I can't trust anyone, anymore.

I've tried so hard to make friends, I'm shy so it takes awhile.
My first friend the one I considered to be my best friend turned on me. I told her past secrets, my hurtful past. I thought I could trust her. Instead she told everyone she knew(and thats a lot of people).
After that it took me ages to build up a trusting friendship. A few years. I managed to make 2 friends one I trusted the other I didn't. One has simply drifted away from me and the other lied.
My latest attempt at making a friend. I've known this person for years but never got close. Suddenly she starts trusting me telling me her pain. Then some of my stuff go missing and coincidently she had the same stuff only without the original boxes/packaging.
Now I've given up trying to trust people. I've gone to counciling, One counciler forgot what I told her. And another made me feel worse.
Can't trust my parents my stepdad tells my mom everything and I'm just unable to talk to my mom(she's very emotional)
In my old school people thought I was a freak because I was shy. In my knew school, the people are much kinder but I'm just so sick of being hurt by people that I don't want to get close to anyone, not yet anyways.

Thanks to anyone who's had the patience to read all this and I hope you've had better luck.

dont give up on trusting people, take time to think about it, you have to trust people, the counceler, you trusted them, your doctor, your teachers and all of us that read this, you trusted us enough to share this, trust is a big thing in todays world, and not alot of people deserve it,
nessa

Its the same way wit me, being shy and losing trust in a lot of people. I lost so much trust in so much people, I can now confide wit no one but myself. I tell no body of my deep feelings and thoughts.

It will be like that until I find a true friend 2 trust. I think u will find the person u can trust. But put them on the test first, if u feel they are trustworthy then go ahead and trust them, but alwayz keep in mind that u can not tell everything, like stuff u feel u will affect u if it gotten out.
Wishing u the best
Your friend,
Diana

Hi Nobody,

first of all I wanted to say I appreciate you as a person. Second, I want to say that of course you can't trust anyone, that's kid's play! I have many friends, many good friends, and many best friends, yet I trust none of them and tell none of them anything! That's the way it works. Telling people secret stuff is suicide at our age, simple as that, and I doubt it gets better with age. Once you agree that friendship is not dependant on such intimate trust (very unidealistic i know) you will develop friendships, trust me. And you know what, some, if not a lot of these will turn into truly trusting relationships. You just need to give it time and not expect trust to come.

Make friends and forget trust is my opinion. Nobody is trustworthy, the human race sucks.

dont say that u are nobody, u are definately some body; special and unique in ur own way . dont let no body put u down, dont allow them to hurt u and make u feel all sad. if someone loves u and says good things about u then say "thank you" and if they hate u and say bad things about u, it only means that they jealous and they got no life. and even to them u are special cuz they takin time out of their busy life jus to talk about u. so if they say they hate u, say " fu** you" and put their words behind, stick it in the trash cuz they jus hattin.--- oh wait how old are u, ur profile dont say, woops really if ur underage...then dont swear. i dont want to be bad influence.
anyway u get wat i mean?

As I have found out friendships throughout life are like putting together a puzzle. To find the right pieces you need to test all kinds of pieces that just wont fit. Sometimes you find the piece you need right away and sometimes it takes a long time. You dont want to give up on this puzzle because it is the greatest gift you could get once it is finished. Keep your head up and keep putting pieces together. You will find one that fits.

i know you feel about not ng able to trust someone. but i have finally found two people that i can talk to about anything. make sure that they will tell you deep secrets before you say anything to deep. For a good test to see if someone is trust worthy...tell that person some ninor things about you and if they get spread around then you know that that person is deff. not trustworth. it is so hard to find friends that you can trust with all your personal info. thats why i find it easier to talk to people on the internet that i don't know. you can always talk to me about anything

xoxo becca

i know how u feel i just went through someone lik tht and now its hard to trust...dont give up...its hard for me as much as u so keep on trying..

Much of what you said has happened to me. I trust no one, and it is sickening at times, but as Nuovo said, that seems to be the way of human beings. Trust should not be expected. Expect little from others, and you will usually be pleasantly surprised with who and what you find. It really is sad how so many people are willing to toss trust aside like it means nothing. Like reading someone else's diary. I could never do that, but I have witnessed first hand, "friends" do it to eachother. How pathetic.

Do not build friendships on trust. Trust may come later.

Thanks everyone, it was nice to read your replies. (I actually wasn't expecting any)
I suppose I'll just have to give it time, and try not to expect much from people.

i am kinda in the opposite case, but still the same situation. i just moved from AZ to VA and a lot of people at my new school already hate me. i am
NOT shy,rather, i am a social butterfly. i still dont trust any of my new friends except for one girl. i have told her everything i know that is bad that has happened to me and "somehow she has gone throught the SAME EXACT THINGS." i know that she is a COMPLETE liar, but she is the only one that will listen to me without telling other people about my life. so, i just have to accept it for what it is. hopefully, i will find a trustworthy, true, honest, and loyal friend. maybe im asking too much, but whatever, and good luck with you trying to find a true friend also.

hun.
i know exactly how you feel.
i'm seriously shy.
k. i use to have this friend. four years. we knew each other for 9. and, we were unseperable. i mean, the perfect friendship. then one day.. she just quit talking to me. broke my heart.
second friend. well, she became vindictive and quite immature. she told me she would 'like to kill me' and so on.
so, mom moved us to another town, because mom and dad divorced. knew schoool. people, much nicer. more kind. very nice. but i just couldn't stand it, because i didn't want to trust them.
well, i decided to start TRECA, here in ohio that's an online schooling system. quite fun actually.
but takes away from your social life.
& well.
i've come to realize, that no matter how hard i try not to trust someone, i need someone there for me. i will trust someone eventually. so why not have someone there for me sooner than later? someone i can rely on now,and not later. someone that i can actually hang with, and tell my secrets too. even if they get out. big deal. i took the chance of having the most incredible friendship of my life.

hun, you need to just go with the flow.
don't try to find someone.
and, dont try not to.
just let life run it's course.
someone will come around, who will be there no matter what.

i hope you feel better.

