Blame?

Alright... this is probably either not going to make sense or sound pathetic, but let me try.

I have a friend who is very dear to me who has been making some bad decisions lately. I don't really need to go into that, but lets say she's getting in trouble over them. She and I both belong to a decent size circle of friends and we live in different places. That means that there is no way that any of us could just check up on someone one afternoon or even visit or anything. Recently she has been acting depressed and even to the point that we [the circle of friends] were concerned about possible suicide. Two of us, me and another, called her parents to inform them of what was going on. Her parents really had no idea at all. Now, it seems her parents think that this circle of friends here is a 'bad influence'... even though we AREN'T! It's her friends at home that are the problem, and simply herself and her family... But her parents don't see that and so they blame us. Me in particular because I'm her best friend. Her parents now told her that she isn't allowed to talk to any of us, or see any of us, until age 18. I feel like it's my fault because I was the one who pushed to tell her parents what was going on. Am I right to feel that way?!

Well, what if you're a bad influence and don't want to admit it or see it? Also, as much as it seems you want to help your friend. This whole post is about you. Not your friend. So, you trying to help her or venting some issues with someone elses parents? As I recall her parents pay rent, buy the food, pay the bills. They have the final say that's life :)

Well... I don't do any of the things that she's been up to lately, so I don't really see how I'm a bad influence. I dunno... maybe you're right. I'm not so vain that I wouldn't admit to the fact that I may be overlooking something. This post is about me because I was posting about what I was feeling not a diary of her life. There is nothing I can do to help her anymore... My only question out of this post was should I feel responsible for her not being able to talk to any of us. And yes, her parents do have the final say, something that I am not contesting. :)