Do you believe in online love?

  • SomewhereAmongThePieces
    17 years ago

    This might be so confusing... well, it is confusing but I'm going to try and make sense out of my problem.
    I know I told you about Chris and I was sure we would go out but there were problems and I decided I couldn't wait around for him.
    One night a few weeks ago I was really bored and I went on a Christian chatroom. I wasn't looking for a relationship... I just wanted to talk to people. But I met Darren and we instantly clicked! We made great friends because we had so much in common and we were so interested in each other's differences... it just worked!
    I knew he liked me as more then a friend and I waited a while to admit I liked him as more then a friend. But then a few nights ago I told him I was falling in love with him and I agreed to be his girlfriend.
    Now he has gone crazy I mean... he's told his entire family about me (including his Nanny) he told me he talks about me non-stop at work and he sent a mass e-mail to all his friends with my picture and a profession of his undying love. Now he is making plans to move closer to me (he lives 10 hours away).
    My parents barely know of him!!
    Don't get me wrong... I'm crazy about him!! We've talked on the phone from evening till morning and morning till evening. Technically he's done nothing wrong but I'm mostly worried about him moving here because I can't guarentee I won't get bored of him and I don't know... dump him! Then what?? In a matter of weeks I've become his whole world!
    What have I done?? What's going on?? HELP!

  • tears i cry
    17 years ago

    well first of all calm down im in an online relation ship and its great when he turns 18-19 hes moving here
    and i know we can make it becaus i feel deeply for him and i need to have him in my life he was my bestfriend before we went out and tht might have made things a bit easier apart from me goin out with his 'brother' and a friend i of ours getting angry
    i love him and i always will
    i love you josh

    xx katiexx

  • silvershoes
    17 years ago

    Sounds like you've got yourself in a pickle.

  • kori
    17 years ago

    I would just tell him that he shouldn't move just yet, that you two should meet first or get to know each other better on the computer. In my opinion, by what I just read, he sounds like a psycho to me.

    Because by him just wanting to move and him OBSESSING over you, it's definetly not normal.

  • silence
    17 years ago

    I agree with kori to an extent. I would deffinatly tell him to wait awhile. Meet in person. Spend actual time together and see what happens. Yes you click over the internet and the phone but will you in person (not trying to shoot down your happiness or anything) but i've been through it before. we were together for a little over a year and then met in person and completly fell apart. Just be careful and let us know how it goes.

  • Fluffy
    17 years ago

    It could happen. I dunno.

  • The Lonely Rose
    17 years ago

    wow hes obessive.....but just talk to him bout it..i mean just say tht mayb we should lik get to know each other more b4 movin over where u r...but u got urself in big doodoo

  • ChaoticallyMe
    17 years ago

    I think he falls too easily and I see him falling apart easily too. You need a man that's a little more stable than that. It's great that you get along, but it's too impulsive of him to tell every body around him and have his world revolve around you in a matter of a few weeks (online?!)...that, to me, sounds like a possible prelude to a big disappointment...and it places more stress on you - now that you have to be the core of his universe...from what you said near the end there...it doesn't sound like you're ready for that kind of dedication just yet.

  • silvershoes
    17 years ago

    To an extent, but love is so much deeper in person. Online love is a bit of a joke, but who am I to judge?

    ...And yeah, that guy sounds like a real winner!