Im in deep doo doo :(

k this is going to sound like an episode of laguna beach maybe even the full season on dvd but bare with me because I've somehow found myself caught up in this mess.

I really like this girl but she has a boyfriend. We met at a party which her boyfriend was at and apparenly I got her in trouble because he thought she liked me. I talked to her about it at school the following week and we both just laughed it off. There was no real indication she liked me. Two weeks later im having a party and apparently shes now single and wants to "get with me" so we end up fooling around and she puts on the breaks before things get to going all the way. Two minutes after that shes on the phone with her supposed ex boyfriend saying things like "well u always cheat on me" and she leaves the party on the phone with him without saying goodbye. After this, I dont see her at school or anywhere for that matter until another party my buddy throws weeks later. I find out her and her boyfriend are back together, as if they were never apart.

Now heres where things get complicated.

New years eve, im out drinkin (I know im an alcoholic but Im working on it) I find myself waiting outside this house party that is packed, through the window I notice this girl I like standing there waving at me... I start to wave back just as the curtains are pulled over by none other then her boyfriend who catches us both in the act. it was awesome. I finally get inside only to be notified the parties over, on the way back out the door she tells me to call her and is giving me her number... while her boyfriend is right there lol. I ended up just walking out the door mid conversation to let her and her boyfriend deal with things. I never called her, because I didnt like playing her boyfriend while her boyfriend wasn't around role. We bump into eachother at one last party and me and her boyfriend almost get in a tilt, the next day she adds me on msn. We talk and she says she likes me but doesnt want to break up with her boyfriend for no reason... and I was cool with that. All of the sudden one day shes comes online and says there not going out anymore, so im pumped. I wait a few days maybe even a week or so and muster up the courage to ask this mind games master to hang out. We hang out and shit goes... great I guess. She seemed to have a good time, but when i speak to her a few days later on msn I asked her where she wanted us to go. She says she just got out of a relationship and doesnt really want to get back into that... and that she just wants to be friends. yep... after all that. But wait... unfortunitely theres more.

What comes next is pretty much the conclusion to this horror story.

Its my birthday and Im having a bday party... guess who shows up? Her, the girl I like so much. She ignored me the whole night, or the parts I can remember anyways and I wake up the next morning hearing stories of how she left my house yelling at me... and how we argued all night. However one of the memories I do have is her boyfriend showing up to wish me a happy bday. how thoughtful. I call her to find out whats up. no answer. I write her an email because I figure she has me blocked on msn... an email just to appologize. No response. So I do the only logical thing I could, I get drunk in an attempt to retrace my steps from the night before. I find myself at the bar with some buddies... definitely not where I was the night before... but hey at least im drunk lol. I get there and my ex girlfriend of months is all grabbing on my junk and shit... so being single and lonely... so very lonely I take her home with me. On the way home I call my friends to see whats going on cause they usualy crash on the couches at my place. They're eating at a restaurant not far away, feeling alittle hungry myself we decide to grab a bite first before home. Well I show up and I guess my buddies forgot to mention that the girl I like... and apparently got in a fight with last night is there... sitting at the table with them. Yeah awkward. I get outta there asap without even eatting and leave with the girl I was in middle of taking home from the bar. Thinking ok, if I didnt screw it up last night I screwed it up tonight for sure. So the next day, I hop on msn and start talking to the girl who might not have a boyfriend that I like. It didnt go well. She starts saying things like maybe u should tell ur girlfriend ur scammin off other girls and I didnt think u were like that. This is the same girl whos been on and off with her boyfriend the whole time we've known eachother, she never said she liked me once, didnt kiss me or call me ever and now she's accusing me of scamming off her. When we fooled around I was drunk, she wasnt... and she got on the phone with her boyfriend right after. She said she will always care about me and that we can still be friends but not to talk about the time we were seeing eachother. Im like what the dilio? we were seeing eachother... why didnt i get the memo. Then she tells me shes going back out with her boyfriend... after she acuses me of being with one girl one night and a different girl the next. She claims we were "together" the night before which there is no evidence of... condems still in my wallet.

Girls am I a lowlife scoundral? Guys do I owe my friends who lured me into the den with the lions a big kick in the dink? And what should I do...? The girl I took home from the bar really wants to be with me... but I dont like her in that way anymore and the girl I like is going back out with her boyfriend and making me feel like this is all my fault. Is it? I tried to tell her that I was single and only with the other girl because I didnt know she wanted to be with me :S. didnt work.

Thanks for listening to all thses shenanigans folks, any advice is appreciated. Heck feel free to bash me for getting myself in this mess i dont care... i just need some input.

man o man, you got some major problems to work through, like hitting on taken girls, no your not a low life but its not such a good idea, and yea i'd kick the guys for it, got to have fun some how,
nessa

Thanks for the responses people. But the first time I met her I had no idea she was taken or even that I was hitting on her and she just laughed it off at school. The shenanigans started when she supposedly dumped him and made out with me at my party... and then when she began telling me to call her and things. Which I didnt. she then added me on msn... and yeah thats how I got into this mess. She apparently left her boyfriend, wanted to be with me... so we hung out once... I didnt make any moves and after that she said she didnt want a relationship and and she just wanted to be friends. I told her I could be that. So then the second she sees me with another girl she gets all ansty in her panties and goes back out with her boyfriend. I was never hitting on her when she had a boyfriend... only the first time maybe when I didnt know she was taken. All I was doing was playing the same games she was. Is that so wrong? I still like her, even though I know shes trouble... but I guess I'll have to work on that along with my drinking, should I continue to be friends with her? Because I think I might end up in the exact same spot.

