talking to your 3 yr old daughter about divorce

^^ agrees [:.

Gravedigger,

Try talking to Rosanne and telling her that her mom and you didn't work out so well so you guys cannot be together. But tell her that you both will still be there for her and as her parents but just not as a couple. Tell her she'll still get the same love and respect and caring as she's having now but just alot from one parent at one time and alot from the other parent at other times.

Seriously I know how Rosanne would feel, my brothers and I had gone through that when Dylan was first born and I was older. Every child would be confused and heartbroken because new people they will not know will come into their life suddenly.

I hope you and Mary works out!

*I send my wishes to you guys.

Well, I'm not sure if 3 is old enough to understand anything or need to hear anything, but only because I personally have very few memories before I was 5. and none of them were memories of my parents talking to me about lecture-y stuff.

I don't know. Just start talking about. Let your feelings out. Kids sense that. Explain to her what you mean, and what happened, and why you guy's split up. and keep it neutral. blaming the other spouse never gets you in good with your child. let them come to their own conclusions.

okay. rant done.

First of all work on your marriage. That comes first, because without you guys, she wouldn't be here.

yeah, I just re-read that paragraph. dude. you're not divorced yet. don't worrry. just work on some of those issues that you've been fighting about. fighting doesn't mean divorce is imminent.

I know how hard it is for you, I'm going through the exact thing right now, only I'm not married but I have been with the father of my three children for nine years. My youngest little girl is 3 and I know it breaks her heart when me and her father fight. Its hard and I understand where your coming from, but what I do is just talk to my children and let them know that even though mommy and daddy sometimes argue, we still love them and that will never change.

i was three months when my parents split,my mom got remarried when i was six,and when i was thirteen,shes been divorced both times.trust me,shes a little kid still,it'll be hard.but it gets worse when you're older.
just tell her the truth and hope she understands,its a hard thing to go through,just make sure shes knows its not her fault.that was something i wish i had been told.
--lexie

I'm really sorry gravedigger...
for your identity crisis...

what the heck was all that?! :|