Cure for a Broken Heart?

So... my boyfriend broke up with me through a TEXT MESSAGE. it hurt that he broke up with me, but it hurt even more to know that he didnt have the decency to tell me in person when he had just seen me literally an hour earlier. and im really upset.

my friend said the best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody (haha) but i dont think thats the only way. does anybody have any ideas?

Allanah

Oh, I wish there was a way! But what I hear is that it just takes time. Maybe the fact that he was an idiot for breaking up with you that way would help? (I mean, I'm sure he was just nervous to do it in person... but I don't think that's a good excuse. If you're going to change someone's life in this way, I think you ought to have the guts to deal with all the blowout.)

Anyway, I really hope things turn out ok for you. Besides "time," the only things I can suggest are: chocolate and humor. They can do wonders. (Actually, I don't know if chocolate is totally necessary, but it can't hurt! The point is indulgence. Let yourself feel special, attractive, and valuable.)

Sorry for the parenthetical extremism.

cure for a broken heart? i know tape, glue, rubber cement, etc don't work.. haha but you know what helps.. a good friend to talk to.. that's it. just get close to the other people that are close to you in life.. don't let them go, especially your family.. because relationships come and go, but blood will never change..

I had my heart broken when my man broke up with me for his ex 5 months ago and honestly i still aint completly over him and there is no promises that you will get over him all you can do is give it time and act like you dont care like when he walks past you in the halls and stuff act like he aint there and then he is gonna wonder why you aint lookin at him and then he is gonna wanna talk to you about it and jus play hard to get cuz you know there is always that chance of you getting back together! Did he give you a reason?

Go out and buy or borrow Alanis Morrisettes cd 'Jagged Little Pill' - therapy for the downhearted and angry in love.

then again there's always [boyz II men]... haha i don't know.. i request that to everyone...

my bf broke up with me on msn but we had soo much in common but everytime in class he keeps on looking at me it seems like he wants a 2 chance i just dont know what to do and we just hung out like a day later after it happend cuz for sure i would like a 2 chance i am just :S

xXAshley

There is no way dear. No way to cure a broken heart, no way to cure a sad heart. Time is the only healer.

-Try writing or reading or sleeping
Remember you still have plenty of time to find someone. The world is very big lol

Thanks everybody. he wouldnt tell me a reason, but he did tell my friend a reason...

His reason:

"It was awkward."

Which is a direct quote and not really a reason at all.

I think what i need is a BIG block of cement to throw at his head during the play today... yeah, thatll work!!!
Allanah

You know what helps?
Ice cream...
Cookies...
Chinese food....
The Notebook...
And one hot guy friend!!!!!

hey monica, my ex broke up with me 5 months and i am still not over him either. your right you do need to act like you dont care when he is around but i think you do need to talk to someone. let it all out or it will just get worse. so ya i miss my guy so much and hope fully one day he will come back to me.

I know two men you can go to, and they'll help you through it all. Their names are Ben and Jerry.

ya i'll have to try that but idk how much it will help i mean not even 5 months of time helped me

It seems to be the time for broken hearts. Everyones getting their hearts broken. Mine just was also for the first time and I really didn't know that it could hurt so bad.

So far the only things that are keeping me sane is that I realised that if he could do something like this to me then he isn't worth it and isn't the right one, seeing that there are still people out there that love me(it made me see what was most inportent in life) and sugar, lots and lots of sugar and chocolate. =)

I still love him and I still want to be with him, but I realised that if he could hurt me this bad then he can't really love me and there is someone out there that is going to never hurt me because he'll put my happiness before everything.

Hope that you make it through alright and that he sees just what he let go.
xoxox Rhea

dudes... UPDATE!!!!!!!

so... his new reason was...

"if the relationship isnt going to go anywhere then its a waste of time and theres no point in wasting time on a WORTHLESS relationship."

so i just thought id let everyone know that i am now officially...

WORTHLESS.

^-^ yay me!

^ I believe he said, quote on quote, "worthless relationship." That in no way implies that you are worthless, it simply means he had little faith in your relationship as a combined entity, which could possibly be due more to his own lack of ability and worth.