I feel your pain. Friends are suppose to protect you and you protect them ....but it seems like those friends don't exist anymore. Just be careful...you never know that someone you don't trust, isn't the one person that will take your secrets to the grave.

Ya I feel for u I no wat ur goin through but since u r in a new skool I think its time for u to open up a new page wit ppl meaning trust those who u feel comfortable around

Hope everything turns out great for u

Before I joined this website, I never trusted period. Now,
I open up a little, but keeping people at a distance in reality as a whole.

People think i'm shy so they mock me, trip me, push me around in the hallways, but i'm not. i just don't have many friends. some of my past friends have lied and betrayed me. i don't really know what to tell you. my mom used to send me to a counselour for anger management and issues with making friends. i really hated it. i wouldn't tell them anything so it didnt help. i just have trouble opening up, breaking down my walls.

I just read my original post, and boy (or girl), I was being negative. I think it's good to trust others, use your better judgement of course, but not everyone will throw your trust on the ground like garbage. The people who do, are not worth knowing. If someone betrays you, know that you were the better person, no matter what secrets got out or what not...you were the better person. Untrustworthiness is a terrible trait.

Hmm... all i can say to u... people are differents so just keep meeting new friends we dont know someday u've find the right and true friends of ur life..dont stop and don't give up that is only one of ur obstacle that GOD's given to u,,, its not hard to find a friend but i believe its really hard to find a true friend.. so if u have got some friends u must also know how to turst them... u know, most important u've been a real person to ur friends and dont be feel so down and never give up! time may come to u and hopefully and eventually u will find a real friend.....

Hi nobody,
ive been through the same thing...especially atm im beginning to feel that i cant trust any1 cause they just hurt me so badly
i was thinking the same thing as u, just to not let anyone in nd not trust any1 but thats not the way to go...u gotta let people in nd even though its so hard u have to trust people otherwise u'll be alone, nd in a way being alone is the most painful thing
gud luck, if u need to talk im here
luv fallen xoxo

Your own company can work sometimes. But then other times you can get lonely and that just plain sucks :(

Oh man...first of all trust. That word is so complicated. I guess i've found one friend that i completely trust,well 2 actually sometimes. But your not alone. Believe me im shy to. and this one kid even though he was joking told me i was crazy and it hurt. I'm sorry i'm just babbling now..You just have to find someone that you can learn to trust. Trust doesnt come easily it comes over time..if you ever want to just talk pm me
~Elizabeth

I don't know what to say... I don't trust people at all. Part of me is unsure why (although I know it stems from my childhood) and part of me knows it's from being taken advantage of, misled, hurt, emotionally abused, and all that.

I have people that I can talk to but I don't and I feel like I can't tell them the things that I know I should because I don't want them to think I'm crazy. That's why I'm glad I found this website... it's easier this way.

For the most part I don't open up to people. I just stay back and observe. occasionally i'll tell something little but nothing big.

What I would do if i were you is take is slow. Don't put too much faith in people but at the same time don't withdraw completely. I wouldn't give up just yet. I was about to give up a long time ago but if you wait for a while or even a year to get to know a person before you share personal details you might find there is a person out there you can really trust.

If this makes you feel ANY better: I know how you feel!! I'm one of the invisible ones. I am slightly luckier, I have a boyfriend whom I love with all my heart and a couple of good friends. But even in my friends I can only trust one or two. I have serious trust issues, which comes from being lied to. I think I could handle being beaten more readily than being lied to by someone whom I thought I could trust. I've been made to believe so many false truths...It's really hard. Trust is one thing that can't be rebuilt easily, if at all. I still mistrust the people I shouldn't. I go to a school that is best known for the way students are treated by their peers...horribly. It's impossible to go a full day without being made fun of...for me at least. I'm horribly shy, so I won't talk to people, and then they think I'm snobby and then they are horrible to me. I don't make the first move when it comes to people...I think that if they don't talk to me first, then that means they don't want me around. If I told my parents how I feel sometimes, my mom would cry and then they'd wonder what they did wrong.

Even though you have had the worst of luck so far with people, there really are other peeople out there that are worth holding out for. I'm not just saying that to try and make you feel better (well I am, but I mean it). I've been ready to give up so many times...but then finally that one person comes along who makes all the difference. There's someone, I promise. Good luck, I hope things start looking up.

Message me if you need to talk. And I'm not saying you have to automatically trust me because I know you won't, I'm just saying you can. :)

Just because some people hurt others does not mean everyone will. Why spend your whole entire life, which isn't very long, holding people away because of what previous aquiantinces have done to you?