Out of the Closet (Gay 7 Lesbian Discussion)

Who has and hasn't come out of the closet to their parents? (I have, in case you are wondering.) If you need help doing so, just email me. I want to know who has and hasn't come out and why... just a little survey i am doing to see if the majority of children fear their parents opinion or their reaction, and which one is the more popular reason for the refrain of coming out. :)

~Stephen White

(I'll sleep with anything that walks and says 'yes', lol),

^^^
Oh. Dear. God. Shoot her now.

Anyways.

I [haven't] come out to my parents yet. I'm pretty sure my mother suspects, but I just can't bring myself to tell them. I fear they'll reject me and kick me out of my house . . . I'm not complaining, but when I move out [in a year] I'll tell them . . . With my girlfriend by my side.
My girlfriend and I have been together for 1 year and 11 months tomorrow . . . Almost 2 years . . .I'm so excited. =]
Anyways . . . thank you for this post.
It is just good to know I'm not alone . . . 'coming out' is hard . . . Anyways . .

Love,
xTheEcstasyOfSuicidex

My friend was scared to tell her parents.
Didn't know what they would do.
But they know now and are supportive of her.
And her parents are really strict.

I'm bi...and only my mom knows..sadly. But I didn't tell her...of course not...she found out by going through my journal. Dad doesn't know though..he'd be heart broken. The only people I know that really support me are my friends, and honestly I don't really care who knows.

I came outta the closest to my parents when I was thirteen years old... I was scared as I don't know what... They were always talking bad about gay people... I got shocked and supprised... When I told my parents, my mom said, "well, at least I don't have to worry about you getting pregnant"

Lol ^ funny story. Im not gay or bi or anything but i think you have an interesting topic here. Not many people feel that they are up to 'coming out' as they are scared of rejection. If youre parents love you they will repect the choices you make in life. This is a modern society and people are adjusting to change. Maybe its time everybody did :D

ps i love my gay mates they rule the worlddddddddd lol :D rock on gay people

xxx alex xxx

I think it's extremely hard for people to tell their parents anything, especially if they never had a close bond to begin with. I'm not gay or bi either, but if I were to tell my parents, I think they would be ok with it, because we have a close relationship, but I notice some of my friends have difficulty telling them certain things. I usually tell my parents when I have a new girlfriend, or when I meet new people, I like to let them know what's going on in my life, so they trust me more. I find if you keep secrets from your parents, you just make it harder on yourself, because they trust you less.

My dad's side of the family didn't accept me being a lesbian at first, but a couple years went by, and now they don't care... They have even met a past girlfriend of mine and seen us holding hands and flirting with each other... They got over it... I think everyone has the right to be theirselves

I'm les, I told my mum and she accepted me, it was hard and I cried a lot, but with my dad, he knows, but he refuses to accept or support it in any way and refuses to accept any girl who I date as part of my life in that way. I write poems about that kind of stuff, but the book I wrote filled with those poems is currently being looked at by my school's social worker.

I think my parents just see it as in mum's case "as long as you're happy" in dad's case "least there won't be any teen pregnancies with this one, or any grandchildren for that matter." to me, I know my girlfriend wants kids, but she knows I'm not ready yet and I won't be for a long time. I wrote two poems about my girlfriend, Second Chance, and Kaia'a Vow. they're my best, and I hope someday she'll read them. I know I'm rambling, but one thing needs to be said, even if nobody accepts you for who you are, you have to be yourself otherwise you'll go mad with the built up emotions. I nearly did, but I'm glad I came out finally.

Well I had my dad's side of the family even pick fights with me over this... I didn't care.. I did what I wanted.... They eventually got over it.... They had no choice but to accept it....My mom's side didn't care because half of my mom's side of the family is either bi or les

Wow, that's rough. I haven't told anybody outside of my immediate family which is only my parents and myself, and if they found out, they'd probably drop dead of a heart attack. I was adopted, and I still think they'd kick me out, but as long as I have Ashley-onna I can accept myself.

I have seven poems out of thirty I wrote that don't have any votes.. Please check them out and give me your honest vote and comments on them...I would highly appreciate this...thanks...

I'm preparing to tell my birthmum that I'm les, I'm terrified that she won't accept me at all anymore, because She gave me up once already, I don't want to go through that again.

A GF on another site was outed to her family and friends at school by her ex, she went through hell and back

I am bi and I came out to my mom about three months ago. I thought she was gonna kill me! I said, "Mom I need to talk to you." and she got all worried that it was something bad and that i was in trouble and she told me to just say it... at first it didnt go over well... she told me "no you're not, shut up!" then about five minutes later we talked and we (I) cried because she was so mean about it!

I dont want to tell my dad yet... he said he would prefer for me to be a lesbian (he doesnt want me getting pregnant) but if I tell him then he might get a little too overprotective and never let my friends come over again! GAH!

I'm not bi or gay, but I have a lot of friends that are bi and one that is gay. It doesn't bother me but I know my one friend who is gay had problems when it came to telling people. Few people who know him knows that and his mom didn't support him at all.

:D I'm gay. lala. And I could careless what people say about me. Me and my dad got into a big fight when I told him. You would have thought he would have known from the hair and the makeup....O_o But I guess not lol. But yeah yeah Fun :D

I was just wondering. For people that told their parents or figured out that they were either bi, gay or lesbian at an age like 12 or 13, how did you know for sure that you were? I mean, I know people develop at different times, but is that not a bit young.. I don't know, maybe for you it wasn't but for me. I wouldn't be so sure even now and I'm almost 15. So I just was wondering how you were so certain of it that you made the decision to tell your parents?

^^ Jess,

I think sometimes it's personal choice. Plus at the age of 12 or 13, that's sort of the time when you start having crushes. A little bit mature, but not quite, you sort of figure it out for yourself. I'm sure most people are a still a bit confused at that age, but the only way they can know, is to try.

For me, I always knew I liked girls. Shit happened with a lot of them, and it turned me away from them for a bit. I contemplated guys, but I realized... I could never physically be with a guy. We could have those deep understandings, but that's it.

I mean I act all flirty with my guy friends, and we hug each other and pretend to do stuff. But that's where the line is drawn... for me. Lol

Jess... I've known I was bi since fifth grade, but i kept trying to push it back (I was only ten.) I kinda figured, its not normal to like other girls (I had a crush on my best friend.) Then after a while i realized whats not normal for some people IS normal for me, and I went with it! I've had girlfriends and boyfriends, and trust me, I definitely KNOW I'm bi.

^ Haha, well that's good then. =]

I was just thinking that it would be terrible if you went through all the stress and greif of telling your parents/friends/relatives and then you found out that you actually weren't and that you had gone through all that for no reason. But I guess some people do develop earlier and therefore they can probably know quicker. Anyway, jsut wanted to ask. =]

^^ it was a good question, and you asked it in a way that would not offend people. (there was no way i could take that wrong). Besides, I'm sure most people, unless they were SUPER brave, wouldnt tell their parents until they were absotively sure. i didnt!

I'm not out to my family but I am to most of my friends and of course to my gf! My mom really in a way has to support me because she is bi and my dad was gay so...>> anyways its just who I am with that would bring everything crashing down! So I stay in my little closet until I am ready!