Someone Please Help Me

Hey. I have liked this guy for 9 months now and we have recently just split up after a six-month relationship. We had great relationship, one that i have realised was almost perfect. Yeah we had arguments and stuff, but we always sorted it out. But in the Christmas holidays we went downhill and decided to take a break. We were going to get back together when school started again, but everytime either one of us asked the other out, it was bad timing. Then, i did something stupid and broke his heart, also breaking mine. Now i've screwed up everything. He has told me, there aint no more chances to get back together. And that he is over me. I don't understand. How can he love me one minute, then be over me the next? I'm still in love with him. I dont know how i can get over him. I want him back so bad. Does anyone have any advice on how to fix what i've done? I know we had a connection and i want that back. Please Help Me!

Chrissie xx

Are you sure it's love, or is it a crush? You have to understand that even if you DID end up getting back together, the connection would probably never be the same. The thing is..you can forgive, but you usually can't forget. If you broke his heart, it won't be easy for him to trust you, therefore there WILL be more problems in your relationship.

Try searching your heart deeper. Maybe you feel that he is the only guy you can have such a good connection with. Try meeting some other guys and see what happens. If you really only miss the connection, and not him as a lover, try to renew the friendship. It may be a bit easier on him.

Hope I helped.
xx.

It happens . We make mistakes . & somtimes we make ones like these that we just can`t fix . If he says that, don`t bug him about it or try to get with him again any time soon . If guys say that, it normally means they need space . If you broke his heart while you still feel for him -- That`s one fo the biggest mistakes that you can ever make . Even if you do end up getting back together, his outlook on you will never be the same . The RELATiONSHiP won`t be the same . If you miss or try harder, it`s just gonna make it harder to let go . Talk to him . Hang out with him . Call him . AS A FRiEND . & nothing more . It`ll help him . AND you .

..__MiNDYY

its just because
we make mistakes
and they dont know how to fogive us
secreltly he prob still loves you
hope u work it out
ily

The thing i did wrong was try to hook up with another guy because i needed someone else to talk to. I hardly ever got to see the other guy. So i was looking for company. But then, i let my head speak instead of my heart and i told him what i did, which broke his heart. But then i also told him that i need to move on. Because thats what my head wanted. I kinda forgot what my heart wanted. And i think i am in love with him. Pretty sure anyway. Thank-you guys for your help. It is making me feel a little better. i think anyway...

I'm sorry for what has happened, your inability to be strong and loyal, his inability to forgive. If you were to be together now, I think your relationship is damaged goods. It would either fall apart from the lack of security and trust, the past hurts, or given more hope, it would simply take a long time to be where it once was. You love him, so you have said, and I will not even think to question such a statement, therefore, be honest with your feelings. Tell him you are terribly sorry, explain why you did the things you did, and why you still want to be with him, why he should not give up. No pressure, remember? If he still wants nothing to do with you, inquire as to a possible friendship, if you would want a small connection versus no connection. Sounds like he just needs time and space to sort his mind and heart out. Best of luck.
While there is life, there is hope. We all make mistakes.

im in a similar situation right now...just that ive liked him for over a year and we just split up after a six month relationship. we spilt coz of many things...i still love him and i guess he does too.. but we just cant be together..not now atleast..about the connection part..i feel a major connection with him, hes probably understands me more than i get myself. its sad but inspite of it all we cant be together..
anyway, im sorry im going on about my problem!
i think u should just talk to him and tell him ur really sorry and u love him.
straight and simple, maybe he'll understand.
or u could write him a poem explaining it all.

Thanks so much guys!! You guys have given me so much hope..well at least some to keep my heart from fully breaking. Thank you so much. LOts of love,
Chrissie