No actually, there aren't any available girls. You see girls, especially the pretty ones get whatever they want and if they don't they settle for what they have. Take this girl I like for example, she wants me but the second she thought I was with someone else she went back out with her boyfriend. She said she didn't have those feelings for him anymore. Not once did she ask whether or not I was single, she just assumed, just like she assuming I'm now taken. All she had to do was say that she wanted to be with me once... and none of this would have happened.

Wow... that's quite the soap opera you've got going on. Ok, my advice.. ditch both the girls, quit drinking, look harder for avaliable girls, because YES! They are out there, and most importantly, next time, ask if she's taken first, that would have headed off all your problems. Hope this helped
Much Love,
.:Danielle:.

i agree with her ^

find someone whos single, theres a million people out there.

I agree with ^^^^ theres many many fish in the sea....just gotta make the rite catch!

Girls am I a lowlife scoundral?

Pretty much, yeah.

Stop drinking and partying, unless you can handle it. Which you can't. Time to be responsible, don't you think? Don't mess with either of those girls, you're just asking for trouble. Find a girl who is unattached.

LOL Alright thanks for the responses so far, much appreciated.

But allow me to reiterate and give yall a little update.

The Reiteration:

To the chicks who think im some heart breaking player, in my defense the only time I ever hit on the girl with the boyfriend was when I was drunk and unaware he even existed while he stood right there and watched haha. After that we had no contact other then at school where she made it clear to me she was infact involved with this dude. I appologized, asked who he was and that was a wrap. She broke up with him, told her friends she wanted to get with me, told me herself she was single... fooled around with me and then two minutes later hopped on the phone with him.

So really who's the one scamming here?

Her boyfriend locks her in the bathroom at parties and abuses her to the point where she has to scream for an outsider to open the door because he won't let her out. So needless to say I don't respect the guy to much and thats why things almost escalated to mortal kombat.

After they started dating again she was the one giving me her number and telling me to call her. Which I never did, I didnt even bother to remember the digits. Weeks later she added me on msn, broke up with her boyfriend and we hung out while I was SOBER. After this she said she just wanted to be friends, but apparently assumed we were seeing eachother. She comes to my bday party, doesnt pay any attention to me and her exboyfriend shows up not long after. Im fairly sure she left with him. So I go to the bar the next night and hook up with this other girl who I sort of have a history with, after this we head to the restaurant where the shit as it were hit the fan as it was. Let me just say that the girl I wanted to be with was already at the restaurant eatting with some dude before anyone else even show'd up, so by her own rules wouldn't that count as seeing that guy?

Then she pulls the I didnt think you were like that and your scamming off other girls card and notifies me that we were "seeing" eachother. Saying she will always care about me but she just looks at me differently now and all those girly shenanigans. Heres the real kicker though she also says shes going back out with her boyfriend, the guy she didnt have feelings for anymore.

So to sum everything up, she's saying Im a scammer who goes from one girl one night to another the next, when Im single... while apparently we were seeing eachother the night before but is now going back out with her boyfriend.

Does this not seem hypocritical to anyone else?

Now I realize I am an idiot. I realize my IQ drops even lower when I'm drunk, these are all things I've come to terms with... but had she ever said she wanted to "see" me again after the first time and that we were anything more then friends I'd have never been with the other girl. After we had that conversation I assumed she was going to go back out with her boyfriend like she'd done so many times before. Not once did she ask if I was involed with anyone else or give me any hint that she wanted to be withme... not that I picked up on.

Girls one last question... Am I just borderline retarded and completely missed all the signals? Or were these mind games?

She said she still wants to be friends and I said that isn't a good if she really cares about her relationship. She was pissed, lost it and pulled hero claiming she was so over me... LOL.

The Update:

I show up at a social the next weekend and she apparently has completely changed her mind and is trying to be all nice to me... It was super awkward. Her boyfriend wasnt there but I know if he was she would have been in the bathroom getting in trouble for even looking my way. While the nights winding down and Im on my way out the door she comes up to me and starts up some random conversation, I tell her I have to go and she just walks away LOL. No goodbye again.

So to those who think ditching both the girls and finding someone else is the best idea you'll be happy to know that's pretty much exactly what I've done. The girl who came home from the bar with me, was hurt when she learned I fooled around with this other girl but still wanted to be with me... I told her we could only be friends and she said she cares about me to much to do that and so we havent spoken since. I miss hanging out with her... but yeah I guess thats her choice. As for miss popularity, she honestly is the hottest girl in highschool... im pretty sure she dumped her boyfriend again lol and is seeing someone else, we havent spoke since the night at the social.

And as for me, the mack daddy player pimp lol, Im happy to say my days of wheeling girls are numbered, though I really liked the one... and I truly care about the other as a friend I'm better off alone. Since this whole charade I've quit weed and cut back on the boozing. This upcoming weekend will be the first in... over a year that I havent been wasted at least 2 days of the week and Im going to try to stay sober for as long as possible.

Thanks for all the advice peeps :D wish me luck on my sober vacation.

I'd stay away from her if I were you. She sounds like trouble and it seems as if you have enough problems to deal with right now.

I'm glad your going to stay sober and not drugged up and DEFINTELY stay away from that one girl. I'm glad you've decided to "turn your life around" so to speak.

"Girls one last question... Am I just borderline retarded and completely missed all the signals? Or were these mind games?"

Ummm MIND GAMES!!!! Like huge, she was playing you like a fiddle, sorry to tell ya!

I wish you tons of luck on your "sober vacation" lol
Much Love,
.:Danielle:.