it lets me know where i stand in his eyes. i just like him a ton so its hard to just let go. idk any more

You're letting him do this to you because you have no self esteem? GET SOME.
You don't always want to be the second option, you want to be first in his eyes, and if you're not now, get rid of him. If he'd rather have someone else but he's using you to ease his pain, you don't want to be with him.
Learn to think more of yourself, because if you're this vulnerable you'll be taken advantage of over and over again.

yeah i know i just dont know how to deal with this. its hard to just wake up and decide to have self esteem. its not as easy as people make it out to be. i like him a lot and i feel like i cant do any better. i dont want pity or people to be rude about the situation. i just want advice on what to do.

oh no i was talking about you britt. i was just saying to people who wrote negative things and were of no help. i really appreciate your advice! trust that i will use it to the best of my ability and grow some self-esteem lol.

to crunkz:

you always have something cruel to say to me in the posts i post. idk why but you do. your one of those people who lower self-esteems by saying im playing a part in "stupidity" which makesno sense. its a mistake which will always be made by people. please save your useless thoughts to yourself.

"God you girls blame guys for being so insensitive, well it's your fault for being so blindingly stupid!"

he doesnt have to sugarcoat anything. im not blindingly stupid i just dont want to face the truth. i know what i need to do i just havent stepped up to do ANYTHING.

yea i think i am like you too! I think all you can do is wait or call him yourself but dont go crazy on him a question him about not callin you just ask him wat he did yesterday and if he says something like o sorry bout not callin you yesterday then its all gravy

^^ hee hee

its comforting to know im not the only one with guy troubles. very true. however i dont really call his house cause his guardians arent very nice about him talking on the phone. and he told me hes gonna get a cell. but w/e thats not the point nor is it an excuse right? lol

I got low self esteem too and I also understand what you mean when you said its hard to let go, but if he told you he also like another girl and you two are still going out then would you really be happy knowing or thinking that any moment he might leave you for another girl? I would break it off, but its your choice.

I hope i got the facts right. Reading everyone's comment kinda got me a little confuse

you couldn't find someone you already knew in person to start dating?
-lame-