past abuse

so i had an ex- who abused me in every possible way.
i really wanna tell my boyfriend now, which i think is good cause ive NEVER told ANYONE or even wanted to, not even my best friend...
how do i start to tell him.. or am i making a mistake by even thinking of telling him..

The guy who abused me threatened to kill me if i told anyone.. maybe i should just keep my mouth shut

I think It depends on how much you really trust your b/f. If you feel confortable telling him and you think it's affecting your relationship by not telling him, by all mean's do. You can't run from it your whole life, to me i think by not being able to share something so personal and so scary with someone close to me that it would just eat me inside. Do what makes you happy, do what will make you feel better. Good luck!

i had a boyfriend who abused me in every possible way also. punching, kicking, cutting, pushing me down stairs...anything. one time he put a knife to my throat and told me if i didn't do what he wanted he'd kill me. i was scared to DEATH that after i got away from him he'd come after me...but i told my b/f now and he's so understanding and he wants to know it. i dont know if you flinch if someone touches you but i do and it bothered my b/f until i told him... like ^ it depends on how much you trust your b/f... but do what you think will help you GOOD LUCK and if you need anyone 2 talk to im here...

well i think that it would be a good idea to tell him. it would help your healing process so much more if you could open up to someone and let everything out. also their will probably be times were you feel fragile around him, or maybe might be experiencing past memories. if he knows it will help him understand and he will be alot more supportive and comforting that way. alot of the time abusers say they will kill you if you tell anyone but it is usually a threat. they want to stay powerful and keep you scared so you don't tell anyone. really alot of the time though they wouldn't do it. although this is not the case 100% of the time. if you can trust your boyfriend and no he want tell a soul than there isn't really a chance your abuser will find out. alot of the time though you may think that your so scared of them when in actual reality their scared of you.

How much do you trust your boy friend?
Do you think your ex is really going to kill you?
I suggest you call the police on your ex
And tell your boy friend immediately.
There's no way a relationship can go
If you're keeping secrets from each other.

That is a hard one. It depends on you. Are you comfortable enough to tell someone? Are you comfortablr that he won't change his attitude to you because of what you tell him?

I had the same problem, one of my ex-boyfriends abused me physically, sexually, emotionally, mentally, every way possible. I always thought it was best to come out with the truth to my next boyfriend (my parents don't even know and it's been 4yrs), but each boyfriend I told either started treating me like the wh*re they thought i was (because of what i had told them) or they treated me like I was dirty.

it really is a hard one. Hope you get things sorted out...