You are not worthless, and if that is what he so intended, which I doubt, then, he's a fool and may he rot in eternal hell fire. You're not worthless. You're well-spoken, mature, strong in a sense. I can tell these things simply from my miniscule knowledge of you. I bet you're 10 times better in person!

you are so far from worthless. if the guy calls you worthless it really means they are and they dont know how to handle an actuall relationship. there are many fish in the sea dont settle for the one who treats you like your nothing

i have been asked out face to face once, on text message once, and on AIM 4 times. i have been broken up by text message 3!!!! times, myspace once, and email another. i swear guys are so...like wussy! i wish i could help...but im still gettin over my ex....it sucks....its been like a year..i still miss him. even my newer ex i miss...lol i guess i don't get over ppl:-/. and YOU are not worthless! if anyone is, it's HIM!

as sad as it is, there is no cure for a broken heart. the only thing that helps the slightest is probably time. although time doesnt make it all completely better.. it does help after a long while. its nearly been a year since i broke up wiv my loved one. and ive had 2 boyfriends since and believe me it doesnt really help. i cant seem to love anyone apart from him and im scared that im gonna stay this way all my life. im scared that ill never be able to learn to love again. but theres nothing no one can do to change it. honestly, just give it some time. it hurts like a bitch i know, just make sure u got some good friends to pick u up when u need it. thats all i can suggest really, just remember when u feel like u need to cry dont hold it in. it really does help to let it all out. i still cry over my ex matt even now. things has got better within time but whether or not ill ever be over him completely i dont know. only time will tell. just give urself time okay x

He's obviously not worth it. What an ***.

you don't leave love..love leaves you..and it takes time....so..don't worry ..one day you'll wake up and say: wow that wasn't long was it?

You can't cure a broken heart. All you can do is try and move on, no matter how much you love them. I know it hurts and that its hard. I loved my ex and he broke up with me through msn.

Yeah my ex just broke up with me thru a text message too.

Its a coward way, I reckon.

Vodka will just mess you up more.

wow dude! you think vodka will help? it wont it seriously does just make it worse. nothing helps. it has been 5 months and i am still not over my ex.

Lighten up. Darwin made a joke. Time to laugh, everyone!

lol. hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. was that a good laugh lol. im not being sarcastic either

alrighty then...

so jeff decided after not talking to me for 3 WHOLE WEEKS, he would text me tonight. that ended badly. anything in parentheses is my opinions and thoughts or side comments.

JEFF: hi.
ME: hey (at this point i thought he was ravyn)
JEFF: how did you do at the thing?
ME: what thing?
JEFF: The singing competition.
ME: what singing competition?
JEFF: the one on saturday
ME: wait... who am i talking to????
JEFF: Jeff
ME: oh i c now. i got a one. (best score you can get)
JEFF: Thats cool me too. who did you think i was?
ME: i dunno... i was just confused because you havent said anything to me in three weeks... it was kinda weird.
JEFF: i dont think its weird.
ME: why dont u think its weird?
JEFF: cuz were still friends.
ME: you never say anything to me
JEFF: I talk to you at school
ME: yeah i guess.
JEFF: so anythin new?
ME: nope, nothing.
JEFF: I didnt know sandy (foriegn exchange student from france) was living with you! (okay, MAJOR subject change here people!!!!)
ME: yeah shes lived with me since friday.
JEFF: oh thats kool
ME: yeah
JEFF: So how was ur test today?
ME: it sucked. i hate tests. theyre lame...
JEFF: So do you wanna talk about anythin?
ME: Well u know me pretty well so you know i can never think of anythin 2 talk about. (here was where it started going BAD, and i mean really BAD!!!!)
JEFF: Yea, but maybe you should try a little harder.
ME: Okay whatever... i dont get how im supposed to try harder if thats who i am. it seems pointless.
JEFF: I'm just saying u will get better if you try and practice.
ME: (uberly pissed now) Well im just saying if you think ur gonna talk to me and critique me on my poersonality theres no point in talking to me at all. and YES, i have an attitude because u seem to be making me mad a lot lately.
JEFF: I've noticed and im not trying to make you angry. im just ginving u advice but if you dont wanna hear it and ur gonna get pissed at me then ill talk to you later.
ME: I'm just sick of how you always seem 2 have an attitude issue whenever i get around you cuz ur just fine until i show up and then you have to show off for your friends.
JEFF: I've never done that and i dont have an attutude. i just wanted to talk to u and c how ur doing and u got mad. how do u think im showin off?
ME: whatever... im over that now. Wats really botherin me is that u broke up with me over a text and expect me to be nice. i still need time to think. (by now im crying and sick of him.)
JEFF: I dont see the big deal with that. i had a lot of issues with family and still do. just so you know i didnt enjoy breaking up with you. i did it cuz i didnt want to snap at you cuz of my family one day.
ME: whatever. just talk to me tomorrow because i dont wanna cry over you anymore.
JEFF: k.

so that was our stupid argument. im gonna talk to him tomorrow at lunch after CSAP. (CSAP= Colorado Student Assessment Program, also known as C-CRAP.)

