how do you know if you're in love?

  • Ele
    20 years ago

    my boyfriend is so great an he's been in my life in some way or another for over a year. he says he loves me but i'm confused about my feelings for him! i think he's really great. he makes me laugh, he makes me shy, he makes me blush and whenever we kiss i can't stop smiling for ages. i love being with him and dream about him all the time. does this mean i'm in love? I'M REALLY CONFUSED!!!!

  • SHYSTY23KO
    20 years ago

    It sounds like you are! When i thought i was in love, it was cuz the boy, he was so perfect to me! I trusted him, I felt comfortable around him, we were so close and i just couldn't get enough of him! He was so respectful and my family loved him too!
    Your guy seems like he gives you a special feeling! It sounds like your in love!

  • olivia
    20 years ago

    aww well it sounds leik u may love him bing with him a yr is a good amount of time.i know i love my hus 4 the sheer fact taht i can think ahead 10 yrs form now even more and still see him by my side and w e can en\evn apln taht afr in the future knowing were still b togeher. i miss him when hes even in teh next room and even after 3 yrs he still takes my breathe away and makes me weak in the knees.Being in love is great and is confusing and scary at times but enjoy it.Good luck to u and ur bf ..

  • Allen
    20 years ago

    awwww... Im so happy for you lucky people... and jealous at the same time :) its great to be in love isn't it :) ....*sigh*.....

  • Ele
    20 years ago

    well i'm sorry to say that a few hours after i posted this question about whether or not i'm in love, me an my boyfriend broke up. it turns out he wanted my best friend more than he wanted me all along, he told her a few days ago but no1 wud tell me. i honestly thought that this time me an him wud be together a long time. wen i was breakin up with him he didn't try to convince me to stay an agreed with me! guess he lied wen he sed he loved me.

  • Ele
    20 years ago

    i haven't ever been in love so i'm not really sure. i guess only you can tell if your in love. i'm still not sure wat it is an how you know cuz for some reason i've lost all faith in me ever finding love.

  • Ele
    20 years ago

    ur rite, i am quite young, sweet sixteen. problem is i hav a lot of people standin in front of me, how do i know which 1 is best?

  • Ele
    20 years ago

    i don't need to focus on school, i'm doin my a levels but only to waste a couple of years, i'm not botherin wiv a career so school isn't important to me. i've already planned my future, publish some books an hav a family an be a housewife. you're right, i do know who i want, he's amzing, sweet, gentle an funny. one problem, he has a girlfriend!

  • ChildofGod87
    20 years ago

    Awww...Dang girl:( I'm so sry!!! I have felt hurt before..Especially, Deeply Hurt with Pain:( I'm 17 now...But I fell in love or deep liking before and yeah it could hurt so bad!!! You need to know that from this experience that next time you'll beware with this issue that just happened, and you'd get "stronger"... I agree with Bob, but yeah it's kinda hard to move on and think about school and stuff like that:p.. I know how it is:)... I hope the best for you & Be Strong:)

  • Rachael
    20 years ago

    NO one can anwser that question for you. ITs not suppose to be anwsered by some one else. I mean those feelings your having are common, but they arent the formula to being in love. As corny as it sounds only you know the answer. Love is love thats it, you just feel it. You cant explain it, you cant put it into words you just do . It just is. There is no def. to it. People always ask "how do you know when your in love" its very simple you just do, and if your confused by it or dont have an anwser and have to think about it. My guess is your not.

  • Ele
    20 years ago

    that's just sooooooo corny!

  • ElegantlyWasted
    19 years ago

    I don't think there is a real definition of 'True Love' because if there was we'd all be in it. And quite clearly we are not. You might just be experiencing a really deep lust for him, only you know if you're in "love" or not. None of us can answer it for you, as said above.

    But never the less, he sounds like a decent guy.

  • Ele
    19 years ago

    well no matter if i love him or not he sure as hell don't love me. i had to spend like 2 hours last nite watchin him flirtin wiv my best m8 and wats worse is she was flirting back! i really thought it wud last wiv him. he spent months 'chasin' me then wen he had me he went after my best m8, was he just tryin to hurt me cuz it worked

  • xeag
    19 years ago

    any one with advice or comments plz help ...my best friend i told him that he has my trust 100% in response he told me that he didnt trust me 100% more like 80% because of issues he had and it wasnt my fault he didnt want to tell me what the problem was should i insist on knowing whats bothering him ?

  • .x.PorteR.x.
    19 years ago

    I was talking to one of my mates on the phone once, and we were talking about love, i agreed with him completely and this is how he described it, if i can remember [and some other people's ideas put with it]: You think about them every morning and every night, and when you're bored they're the only thing on your mind. It hurts to know they may not be thinking about you. You can't describe exactly why you feel the way you do - it would take forever. Looking in their eyes makes you feel like you no longer exist - only them. You know exactly what their best feature and worst feature are [personality-wise or physically] and you know the facial expression when they're reacting to something. If they're standing behind you and talking you don't even have to turn around to know it's them. In my case, you take the long way to class just to pass them and see if they smile at you.

    Wow now that i have completely babbled and none of those ideas make sense, i will go. That's only half of what being in love feels like

    =) xox, PorteR

  • Emily Eaton
    19 years ago

    hi i'm Emily, im only 13 and i have a bf hu is 15 nearly 16. We have been seeing each other for over a month now and i really do think im falling in love with him! I know i'm only young but you've herd of childhood sweethearts and young love havent you?? Ele i think you were in love with him maybe you still are! If he makes you feel a million differernt things at one time like you said then he obviously got you smitten my dear! When i'm with my bf Teddy it just feels natural, conversation just flows and he just feels like a best friend hu i dont ever want to leave and hu loves me for me and hu i love for them! What do u guys think??

  • HeAvENLy UniQue
    19 years ago

    Let me lay out what I think ~ Not to ruin the nice bubble people commented saying your in love, but you could be "obssessed" or what you think you have with him can also be an " illusion",(in-love and the two wordz~ obssession and illusion) they get mixed up at times.... don't mix them up. If you are still shy with him, thats weird, you probably love him, but not in love yet fully, because when your in love, you have nothing to be shy about at all!!! , when your in love, some how and some where along the line~you give your all to that person, (not as in sex)~ i mean as in yourself within, you feel comfortable with that person completely, with no strings attached. it could be "obssesion" or just an "illusion"... think about it...
    also think about how life would be without the person... if the thought of them not around brings u to millions of tears.. then.. hmm.. then thats something....

    CyN* w/b

    p.s. i kinda agree with bob...
    cause when your in love... it hits you.. you ask yourself it.. and realize it... you don't dwell about if you are or not..

    now that i read the news just now.. damnn.. like i said.. not in love.. lol.. woawhs.. but keep my post in mind for the next...

  • SammiBABY
    19 years ago

    usually u can tell if:
    you think about them 24/7
    you can't concentrate.
    you hurt when they're not there.

    thats how i tell anyway.