Distance...HELP!

  • aDORKable x3
    17 years ago

    Hey guys, I've answered a lot recently and I was wondering if you lovely people could help me.

    Kai, here's the deal:
    I live four hours away from my BF. We went to the same middle school, but he moved away at the end of 8th. I haven't seen him since, but we've kept in touch through phone and letters. Okay, so I still have feelings for him and I always will. (It's one of those you-just-kinda-know-you're-gonna-marry-him-things) Okay, well at school today, I saw couples in the hallways and it hit me really hard. I thought that distance wouldn't be a problem but he can't be there for me when I really need him to be. All last week, let's just say was REALLY bad and I couldn't talk to him at all! He has no cell phone and I tried calling his house, but his dad told me he'd call me back, but he never did. I haven't talked to him in a week. It is extremely frusturating. I don't wanna hurt him; that happened (my fault!) in the past, but I don't know what else to do. He deals with distance better than I do. I thought that I could, but it hurts when I want him to be here when he can't.... Please help me guys!

    ♥Ciao

  • aDORKable x3
    17 years ago

    That's the thing. It's really hard to get in touch with him and I'm not allowed to have AIM etc. or Myspace. Plus, he doesn't really have funn access to the internet. I've had really bad relationships in the past and I just want the hugs and kisses and someone to hold me and tell me that everything is gonna be okay. I just don't have that. I know that when we grow older, we're trying to go to colleges (or the same college) close to each other. We're going into the same field of work.

    Just...I love him..a lot..but idk if I can keep this distance thing going...

    Thanks, btw Traci

    ♥Ciao

  • aDORKable x3
    17 years ago

    we do, it's just not the same as if he were here.. I need him really bad right now, but it's almost useless to try and call him...

    =[

    Ciao

  • aDORKable x3
    17 years ago

    That's what my friend said, but then I called him like 5 times last week and I forgot to mention that his parents (as to my knowledge) don't know about us. My step-dad knows but my mom doesn't... she doesn't really want me doing the whole long distance...

    Ciao

  • Cassandra
    17 years ago

    hey
    ok so even though it seems really hard right now i promise it will get better. see with my bf im not allowed to talk to him or see him my parents told me i was forbidden. and they even made me move out of state so it would be impossible for me and hi to be togheter, yet i still did and i still do today, he's not allowed to call me or anything. i know how you feel everytime you see people in the halls at school i feel the excat same way.. especiallly now that i live so far away. but IF he really LOVES you aand feels the same WAY you do then everything will once work out. just stay strong and remeber love is when you love someone so much that you hold on to them as tight as you can because all it takes is one little blink and they might be gone forever.

  • aDORKable x3
    17 years ago

    goooood question...

    he doesn't have much time on the phone when we do talk...

  • aDORKable x3
    17 years ago

    thanks cassandra... I know what you're saying... i just don't know if I'm ready to have that much of a relationship with him... I want a real relationship with someone soo bad... I've never even been on a date and I "dated" a guy last year for 8 months!!

  • aDORKable x3
    17 years ago

    alright, I think I'm gonna try talking to some of my friends at school (probably call my bff tonight) and ask them their opinions. Thanks guys.. If anyone else has anything to add, please feel free.

    Ciao

  • xPerfect Chaosx
    17 years ago

    If you don't think your ready for a long distance relationship, you probably aren't, I sort of had one going on, only my frined lived in Canada, and me in the U.S. (we weren't really going out, but we sort of had feelings for each other) and it never worked out because of the distance, it's hard, but stay strong, things'll come around eventually. Just hang in there! Hope this helped
    Much Love,
    Danielle

  • aDORKable x3
    17 years ago

    it does help, and thanks a lot! =]

    Ciao