Love (cuz nobody else does)
Allanah

so did you ever talk to him? what happened?

Get a journal to vent your pain, anger, and frustration.
Never under estimate of putting your thoughts on paper. It allows to get your feelings out of your head and prevents them from eating you alive from the inside out. It can keep you from saying things to your EX you may later regret. Write out all of those nasty things that you would like to say in your journal instead - you’ll feel just as good and will avoid any unnecessary altercations with your EX.
Don’t try to stay friends - at least not at first…
In the beginning, you both need time to heal and truly get over the relationship. Trying to be friends during this stage, will only cause you to hold on to those old feelings. If you have obligations that require you to stay in contact like children or your job, don’t talk about your former relationship, your new partners, or anything else that you know may be a volatile topic. Keep your conversations relevant to your children or work and away from highly those charged emotional topics.
Delete them from your life.
Delete their phone number from your speed dial, delete all of their emails, cards, and letters. We recommend that you get rid of anything and everything in your home that holds any energy or emotional charge from the relationship. Everything that your keep ties your energy to theirs and will make it very difficult to attract new experiences, and new people, into your life.
Give yourself time to heal.
Don’t jump right into another relationship to fill the emptiness that you may now be feeling. Allow yourself time to experience the pain and feel the anger. Understand that you are not your anger and you are not your sadness. They are just experiences, however intense, that should be welcomed into your life just as much as joy and happiness. We need these experience to grow and to become stronger. The best way to get over something hurtful is to allow yourself to truly experience it. Here is a terrific program that has helped both Dan and I get rid of tons of old emotional baggage: The Sedona Method
Focus on you.
Take the time right after a break-up to examine your life. Get in tough with what’s really important to you. Often in a relationship, especially a long term relationship, our passions and goals get intermingled with our partner’s. Sometimes, we can even forget the things that we really love and enjoy.

the website i got that from;
http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/break-up-and-divorce/will-you-be-a-victim-this-break-up-season/

Erm. Allanah. Do you seriously believe ANYONE is going to read your lightyear-long conversation with Jeff? Look. It's done, over with, finito!

Get on with your life.x

^^ okay that was really rude and unnecessary. honestly. and i am going to try and stay friends with him because i am the bigger person. if you dont want to read anything then dont, you dont have to, and you dont have to comment either.

the reason people make me mad...

Allanah

I did end up talking to him and apologizing for being such a bitch. but whatever. weve been texting again.

about what? how are you doing?

we just text about whatever comes to mind... and sometimes hes a real jerk but other times hes nice. he told my friend he might ask me back out tho and i dont know how i feel about that.

the way i know to help is to cry and cry and cry

If it's any comfort I read your "ubber-long" post with Jeff, and I'm glad that you're letting yourself be angry and all that.
November of last year a guy invited me out, and I just kind of brushed him off... but he kept asking every once in a while and I thought that we would finally get together sometimes. Anyway, not too long ago he gave me his blog address and he has pictures saying lovey things to his girlfriend from November and December '06 which was just the time when he was asking me out...
I must have good intution, to have said no in the first place. All the same, I feel an underlying depression.. like, yeah, of course I'm too fat and ugly and worthless for a boy to genuinely like me..

But then, a boy that would do that is a real loser, and perhaps I deserve better than a loser.
Listening to music, writing (by hand) in a journal, and lots of chocolate have kept me cheery...
best of luck.. and now go find yourself a *real* man.

//T.L.//

^^^ hahaha... thanks!!!

my friend just told this guy i like that i think hes hot... after i told her NOT to do it!!!! oh well... he just knows its one of her friends, but he doesnt know who it is!!!!

^-^ mini-bob strikes back!